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  • countrymom
    Daycare.com Member
    • Aug 2010
    • 4874

    #16
    my back up provider is divorcing her dh of 10 yrs (she filed in feb of this year) I never knew of the abuse she indured. She is a beautiful person (like big boobs, hot looking, you would never picture her wiping butts, nails manicured type lady) she was telling me how he would say and do the same things as your dh, he would call her ugly all the time and fat (she is really thin) well she had enough and filed for divorce, but guess what, for 3 yrs he was cheating on her and she had no idea.

    this is where it gets ugly, they have 3 kids ages 7,8,9 and because they grew up seeing all of this, you should see what they say and do to their mother. They constantly scream "i hate you" "your stupid" "your ugly" oh the hitting that they do to each other is awful.

    the problem is that he won't leave the house (he is now being forced to leave via courts) but he still tells her "your so ugly no one is going to want you"

    she started seeing a therapist to help her out, she started bringing the kids too, because there is so much damage done. But you know what, she is raising those 3 kids, all by herself (he won't give her money but she has been supporting him too) a house, the yard, the activities, so if she can do it, so can you.

    she also said by seeing someone she has enough courage to stand up to her ex. she also said that it feels so good to talk to someone and they will listen.

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    • AaliaJennison
      Member Awaiting Status Upgrade
      • Aug 2012
      • 1

      #17
      OT Would You Consider It?

      Hi, As per my experience, It's good opportunities you have to think about it. I am also CNA and I am working last many year, also create blogs

      Hey,....... If there is any confusion between dreams and our own problem..then think positive and go head and I have to say. you are very positive thinking girl...I like it. all the best for your bright future.

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      • Heidi
        Daycare.com Member
        • Sep 2011
        • 7121

        #18
        Originally posted by Breezy
        How is it you ladies can say EVERYTHING that I am thinking in my own head!

        I have been looking at CNA and Patient care Tech programs in Grand Forks too all morning as the first option. I figured if my sisters work offers that other nursing homes would too, and I was right. I also have been applying for other work from home type jobs- not ideal as I would like to get out of the house but I do want to be home with DS all day!

        DH keeps telling me that things will be so much different when we live in Grand Forks and can be closer to our family. He begs and pleads to just let him show me. He says I will be a different person because I will be happier and he will be too because I am happy. Not sure it works like that, buddy. Things don't just disappear when we cross the state lines.

        I WANT WANT WANT to go somewhere to have some TALK therapy. In fact, I think I will look for a doctor as soon as I am done typing this. I have so much stuff that I NEED to talk out to someone that can help me. I tell you girls the most personal and darkest parts of my life but I need someone else too, ykwim?

        I need to talk about how I feel like my adolescence was stolen from me because my mom was addicted to narcotics and I got them for her. She would pick me up early from school and bring me to a dealers house so I could get them. Or text all day to see if I had a lead. I fell behind in school and didn't end up graduating.. I feel like I was young and didn't know any better and I feel so cheated. I see my little sister going to a private college with a 4.0 GPA and feel that should have been me!! I should be ME going to school too and having the world at my feet! I was an amazing student A honor roll student before my mom brought me into her world of addiction..

        And then there is back in 2008 when I was raped by a guy my roommate brought home.. I will spare you the gory details but I never reported it because noone believed me after it happened. Why didn't you scream they said? Well because he had his hand over my mouth and around my neck, I was terrified and frozen- that's why. I figured if noone else believed me then WHY would I report it.. SO 4 years later almost to the month and I think I have PTSD-- Every year around this time I get depressed, feel like the world is spinning out of control. I have blocked it out so much but when I think about it it feels like I am going to just pass out..

        SO, I too have my own issues to work out.. And I think we need help. We love eachother but we are so broken we don't know how to do it...... IDK, does that make sense????

        WOW, I just told a whole forum of people I don't even know my two deepest darkest secrets. Feels kind of good.... but super scary.... I just NEEDED to get it out of my head.
        wow Breezy! I have so much to say to you about perspective. I've had some very similar experiences, but at 47 (almost 48) they seem like another life ago.
        I will pm you my phone number. You can call me anytime and I will give you fast-forward!

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        • itlw8
          Daycare.com Member
          • Jan 2012
          • 2199

          #19
          I would say no 1 living apart is not good for a marriage. 2 it is a minimum wage job. As far as getting a job as a nurse it will not help

          Do go back to school. look into working at a hospital that will reimburse your tuition many do that.
          It:: will wait

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