Is There A Kid That You Just Don't Like?

[Bookworm]

In my last group, I had 4 kids like that. After they all left, I realized that it wasn't the kid that I didn't like. It was the parenting skills of all four sets of parents. The overly permissive, my child is extra special and can do no wrong parenting. Once I realized that, I changed the way I now see my kids. I just got a new group in August and I've noticed a difference in the way I interact with my "problem" kids.

[clep]

I had a child in my care that drove me nuts. I am confident she was on the spectrum and pushed for mom to have her assessed. Every time she was asked to do something, she would say "okayyyyyyyyyyyy" for a long period of time in a whiney, crying voice. It drove me nuts. Every time she would see her mom she would freak out, screaming and misbehaving. Mom would start to count from one to 30 with the child screaming "NO" at the top of her lungs after each number her mom said. Every drop off and every pick up. Now that she is gone our house is peaceful again.

She received the same care as every other child, the same kisses, hugs and tickles. I just had to force it with her and not the others.

[daycare]

I have to agree that there will be people we cross in our lives that we won't mesh well with. This is where our ability to be professional and respectful comes into play.

I agree that kids can tune into Our personalities towards them, when we treat them in a different way.

I have dcp who I can't stand but I am professional and I kill them with kindness because that is the right thing to do.

The parents or the kid has NO clue how I truly feel about them.
And I see nothing wrong with it.

[Blackcat31]

Here are two more threads about this same subject.

https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.php?tag=disliking+a+daycare+kid

[saved4always]

I haven't had a child who I did not like but I have had ones that have tried to drive me CRAZY!

[Meeko]

I had one little girl leave me last year after 5 years of care (from birth). I did the happy dance the moment I shut the door.......I usually cry like a baby when my little ones leave. She was a gorgeous baby...and then the parents split and spent every second trying to outdo each other and win their place as her favorite parent. She became a manipulative little monster.

This girl was Angelica from the "Rugrats" in the flesh. Spiteful, self-absorbed, rude, spoiled....the list goes on. So sad.

I recently saw them in town. Nothing has changed. The child showed me her latest toy and clothes. (Close your eyes and see Angelica doing this with attitude) She then announced that she hated school and that Mommy was going to move her to another one. The mom whispered to me that there had been "problems" in KG. No duh!!!! Of course the child is blameless and it's all the teachers fault for expecting too much of her....... Mom needs to open her eyes and see what they have created.

[Sprouts]

Yes

dcg, crazy mouthy, rude, disrespectful, lies constantly, mean (with words) to the other kids. It doesn't help that her parents think she hung the moon and everything out of her mouth is gold. Some of the choice phrases from today include:

"I can paint better than you"
"Miss ***** I know more stuff than you do!"
"I can sing better than this singer. This singer is bad." (it was a kids cd)
"I can do karate the best in the world and I don't even need lessons!"
"I am the most beautiful little girl ever, more pretty than other dcg."
"It's not fair I have to follow X, Y, Z rules, because I shouldn't have to!"

She gets the same EXACT treatment as every other kid in my care, it's just harder to smile and bear it while nicely giving her better words to use after 8+ hours of her. ::

Oh man, this sounds some what like my daughter, but I don't feed into it or tell her those things...i feel bad because when she acts likes this to other children I feel bad and try and lead her in the write direction...but it is a bit frustrating

[jokalima]

Can i ask why you are keeping a child in care that is hurting others?

Because usually he is always hurting his sibling and I've been trying to work w/mom on this. He did good for a while, but for the past 2 weeks he is going backwards and it's becoming really difficult for me to handle such a messy child. is like he does not understand rules or how to follow them.

[Jetsmama]

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I wouldn't say I have a child I can't stand. Although, I do have one that annoys me and can make my blood pressure rise. He's almost 5 and if another kids looks at him wrong he whines, and if he gets hit the whining can go on and on. And he also will lie and blame other children for his actions, not to mention he argues with me, which is my pet peeve. But, he can be the most sweet and loving child the next moment....go figure.

[My3cents]

I have kids that are very spirited, strong little personalities. Very loved by the parents. They think the world revolves around just them. There are things that I don't like about each of them, but I love my little group- all of them. I find that kids will go through phases of "behaviors" we don't like, but all in all there is a sense of innocence in children and they have so much learning going on in the first five years of their little lives. Kids adapt and they are capable of learning the rules from one place to another. Doesn't mean that they won't try to manipulate all of us.

[Mom&Provider]

In my last group, I had 4 kids like that. After they all left, I realized that it wasn't the kid that I didn't like. It was the parenting skills of all four sets of parents. The overly permissive, my child is extra special and can do no wrong parenting. Once I realized that, I changed the way I now see my kids. I just got a new group in August and I've noticed a difference in the way I interact with my "problem" kids.

I agree with this. I had one child, he moved and is no longer here, but there were days I just had enough and it always seemed to be this one child that was the issue. I thought long and hard about what the issues really were (I was considering letting him go), it's only then I realized it wasn't the child but the parents who I had the real issues with. The parents were the ones bringing him into care ill, late/early and always picking up late and telling me what he needed (i.e. don't forget a drink outside, my child drinks alot as you know etc.). But it made me feel disconnect with the child since I would become upset he had come ill, I was angry he was always the last child here etc.

For me it was easy, he was leaving anyway, but next time I will look at the real reasons for my upset with one specific child and try to work it out sooner!

[countrymom]

I have to agree that there will be people we cross in our lives that we won't mesh well with. This is where our ability to be professional and respectful comes into play.

I agree that kids can tune into Our personalities towards them, when we treat them in a different way.

I have dcp who I can't stand but I am professional and I kill them with kindness because that is the right thing to do.

The parents or the kid has NO clue how I truly feel about them.
And I see nothing wrong with it.

I agree with this. I also agree with the poster who said that in life we are always going to meet people or work with people that don't mesh with us, but we make it work, nobody says we have to like them we just have to tolerate them.

[cheerfuldom]

Yes

dcg, crazy mouthy, rude, disrespectful, lies constantly, mean (with words) to the other kids. It doesn't help that her parents think she hung the moon and everything out of her mouth is gold. Some of the choice phrases from today include:

"I can paint better than you"
"Miss ***** I know more stuff than you do!"
"I can sing better than this singer. This singer is bad." (it was a kids cd)
"I can do karate the best in the world and I don't even need lessons!"
"I am the most beautiful little girl ever, more pretty than other dcg."
"It's not fair I have to follow X, Y, Z rules, because I shouldn't have to!"

She gets the same EXACT treatment as every other kid in my care, it's just harder to smile and bear it while nicely giving her better words to use after 8+ hours of her. ::

she sounds like a very insecure little girl. I know the parents think they are doing the right thing in over praising her but clearly she is still looking for validation...thinking that what she does or how she looks determines who she is....thats sad

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Those that have not been a good fit we have termed. It made me dread work every single day that they were here. It wasn't healthy for them and it wasn't healthy for me.