Itching My Head!!

[daycare]

a few months back I made a few minor changes. Like changed out paper towels for cloth, and we now do our circle time outside, instead of inside.

Well I have a dck who is 4 and just cannot adapt to these changes. DCK is one of the oldest and is the only one that just cant get it. They have also been here for almost 9 months.

In fact, the child cannot do anything without me having to sit there and walk them through each and every step. I have tried to ignore it, but it will just keep going and going and going. Like when we are going to go outside, I have to tell the dck go get your shoes, sit down, put them on, line up, etc.etc.etc. NONE of the other kids do this and in fact, I have never had a kid do this.

is there any suggestions that anyone can give so that I can help this child learn to help themselves. It's not like I am asking them to do something that is above their developmental abilities.

[jojosmommy]

What do you do if he doesn't do these expectations?

Does this child just stand in the bathroom with wet hands forever.... or.....?

And what about at circle? What does this kid do.....?

I would leave him in the bathroom until he discovered the paper towels like everyone else (since you have offered months of reminders with no change) and I would start circle without the kid. I would do an awesome fun activity and that should speed up the ignorance is bliss act.

[daycare]

I should have explained better...

so lets say kid has to go to the bathroom (btw not PT)

child must be prompt to go or will not.
once there I have to tell them step by step what to do. If I don't, the kid will sit in the bathroom yelling my name over and over and over. It will drive everyone up the wall.

DCK does ok during circle time, basically is the loudest one there and talks non-stop, but loves the singing, dancing and stories, so the behavior is well.

as for the new cloth towels, the kid will
1. not wash hands and I have to tell them go back and wash your hands, then come out with wet hands if I don't tell them to dry them.
2. will stand in the bathroom yelling my name over and over until I tell them to do it.

Also, I have clean towels on the counter in a small reachable basket that is pink. There is a small brown basket on the ground for dirty towels, but this kid still can not figure out where to get the clean ones and where to put the dirty ones........ We have been doing this since march..........

[countrymom]

sounds to me that someone at home is doing everything for him and its easier to yell your name then to do it themselves. At 4 they should understand this. I would go in and tell the child that I won't answer them till they come out and tell me what the problem is. You need to hear it from the child what the problem is, don't let them yell your name.

[itlw8]

I don't think the child is doing it on purpose. You said it is not above his developmental level... well... it is not above where he should be at this age but it seems to be above HIS level.

I would suggest mom have him evaluated something is just not right. For now try giving one direction at a time. and practice it. Go into the bathrom pretend to wash and then grab a towel , dry and put in dirty basket Repetition is the key.and make it fun not a punishment.

write all this and other concerns from your observations down. It will be very helpful for the evaluation..They may even want to observe him in your program.

[daycare]

sounds to me that someone at home is doing everything for him and its easier to yell your name then to do it themselves. At 4 they should understand this. I would go in and tell the child that I won't answer them till they come out and tell me what the problem is. You need to hear it from the child what the problem is, don't let them yell your name.

this is exactly what I think is happening. AND being that I cant change what goes on at home, what else can I do here. I have tried to show the child a million times, I have asked them not to yell my name and I have tried ignoring it all togther. In the end, nothing works...

[youretooloud]

Try asking "What's next?....should you wash your hands?..OK" "Now what? How do you dry them?..OK....now where does the towel go?"

My daughter is a teacher, and lately, most of her students are incapable of self help anything. They can't even write a rough draft in fourth grade. If she helps them write it, they can't copy it to another paper.

Some kids are so plugged into video games that they have never learned how to participate in anything else.

Other kids need extra help to learn what should come easily to them because they have a learning disability, or are behind for some reason.

[daycare]

Try asking "What's next?....should you wash your hands?..OK" "Now what? How do you dry them?..OK....now where does the towel go?"

My daughter is a teacher, and lately, most of her students are incapable of self help anything. They can't even write a rough draft in fourth grade. If she helps them write it, they can't copy it to another paper.

Some kids are so plugged into video games that they have never learned how to participate in anything else.

Other kids need extra help to learn what should come easily to them because they have a learning disability, or are behind for some reason.

thats the thing...I have been doing the walk through hand holding through everything and I just can't keep doing it. It's with everything. shoes, toileting, free play, everything and anything we do. AND it's been going on for almost 9 months. Some have gotten better, but the ones that I listed in my other post are the ones that DCK just can't get no matter what I do.

[daycare]

also, let me add, that I do not feel that there is anything wrong with this child otherwise. the child is very smart, can read, write, tell great stories and plays well with the other children.

[daycare]

ahh no other advice on this... all of you are going to make me su::ffer......