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Tomorrow my 6 year old son is having surgery to remove a mass in his head, that will likely cause him to lose hearing. I would have closed the rest of this week, but my mother offered to help with child care, as to not put my daycare families in a bind, since we just found out about this last week. I am closing Friday (not related to the surgery, had this on the daycare calendar since July) and asked the parents to please pick up their children as soon as possible Wednesday and Thursday. Out of my 5 daycare families, only one is able to pick up their children early and 2 of them forgot I was closed on Friday and are upset they don't have childcare (This was in the July & August newsletters) For 5 years now I have bent over backwards for these families...opening early, staying open late, taking their children places, even watching them on the weekends and going to their birthday parties. I am extremely hurt and upset with their inconsideration, and the only reason I am not up and closing, is because my husband left one of his jobs to go back to school this month.
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First of all, I am so sorry to hear of your sons medical problem. My prayers will be with him tomorrow. That is just out of this world terrible that those parents are treating you like that. Do not give them the option. I would tell them, look, I'm leaving at 3:00 on Wednesday and Thursday so someone has to be here to get son or daughter. No ifs ands or buts. Also if they're upset, than shame shame on them. Good luck! I hope your sons hearing is okay. -
That is inconsiderate! You would think most parents could find a backup for a few days.
My parents are very easy to work with, but I have had years where all the parents were really, really hard to like. It's too bad too, because the kids are great, but the parents are not always so kind.Comment
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Aw, hun....(((hugs))) to you and your DS. Hope it isnt anything too serious.
Don't let the attitudes of parents get to you. Just do what works for your family. Next time you need to close though, DON'T ask parents if they can pick up early just tell them you are closing at a specific time. PERIOD.
As far as the Friday you are closed, if you notified the parents before and they didn't save the date, that is their problem and NOT yours so I wouldn't give that issue a second thought.
Again, (((hugs))) for dealing. Most parents are super stars as daycare parents, but everyone once in a while you will find out who puts who first and just as you should put you and your family first, they will always put theirs first too. Don't take it personally.
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(((HUGS))) I am so sorry to hear about your son; what a scary, scary thing for you and him and your whole family to be dealing with! Healing thoughts to him.
I would have just closed outright and left the families in a bind, myself, because no matter what my family always comes first. HUGE props to you for not doing so. And as for forgetting you had the day off? That's their problem. I would be tempted to say, "You know what? I'm sorry; it's too stressful. I'm closing. See you next week. Please think of my son tomorrow as he faces this very scary surgery and situation."Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I have been through this with my families and it stinks. I too always try to do the least inconvient thing for them and feel guilty when I have no option but to close. Parents rarely acknowledge this. It makes this job hard.Comment
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Good luck tomorrow! I will pray that all goes well for your son.
As for the dcparents: THEY pay US so really it is *all* about them!
I realized this when I had parents that came here for a long time and still never bothered to learn my own kids names. But then sometimes you do get parents that are very kind and considerate.Comment
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I am soooo sorry that you are all going through this and that your dcf are not more considerate! Especially since you let them know months in advance about Friday AND you got a sub for the other days.
IMO, Do NOT feel sorry for them. They are definitely in the wrong. Try to go into surgery tomorrow without worrying about them. Obviously, they don't worry about you!
I have one good family, and the rest have definitely been a trial. I am beginning to get a little hard. I will go out of my way for them IF IT IS CONVENIENT! If not, too bad. I had one dad tell his kids that they didn't have to wear socks to daycare if he said they don't. UGH! Thanks for the support - you really make my job a lot easier - NOT!
So, take care of YOU and your family. Explain it nicely, but, oh, well. Anyone with a child in family daycare knows enough to have a back-up provider.
{{{{HUGS}}}} and I will be praying for his surgery tomorrow!Comment
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I will.be thinking of your son tomorrow.
Honestly, I would close. You need to focus on your son, not inconsiderate meanies.Comment
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I am so sorry to hear about your son. I will be praying for a successful outcome to his surgery and for no hearing loss to occur. ((Hugs)) to you, too. This has to be very stressful for you.
As to your inconsiderate daycare families...shame on them for having no compassion during this time and for being so selfish that they don't even take note when you notify them of a day off. This is why, no matter how much I liked my dcf's, I did not go over and above for them. I would just make them copies of both newsletters with the day off highlighted on it with a note: "Just a reminder, as you were notified in both of the attached monthly newsletters, I will be closed on Friday. Also due to a medical matter, all children must be picked up by 3 p.m. on Wednesday and Thursday. Thank you".Comment
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first off, I send you wishes to your son for a speedy recovery. I wish him the best.
One thing that I have learned about this business. YOU NEVER ASK, you TELL them what you are going to do.
Also, DOn't expect to be treated the way you treat them. It just does not always come back to you, even when you gave it out of the kindness of your heart. I wish all people gave back what they were given, but a lot of people don't see our extra and special just that. I think a lot of them learn to expect it.
Big hugs to you and chin up...things will be just fine!!!!Comment
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Prayers for your son! I would send everyone an email, addressed to them all after the surgery and just say:
"Thank you all for your kindness during this time with our son. Your well wishes were so touching. And to the families that made dinner for us, I can't thank you enough. You are gems!!!"Comment
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Prayers for your son sorry the families are being that wayComment
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