Annoyed by dcg at pick-up

[littlemisssunshine]

so what do you do when parents arrive and you have the same kid always ask you for food or juice as if they starved all day!!!! this dcg does it intentionally in front of her mother so i cant really say NO! i serve snack at 3:30 and at pick-up (4:00) she asks for juice in front of dcm! what would you do... i actulally got fed up and told dcg not to ask me in front of mom again I feel like i shouldn't have done that.... advice please its annoying me very much ...

[AnneCordelia]

I would be straight up. "DCG, we just had snack not long ago and you want to have room for dinner. Its not time for snack."

I serve snack at 3:15. Parents know I don't offer foodinbewteen scheduled times and I can't see how it would upset them to know I am not a short order cook the whole day. If mom says something then tell her that making requests is a diversion tactic that you commonly see in this age group, and you appreciate her backing you up on it.

[Meyou]

I say, "We just had snack at XX and you're going home for dinner so you can eat there!" I will give them a little drink of water though. We're often playing hard when parents arrive so when they stop playing they realize how thirsty they are.

[daycarediva]

I always have cups of water out, so I would just tell her to take a drink of water. I have one dcb that does the same thing, and I do as PP say, "We just had snack, I wonder what Mommy is making for dinner? I bet it will be yummy!"

[MissAnn]

so what do you do when parents arrive and you have the same kid always ask you for food or juice as if they starved all day!!!! this dcg does it intentionally in front of her mother so i cant really say NO! i serve snack at 3:30 and at pick-up (4:00) she asks for juice in front of dcm! what would you do... i actulally got fed up and told dcg not to ask me in front of mom again I feel like i shouldn't have done that.... advice please its annoying me very much ...

This happens all the time here. Yesterday it happened....and I said, "We just had snack". Mom paused and finally said...."Well, maybe we can stop somewhere on the way home".......OK! Good Idea! It's just a stall tactic. The same kids will also get out things they shouldn't and I have to remind them that we already cleaned up.

[DaisyMamma]

It happens here too. I say the same thing. We just had snack & its almost time for dinner. I give water at anytime. I rarely give juice.

[MissAnn]

It happens here too. I say the same thing. We just had snack & its almost time for dinner. I give water at anytime. I rarely give juice.

Same here. I don't even serve juice with any meals. I do keep water bottles for every kid and they can get a drink from that before leaving.

It's always the last kid of the day who comes RIGHT at closing....with a parent who can't say NO to their child. At least that's what I get here.

[DBug]

I always list what we ate for snack too, so that parents hear it firsthand. "Oh dcg, you can't be hungry already! We just had snack! You ate blueberries, and crackers and cheese, and you drank alot of water! You'd better save some room for dinner at home with mommy and daddy."

Or, if dck didn't actually eat that much: "Yes, I bet you are getting hungry now. We had blueberries and crackers and cheese for snack, but you didn't want any. Dcm, you may want to give her a little something to hold her for dinner. For some reason she didn't want any snack."

Puts it back in the parents' hands

[JenNJ]

so what do you do when parents arrive and you have the same kid always ask you for food or juice as if they starved all day!!!! this dcg does it intentionally in front of her mother so i cant really say NO! i serve snack at 3:30 and at pick-up (4:00) she asks for juice in front of dcm! what would you do... i actulally got fed up and told dcg not to ask me in front of mom again I feel like i shouldn't have done that.... advice please its annoying me very much ...

Then that is why she is asking! If you are saying yes, her game works!! ::

I have 2 kids who do that. My snack time is 3:30 these 2 kids leave at 5:30 and 6:15. I am sure they are hungry, but that is not what I offer in my program. They are well fed during the day and water is always available. But no, I don't offer additional snacks after 3:30pm.

Kid: "I am HUUUUNNNGGGRRRYYYY!"
Me: "Well Sandy, you are hungry because it is close to dinner. I bet you will eat well since you are so hungry."

I say goodbye and shut the door. Lather, rinse, repeat. happyface

[countrymom]

happens here too, I agree with its kind of embarressing because *I* know I just fed them, but the parents have no idea. I started offering them water, its amazing how many don't want water on the way home.

[saved4always]

Next time she asks in front of mom, I would just firmly say to dcg: "We just had snack and juice half an hour ago. Snack time is over and I am sure mommy can get you something when you get home. Bye, bye, sweetie. See you tomorrow!"

It always annoyed me when kids asked for a snack or drink as they left my house to go home. The only way I would give them anything to take home is if it was something they had not finished at snack that was going into the garbage when they left anyways.

[renodeb]

How old is the child? I would remind her that snack was at x time and that she doesnt need anything. Its your house, your business, your rules. How does mom react when you say know. Maybe post a note that says snack is at x time. You set the boundaries you want. Good luck!
Debbie

[littlemisssunshine]

How old is the child? I would remind her that snack was at x time and that she doesnt need anything. Its your house, your business, your rules. How does mom react when you say know. Maybe post a note that says snack is at x time. You set the boundaries you want. Good luck!
Debbie

she is 4 years old

[Blackcat31]

My parents are all aware of what time meals and snacks are served here.

When a child asks for something to eat or drink when their parent arrives, my standard response is "Well, good thing your mommy is here. I am sure she will be glad to get you something to eat/drink as soon as you get home. Bye bye...Have a good night".

We DON'T eat or drink anywhere but the table at my house so offering the out of schedule drink/food is not something I would ever do at pick up time.

I also NEVER send food home with kids nor do I allow it to be brought in either.

[LittleD]

I know its probably only a stall tactic, would she accept water or refuse it? if she would refuse it you can say only water after snack time. Or give her a drink 10 mins before pick up with a reminder You've had your drink, so don't ask for anything else when mom gets there. This way if she does ask you can say no you just had one, no more stalling, it's time to go home. Takes the guilt out of saying no cuz really, she just had a drink.