Off Topic - Missing My Babies

[sahm2three]

I am consumed with sadness! My kids are all now in school full time. This is my baby's first year of full time school. I miss him so much that it physically hurts. I miss being a full time mommy. We are done having babies, so the full time mommy with kiddos at home is over for me. And my heart is broken. I miss my baby. So much. :*( I just don't know how to adjust. It is hurting my heart so much because my little guy is miserable too. He doesn't want to go, and says its too long and he misses me too much. I try to be strong for him, be excited for him. Then i leave the room and cry my eyes out. How do I do this?!?! All I ever wanted to do is be a mom, and it is the only thing I know that I am really good at!!! They are my world! No one in real life seems to understand what I am feeling. I feel like I am mourning, in a way.

[Sunchimes]

You are mourning, a stage of your life is over. I understand how you feel. But, somewhere in there I know you are really excited for him, it's just buried right now. He will adjust and be excited and you will find that you are excited for him and seeing the next stage. It hurts, but it will get better. I promise.

Remember when he suddenly went from being a little immovable baby to one that could move around? Remember how sad you were when he started becoming more independent? It's the same. Every tomorrow in his life will bring these feelings, from starting school, to getting a driver's license, going to college, marrying, having his own baby. Every stage has a sadness about what was left behind, but joy at what's coming up.

Sending virtual hugs and a shoulder to lean on until you adjust. Hmm, we don't seem to have a good icon for virtual hugs.

[JaydensMommy]

I know how you feel...

My son also just started full day kindergarten. I was a mess the first week. I loved having him at home and never have left him. I've always been home or worked where I could take him. It's hard to get used to but for me it makes it easier that he is happy and excited about school everyday. It would be hard if he didnt want to go. He did preschool last year three half days a week. It is very hard, but I know that he enjoys it and he is benifitting from it. I just try to make the most of our mornings and afternoons togeTher. And of course our weekends when it's just us, we always do fun things together. He is my only one so I live for him and just enjoy being there for him very moment I can, so not being there to make sure he is ok is soo hard. But I do know he is in good hands at his school.

[DaisyMamma]

I'm so sorry
((((((HUGS))))))

[Blackcat31]

Hey hun, count your blessings....I am mourning my kiddos being gone too....only mine are grown ups now and have flown the coop. My baby left last Fall and my house is empty quiet and lonely sometimes.

Be happy yours is still coming home at the end of the school day and you still get to tuck him in at night. I get to talk with my babies every other day....when they can find the time.

NOT trying to make light of your situation, just wanting you to see it CAN be worse.....

Plus, this is a good time for YOU to realize that they might be your whole world but you have to still find time to be you. You have to be something other than just a mom.

You are still a person who should have interests, thoughts, ideas and things that aren't child related that make you who you are..if you don't do that, when the kids DO leave home for good...this whole mourning thing will be much much worse than it is now.

((((hugs)))) though for feeling down. Celebrate the new stage in your child's life even though you mourn the end of this stage in yours.

[cheerfuldom]

Its a transition. I would bet that your son is feeling a lot more of your emotion and hesitation than you think he is. But besides that, it will be important for you to be able to accept this new stage in your life and his life. I would hate for you to miss out on the enjoyment of this time because of your other emotions. Try and look at the best parts of this new part of his life, instead of just longing for the baby days. Its hard for sure. Hopefully a little bit of time and positive thinking will make a big difference!

[Countrygal]

I was going to say something similar to BC's post. Mine have all gone off, the youngest a Sr in college this year (and far away from home), and the oldest lives over a 1500 miles away! I still get so sad sometimes I just have to have a good cry. I homeschooled my kids and was always with them. It is a very hard adjustment, and I'm sure I will never get over it.

Thankfully, the Lord sent me my gs to raise and he has filled a large part of that void.

Go ahead and feel sad, it's OK. Just remember that you'll see them every day and you'll be there when they get off that bus (or get in the door)! Cutting the cords is the hardest part of being a mom - but we have to let them grow up! Maybe look at it more from their perspective - how happy they are and how much they are learning and accomplishing. That might help you get through the sad times. {{{{HUGS}}}}

[bunnyslippers]

My oldest started full day kindergarten yesterday, and I miss him terribly. My youngest will be going to preschool next year, and I will most definitely be closing the daycare dwon and heading back to work. I would hate diong daycare at home without my own babies! I feel for you. I am heartbroken that he has grown so big, so fast! Hang in there, I know just how you are feeling.