Transitioning YOUR child to preschool

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I have been doing daycare all of my daughters life and she has been home with me. At my daycare she is happy, loud, welcoming to new children and anything but shy with any child. She may not talk to adults always (exspecially men) but for the most part she's ok.

Doing daycare I obviously do not get out much. So neither does she. We will occasionally see family and she does well. If its someone she doesn't know or a lot of people she will hide by me for a while till she warms up. Also I need to add that no one hardly ever has watched her for me. Basically she as been with me and sometimes her dad without me since birth.

Oh she is 3.5

The problem...., in June I enrolled her into a daycare center part time to start getting her used to being away from mommy. It wasnt good. At all! She screamed (expected yes). I would stay to help her ease in, sometimes hours. In the beginning I would leave and get called 20 mins later to come get her. She was actually trying to leave the building and walk home. She has always been a child that is hard o sooth when upset even for me.

Fast forward 3months she now goes full time, loves it but STILL gives me a problem with leaving her. I honestly can't tell if she is doing it just o do it or if it's sincere. Ykwim?

Now the problem..... She is just getting used to her new class but also aging out. She absolutely refuses to step foot in the other class! The teacher as tried to just have her run an errand over there and it's a no go. I have tried taking her in and "showing her around the new class" and he buried her self into and wouldn't look. Mind you that was after I dragged her in. She wouldn't walk past the hall way on her own.

I dont know how to help her. I guess my long winded question is how do I get her to feel comfortable without pushing her? Is it more then just shyness? When should I worry? My heart hurts so bad thinking that she feels that much stress inside and not knowing how to help her.

I would love her to stay with the warm, loving, awesome teacher she has now but developmentally I know she needs to go up a class. My husband and I have noticed a difference in her behavior..... Acting younger again.

Please..... Any advice would be soon appreciated

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I'm so sorry you are going through this! I went through this with my own child and we ended having to pull them and homeschool up through middle school.

To this day we don't know what happened and what caused the child to just not like school. They started off fine but within a few weeks, would cry for hours before school and just fall apart. It got to the point they would start crying Friday night through the weekend knowing they had to go back to school come Monday.

I would say take her out and maybe try again next year. Obviously she isn't ready and it really makes it worse when you keep pushing them.

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thank you for responding. I honestly think a lot of it has to do with how much time they spend with us.

I love that I got to keep her home with me but I wonder if on some level it set her up for this.
BUT I also remember her being an infant and when we went to new place she screamed bloody murder the entire time. She was only 2-3 months old then and not liking new places.

I know on some level I have social anxiety. I hope to high heavens I didn't pass it on.

Maybe your right. I am pushing her to much..