DD won't share????

[Nickel]

My dd is being stubborn today. She doesn't want to share her toys and doesn't want to play with the other kids. Is it a phase? Or is she just tired of sharing her toys for 12 hours a day for the last 2 days??? How do I get her to be nice to the other children when they aren't always nice to her???

[Blackcat31]

One of the biggest things you can do to help her is to make two separate groups of toys. Toys that are ONLY hers and toys for the daycare.

The toys that are hers should not be allowed to be played with while daycare is going on. Daycare toys should be the only toys available during daycare hours. That way thsoe toys belong to EVERYONE.

She is feeling like all "her" things are being taken/used without her having a say in it and at 2 years old, that is tough when everything should be hers, in her mind....kwim?

Once she learns how to share, which comes closer to 3, you can help her decide which toys she is willing to share with the daycare if she chooses. Otherwise, it isn't a bad idea to simply keep her things separate from daycare things.

Bottom line is the more you keep things separated, the easier it will be for her to understand daycare time/stuff versus "her" time/stuff.

As soon as you start telling other daycare kids they can't play something or do something because it belongs to your DD, you are creating the divide between hers and theirs and actually reinforcing the behavior she is having now.

I get that daycare is your child's home but it is also your place of work and it is basically impossible to separate the two if you give her special priviledges while on the clock and you will only continue to have issues.

[cheerfuldom]

One of the biggest things you can do to help her is to make two separate groups of toys. Toys that are ONLY hers and toys for the daycare.

The toys that are hers should not be allowed to be played with while daycare is going on. Daycare toys should be the only toys available during daycare hours. That way thsoe toys belong to EVERYONE.

She is feeling like all "her" things are being taken/used without her having a say in it and at 2 years old, that is tough when everything should be hers, in her mind....kwim?

Once she learns how to share, which comes closer to 3, you can help her decide which toys she is willing to share with the daycare if she chooses. Otherwise, it isn't a bad idea to simply keep her things separate from daycare things.

Bottom line is the more you keep things separated, the easier it will be for her to understand daycare time/stuff versus "her" time/stuff.

As soon as you start telling other daycare kids they can't play something or do something because it belongs to your DD, you are creating the divide between hers and theirs and actually reinforcing the behavior she is having now.

I get that daycare is your child's home but it is also your place of work and it is basically impossible to separate the two if you give her special priviledges while on the clock and you will only continue to have issues.

agree with all this. it is hard if you are using your daughters room as a playroom or her toys as the daycare toys. I purchase toys and equipment separately for my daycare and my own kids. their rooms are not a part of the daycare play area and they can choose if they would like to share their own toys or not. Everything in the daycare playroom belongs to all of us. There is a distinction.

I also dont make my kids play with the daycare kids. They arent allowed to be mean to one another but I dont force friendships either.

[Nickel]

I didn't really think of that before! I will have to go through and seperate what I think she would really like and that is really hers. Because some things aren't. I know the my little ponies we don't keep out with dck because they have small peices. But other than that, most stuff is out an accessable. I have a toy box I can keep her special toys in and keep them in her room. Then she can have them after hours.

Thanks for the suggestion