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So funny. Darn it my kids are starting to wake up.
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I always tell my DH that if he REALLY wants me to be in the mood, the best thing he can do is dishes, laundry, and putting the kids to bed.
He knows that if I can have some peace and quiet and ALONE time, I'll be much more likely to be in the mood than if I'm with kids all day and then doing chores and jumping right into bed afterward.
Laundry, you're making me literally LOL.
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Hey, I had another thought about this--
when DH and I noticed that our love life was starting to suffer, I made more of a concerted effort to get me time. Even thirty minutes alone with my thoughts and a book, or the computer, or a project of my own, goes a long way to making me interested in doing "That"Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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Now that my kids can finally stay home by themselves dh and I go for coffee, but what's more shameless is that I sign my kids up for activities so dh and I can go out for dinner or coffe by ourselves and not have 4kids eat off of our plates.Comment
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Being home by myself with children day in and day out caused sort of a depression for me, its so different from working with other adults and having interaction.
I am only doing daycare part time now and working somewhere else part time. I am MUCH happier and even though I am busier I have more energy & have more spark too!
If you'd like to keep working full time, a suggestion I'd give is to hit the gym and unwind for an entire hour every night after daycare closes. You get to switch gears, whether its exercising or relaxing in the hot tub with a magazine it might be just what you need
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Unregistered you have a point. Even though I left corporate america because I felt like I was working with a bunch of idiots and hated the office gossip I am starting to wonder if just being around the kids and their messes all day without even being able to clean up real nice or switch gears is the problem.
I hired an assistant a couple months back and I finally now feel I can leave her with the kids for a bit during the day. In another week I will 3 days a week be able to leave the house and go do something. I want to start working out in the late morning when it seems I have woken up but haven't gotten so exhausted that the thought of going to the gym is hopeless.
I could be dealing with a bit of depression just because between the cold ass winters and the heat you are house bound alot in North Texas. 10-20 degree sometimes a foot of snow in the winter and regular 100-120 degree summers. I hate this place So very little time to be able to safely take the kids out and play (I have mostly babies). I am hoping with the schedule cut and still keeping my assistant the getting away from them a couple hours a day will help.
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Countrymom that is a great idea! I would have never thought of that as a way f getting space.
Still all of this is seriously making me question having kids.::
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If you think depression could be contributing, you could start taking a B-complex vitamin (the sublingual ones are most absorbable and bioavailable) and Vitamin D.I could be dealing with a bit of depression just because between the cold ass winters and the heat you are house bound alot in North Texas. 10-20 degree sometimes a foot of snow in the winter and regular 100-120 degree summers. I hate this place So very little time to be able to safely take the kids out and play (I have mostly babies). I am hoping with the schedule cut and still keeping my assistant the getting away from them a couple hours a day will help.
Other supplements that could help a lot are things like Evening Primrose Oil and any women's multi-vitamin.
Even low iron could be contributing to your issues. Try increasing the amount of foods in your diet that are naturally high in iron <--the naturally is important because iron fortified things are usually fortified with like, iron the metal and it's NOT very absorbable. Have you heard the thing about Cheerios? Put some in a plastic bag and crush them into a good fine crumb, then take a magnet to the bag and you get actual iron filings...Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I need to get back on the B and D never heard of evening primrose oil. I will check it out, thanks.Comment
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I just wanted to note that having your own children is much different then daycare kids, similar it many ways but very different in other ways. 24/7 complete responsibility for your own child is just different. The bonding is different. Don't compare your daycare kids to the children you may some day have. It is different. It is a different kind of love, a different bonding, and I know what I want to say but can't seem to have the words right at this moment to express....maybe someone else can better articulate then me.
No matter if you have your own child, or adopt, or foster. Your children will have a different relationship with you.
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not to make light of OP but this thread is cracking me up.
Hubby doing chores doesn't do anything for me except be thankful that he helps out. It is up to both of us to take care of our home. I wouldn't want to be with someone that expected me to do all the crud work and take care of our kids myself. I think it is funny that some of you get turned on by a husband that does chores. I also see where your coming from, our home just doesn't run that way.
For me, spending time together doing fun things and enjoying each other does it for me. We both work hard and seeing the fruits of our labor so to speak, and enjoying them together. When the light starts to dim in our relationship, we revamp it and catch it and do what we have to do to sparkle things up so we are both happy. Over the years we have learned to let a lot of the little things go, because in the scheme of life they really are not that important to begin with. We take care of the things that are important to us. We take care of each other now because when the kids are all grown up and long gone from home, that is what we will have- so it is important to nurture us along the way.
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Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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:OP - got sidetracked. Sorry.
talk to your hottie.
tell him how you feel. If you love him, AND working....... you will figure it out.
(In the meantime......... well. I will hush. Lool.) 
happyfacehappyfacelovethislovethislovethislovethislovethishappyface and when you're done happyfacehappyface
lovethishappyfacehappyface then finish with an eye catching dismount. Go for the gold baby!!!!!! More than once. 
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Hi Love! My suggestion... May be you need to build anticipation! Try a couple of steamy texts throughout the day. That works for me and Hubby loves it! I know it may be hard to switch your mind from babies to bed but try it when you have down time!Comment
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"relations"
My DH would be up for "relations" every day (or so he says...) but I'm the one who is never in the mood. He's still smokin' hot and he's an awesome husband so the problem isn't him. It's all me, really. I love him dearly so for him, I'll take one for the team
I think that for me it mostly boils down to my personal bubble. My dcks are incredibly affectionate and I'm showered with hugs and kisses virtually all day long. They give me affection whether I want it or not! Don't get me wrong, I really am glad that they feel secure and loved with me and I'm thankful for that. This group is my cuddliest group ever. I have one little dcg2 who will just randomly come over and pet me as if she were petting a bunny rabbit or a little puppy! It's all good but sometimes I would just like to have some time each day to not have someone touching me! Also, there's the issue of switching from "daycare provider mode" to "wife mode" which I struggle with. I haven't figured out how to be both at the same time yet.
OP, I get where you're coming from. I hope that it gets better for you and your fiance soon!Comment
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