Am I Alone?

[brookeroo]

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I feel like there is something about each one of my daycare kids that drives me crazy. I feel bad but there are just these annoying things they each do all day. Each has something different and i know some of them cant help it. I'm starting to wonder is it just me or are there really any kids out there that will just be a piece of cake for a change...?

I have an infant who mind you... I love... But he has acid reflux. It has been a lot of work. I change clothes about 3 times a day. He's starting to move more now that he's rolli g over and scooting. I'm so not looking forward to it. I lay huge blankets down and every single time he scoots to the edge and it's like he saves up to puke on the carpet. I'm not talking a little spit up... I'm talking multiple major puddles that come immediately one after one. Many are projectile. I wouldn't care if he'd do it on the blankets but every single time he scoots to the edge and there it goes...

Same with the pack and play. I put quilted sheets on all my pnp mattresses and those things are so tight they squeeze them together and there is about a 2-3 inch gap on the side he scoots to that every single nap and pukes in the gap. Doesn't matter which way I face him. That's where he goes. If you hold him he contorts his body to puke on you for some reason... I don know why. I love him to death. He has come a long way. He used to be very fussy and now he is very smiley and laughs a lot.

Another is literally chewing my house and toys to shreds.
Two others screetch and scream bloody murder. Blood curdling. One does non stop. He is very very spoiled.
And my other one pushes and asks "why" non stop...

I know most of these are all phases I just start to wonder how I don't pull all my hair out each day...:::::: does anyone actually have the perfect kid for daycare? My kids are a piece of cake but that's natural I think

[cheerfuldom]

well if it makes you feel any better, there are certainly little things about the kids here that are annoying....but I do draw the line at pukers and screamers. I cant handle that day in and day out. I have had both before and no, I dont love kids that much or at least not enough to put up with those two things. my own children are of course, doing the same things as the daycare kids but its somehow never quite as annoying as when someone else does it

[Zoe]

I don't think ANYONE is perfect and we're going to most likely find one aspect of a person, child or adult, off-putting. So no I don't think you're alone in finding something about each daycare child that bugs you.

I have the perfect daycare baby and I love him to death. He blows razzberries while I feed him baby food! Drives me nuts! !

[DaisyMamma]

Yep. Some more annoying than others. But there is always something!

[daycarediva]

dcb#1-whiny cry. He isn't a cry-er but when he does it's like nails on a chalkboard.

dcb#2- has this one rolling eyes 'whatever' face that is so annoying. Mom thinks it's cute.

dcb#3-is a licker. He licks EVERYTHING

dcb#4 is the worst eater I have EVER had. It is at the point that his pediatrician is having Mom give him pediasure with meals and going to see a nutritionist, and looking into possible sensory issues. No matter what I serve he looks like I'm about to torture him. YET, he ALWAYS says he is hungry. AL.WAYS. It makes me look terrible that the same Mom's at drop off and pick ups hear him saying "Im hungryyyy"

dcg#1-repeats word for word what everyone says.

dcg#2 thinks she knows everything and even argues with me about what letter is which. I feel like saying "Listen kid, you're 4. I graduated from college. I know which letter is V, you however, do not."

dcg #3 is LOUD and says my name about 100x an hour. Kid you not.

[providerandmomof4]

dcb#1-whiny cry. He isn't a cry-er but when he does it's like nails on a chalkboard.

dcb#2- has this one rolling eyes 'whatever' face that is so annoying. Mom thinks it's cute.

dcb#3-is a licker. He licks EVERYTHING

dcb#4 is the worst eater I have EVER had. It is at the point that his pediatrician is having Mom give him pediasure with meals and going to see a nutritionist, and looking into possible sensory issues. No matter what I serve he looks like I'm about to torture him. YET, he ALWAYS says he is hungry. AL.WAYS. It makes me look terrible that the same Mom's at drop off and pick ups hear him saying "Im hungryyyy"

dcg#1-repeats word for word what everyone says.

dcg#2 thinks she knows everything and even argues with me about what letter is which. I feel like saying "Listen kid, you're 4. I graduated from college. I know which letter is V, you however, do not."

dcg #3 is LOUD and says my name about 100x an hour. Kid you not.

Hilarious...I can relate. My grown children used to think it was hilarious to say the same annoying things that my dck do. An especially annoying dcb was mimicked by my 20 yr old son months after he left care. My kids still think it's funny and are always the first to point out the especially annoying behaviors of each and every child.

[daycarediva]

Hilarious...I can relate. My grown children used to think it was hilarious to say the same annoying things that my dck do. An especially annoying dcb was mimicked by my 20 yr old son months after he left care. My kids still think it's funny and are always the first to point out the especially annoying behaviors of each and every child.

:: My dcb says "uuuughhh" a lot and now dd does it. (She's 13) they also play "guess which dck". To be fair I mimicked them and thought it would teach them a lesson. Nope, they found it HILARIOUS.

[My3cents]

dcg #3 is LOUD and says my name about 100x an hour. Kid you not.
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The reason I come to this forum is because I need to be able to relate to others that do what I do all day. Thanks for this forum and thread and all of you that share.

I bolded the above because it caught me into wondering if this child that is loud could possibly have a hearing problem?

I love all my kids but here are my issues....

2b likes to act up when mom is around and do things he normally wouldn't do in front of her.

2b likes to push or hit and then make like it never happened and show me his fake illness or redirect me onto something else.

2G whiner, constantly telling her to use her words

1b amazing, but he likes to take down everyone and has no fear of anything, smart as a whip, they all are.

3G mine and has her little annoyances but your right they are not as bad as the above, probably because of the bond we have.

6b makes up stories, tall tales, knowing he is bluffing me.

14G drives me batty! but not as bad as other kids....mine and again we are bonded differently then the daycare kids.

Today my kids were right off the wall in the morning and the afternoon they were fun.

[brookeroo]

I have two that ... if I could get them replaced I would love to say "c-ya". The infant that screams from the time he gets here to the time he leaves because he's been spoiled rotten and the one that is chewing my house to shreds. I cannot seem bond with them because their issues seem to be like nails on a chalkboard for me and unmanageable at that.

I've been working on cry it out for about 3 months with this infant and he is just not getting it but I literally would not get a single thing done if I just gave in with him. He doesn't JUST want you to hold him all day but also look at him and talk to him. He is an extremely social infant. His mom said that's because they sit and talk with him at home all the time since they don't watch TV or anything else. Great and all but good luck with raising a child to be co-dependent! She just took a part time job so that she could be home with him more. Kind of great for me... but I'm not so sure that's doing him so many favors. For the time being they are still bringing him enough to pay full time but I have him less. Since I've been completely unable to get him on a schedule as it is I'm kind of grateful that at least I don't have him the whole day.

I dread seeing both of their cars in the driveway in the mornings and I pretty much feel like I collapse on the couch when they leave.

If only it wasn't taking so long to get kids in... I wonder if this economy coming around will improve anything.

[Oneluckymom]

I really don't have much to add. But my 2DCB is VERY whiny....when ever he says ANYTHING it's a whine. My 2DCG is extremely loud when she cries screaming at the top of her lungs. I dread the days when she cries at nap.


I busted up at the line "I dread seeing their cars in the morning!! " it may not be funny but I did get a good picture of you standing there thinking ....oh gosh here I go again::

[Oneluckymom]

I really don't have much to add. But my 2DCB is VERY whiny....when ever he says ANYTHING it's a whine. My 2DCG is extremely loud when she cries screaming at the top of her lungs. I dread the days when she cries at nap.


I busted up at the line "I dread seeing their cars in the morning!! " it may not be funny but I did get a good picture of you standing there thinking ....oh geez here I go again::

[My3cents]

I have two that ... if I could get them replaced I would love to say "c-ya". The infant that screams from the time he gets here to the time he leaves because he's been spoiled rotten and the one that is chewing my house to shreds. I cannot seem bond with them because their issues seem to be like nails on a chalkboard for me and unmanageable at that.

I've been working on cry it out for about 3 months with this infant and he is just not getting it but I literally would not get a single thing done if I just gave in with him. He doesn't JUST want you to hold him all day but also look at him and talk to him. He is an extremely social infant. His mom said that's because they sit and talk with him at home all the time since they don't watch TV or anything else. Great and all but good luck with raising a child to be co-dependent! She just took a part time job so that she could be home with him more. Kind of great for me... but I'm not so sure that's doing him so many favors. For the time being they are still bringing him enough to pay full time but I have him less. Since I've been completely unable to get him on a schedule as it is I'm kind of grateful that at least I don't have him the whole day.

I dread seeing both of their cars in the driveway in the mornings and I pretty much feel like I collapse on the couch when they leave.

If only it wasn't taking so long to get kids in... I wonder if this economy coming around will improve anything.

Been there and doing that. Great parents, first child, super smart child and this kid has the world and his parents at his feet. I also excepted them in on a rotating schedule. Big huge difference when the child started coming more and more. He thrives on routine. The crying child you are referring to has no time to bond with you and the others, and your just plain out not mom, tending to every little whimper and coo, giggle, and fart. You can't be in his face telling him how wonderful he is all day. Mom can and she should, the kid is the love of her life. Have to explain to mom that he in group care and you need more of a set schedule for him, because he will do better with this. He is not having the time he needs to adjust. Talk with the parents and level with them. They will get it if they want what is best for their child. Might not be doable, but maybe something can come together to make it a better arrangement. You don't want to end up resenting the child and what you do. If nothing gets better term and look for replacement. It may take time but it will happen. Best-

[daycarediva]

my dcg who is loud doesn't have a hearing problem. School tested her for it because the teacher even thought so! She is just LOUD!

I can't do screamers. I did it with one kid for 6 months and I was literally in tears the day I gave notice. I ADORED the Mom and when the baby was here 1:1 he was a DREAM. Not all kids are cut out for group care.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Each one of my children has what I like to call "a day." That day is one where they just aren't transitioning well/listening well/are cranky/etc. As adults we have "days" as well where we aren't on our A-Game.

Out of 13 children, 3 have some issues every day but all of them? No.

With screechers, I sign the word "Stop" and let them know that they are hurting my ears. I then ask them if they need alone time. If they do not reply, I place them in alone time with a book. If they are crying/screeching for a reason (pain/lonliness/etc.) I give hugs. But, typically, it was just to make a fuss.

Why "why" kids it depends on the reason they are asking why. If they are defiant and say it in a sassy tone because they just don't want to do something, I tell them because I am the boss. If they ask why because they are curious, I tend to explain things to them. Only once, though. Then, I will ask THEM why and they can always answer verbatim what I told them last time. It is quite cute!

[My3cents]

my dcg who is loud doesn't have a hearing problem. School tested her for it because the teacher even thought so! She is just LOUD!

I can't do screamers. I did it with one kid for 6 months and I was literally in tears the day I gave notice. I ADORED the Mom and when the baby was here 1:1 he was a DREAM. Not all kids are cut out for group care.

probably not but mention a retest. I knew someone that was tested and they just didn't catch it, went back a few months later and sure enough-

Totally agree not all kids are cut out for group daycare.

Do what is best for your group and your sanity.