Is This A Red Flag For A Psycho Parent?

[Sprouts]

Today while we're eating lunch someone knocks on my door. I open the door and it's a lady with a baby saying she is looking for care, she also says sorry I just noticed the sign that says "by appt only". I give her my card and tell her to call me in about an hour. Exactly an hour later my phone rings, I can't pick up, it stops, then rings again, it stops, then rings again...i figured it was her but by now I was waiting for a voicemail....she calls 13 times in a row! My husband says just pick up and tell her you have other children here, I was ready to tell her off....I picked up nicely and said "sorry I have children here, it's hard fr me to come to the phone, but i saw that you called quite a few times, I will call you back later when I am free" she tells me there is another number to call her at, "okay so call back and leave it on my voicemail. Thank you! " click

WHAT A FREAKEN PSYCHO STALKER!

[Sugar Magnolia]

I'm thinking...."I need care tomorrow morning because I was just booted from my previous daycare" Probably for psychotic behavior.

[cheerfuldom]

yeah thats not a good sign. I am always wary of parents needing care right away (although there are legitimate reasons why this could happen) but to call 13 times in a row and not leave a voicemail?? That screams " what I need is more important than anything you are doing so listen to me"....not a good sign

[countrymom]

I'm thinking...."I need care tomorrow morning because I was just booted from my previous daycare" Probably for psychotic behavior.

yup I agree totally.

[lovemykidstoo]

I have had people come to my door before saying that they've seen me out with the kids and were looking for care. I've actually had 2 families from my neighborhood that I didn't know before become great friends and customers. However, if she called you that many times, that is a bit scary! I would interview with her just to see what the story is for entertainment LOL!

[Michelle]

definitely weird, but next time just ask her to call after business hours instead of one hour. kwim?

[crazydaycarelady]

Yeah, I think anyone who calls 13 times consecutively has a screw loose.

[familyschoolcare]

Maybe she has a social disorder. That is so something my step son would do not realizing that it would make others uncomfortable.

[SunnyDay]

Yeah, I think anyone who calls 13 times consecutively has a screw loose.

My thoughts exactly!

[Sprouts]

Lol you ladies are funny....

I called her back, she needs care starting next week supposedly he hasn't been in child care before. When I told her my hours, she said "yeah I noticed that" regarding the time I close....soooooo does that mean she watches me?! Anyway I don't have space for an infant, I said I will put her on my "waiting list" ....even if she has a social disorder, the fact she called so many times shows how inconsiderate and selfish she will probably be...I need the money but not bad enough to deal with so much stress! ahhh people.....

[countrymom]

Lol you ladies are funny....

I called her back, she needs care starting next week supposedly he hasn't been in child care before. When I told her my hours, she said "yeah I noticed that" regarding the time I close....soooooo does that mean she watches me?! Anyway I don't have space for an infant, I said I will put her on my "waiting list" ....even if she has a social disorder, the fact she called so many times shows how inconsiderate and selfish she will probably be...I need the money but not bad enough to deal with so much stress! ahhh people.....

the minute she said "ya I noticed that" in providers terms it means, that she wants special.

[Sugar Magnolia]

the minute she said "ya I noticed that" in providers terms it means, that she wants special.

Exactly this. Totally seeking special. Ringing the phone 13 times: "me me me me now now now" in-your-face special.

[DaisyMamma]

Yep, thinks she doesn't have to follow rules. Say goodbye.

[Kaddidle Care]

OK I have to tell you about one of my closest, best friends. She is OCD, has anxiety and depression problems and if you don't answer the phone and she knows you are there, she will call over and over. If you still don't answer she thinks you are mad at her which causes her to become more anxious and creates more phone calls.

She is a wonderful person that would give you the shirt off her back in a pinch so things like this really doesn't bother me any more.

If I can't chat I usually quickly pick up and tell her what I'm doing and that I'll call her back when I'm available. It always does the trick.

Unfortunately she lost a friend because of the repetetive phone calling and the "friend" told her to stop "stalking" her.

This gal might be a bit of a whacky cracker but she may just be really anxious about leaving her child with someone else. Go with your gut. If you don't feel you can deal with a person like this tell her you don't have an opening.

[MyAngels]

When I told her my hours, she said "yeah I noticed that" regarding the time I close....soooooo does that mean she watches me?!

Did she ever say how she came to realize you had a daycare? I know my CCRRN gives out a sheet with my open and close times when they refer me to a parent.

I think this would make me uncomfortable, too, but it could be something like what Kaddidle said, and she can't help it.