When I Asked if You Would Still Be Sending Bottles...

[SilverSabre25]

...and you said yes, I assumed that meant that you would still be sending bottles with milk in them. I did NOT expect to get handed one empty bottle this morning.

Silly me. And man, you're jumping the gun as usual with your children--he's not even 1 yet! But that's beside the point I suppose. The point is...

I AM OUT OF MILK TODAY.

And if you're sending me an empty bottle, well, screw that mess and I'll just give him a cup...

This is a classic reason why NOT to spring things on your daycare provider as you're heading out the door on Friday. Miscommunication! Not that I think my assumption was exactly unreasonable or anything. I asked, you answered...and you just conveniently forgot to mention that you were expecting ME to provide the milk....and that's a REALLY important detail.

[Crazy8]

OMG. What did you say this morning? I think I would have had to send baby and parent out the door to go get milk or formula. I would not want to deal with a hungry cranky baby who has been switched so suddenly!!! What is wrong with people???

[SilverSabre25]

*I* said nothing...DH greeted them and dcd handed off the bottle saying, "Silver's expecting this." so my DH just accepted it.

They've been sending me bottles of formula diluted with milk. I could tell, because it just looked different somehow--more like milk. So it's not a cold turkey switch but it DOES bother me (has all along) because this poor guy doesn't even turn one for another couple of weeks. When I didn't have anything to do with the bottles, I could ignore it (this family will listen to NOTHING I have to say)

[SunshineMama]

You would think people would communicate better concerning their kids. What are you going to do? Do you have juice or something to at least keep the baby hydrated? I have a policy that I don't provide anything for kids under 12 months. (milk or food)

[SilverSabre25]

I have one bag of frozen breastmilk and my sister is actually going to bring me another 8 oz of cow milk. If she couldn't do that I'd try him with coconut milk. We just don't keep a lot of dairy milk on hand and ran out yesterday--which DH didn't tell me about because it rarely matters.

I'm revamping my handbook--AGAIN, and making a policy that parents provide ALL food/drink until the child is at least 1.

And yes, I cannot believe the poor communication...it boggles my mind.

[Blackcat31]

I would have immediately contacted the parent and said "When I asked if you would still be sending bottles and you said yes, I assumed that meant that you would still be sending bottles with milk in them. I did NOT expect to get handed one empty bottle this morning."


I refuse to allow myself to be put in a situation where I cannot provide for a child and I don't always have someone available to run an errand for me.

Either way, you sound as though you have a plan (what a nice sister you have ) and I definitely feel for you with the lack of communication, those kids of situations are tough.

[Unregistered]

*I* said nothing...DH greeted them and dcd handed off the bottle saying, "Silver's expecting this." so my DH just accepted it.

They've been sending me bottles of formula diluted with milk. I could tell, because it just looked different somehow--more like milk. So it's not a cold turkey switch but it DOES bother me (has all along) because this poor guy doesn't even turn one for another couple of weeks. When I didn't have anything to do with the bottles, I could ignore it (this family will listen to NOTHING I have to say)

I really dont see the big deal with giving a 11 and half month old milk unless you do the food program. 3 of my kids started getting milk with formula to wean them off right at 11 months old per docs orders they where weaned completely right before turning 1. Now if you provide milk and food then its your job to make sure you have your supplies on hand before opening daycare but if you dont then I would of called mom and told her she needs to bring his milk for now on and just send your husband out for milk.

[SilverSabre25]

I really dont see the big deal with giving a 11 and half month old milk unless you do the food program. 3 of my kids started getting milk with formula to wean them off right at 11 months old per docs orders they where weaned completely right before turning 1. Now if you provide milk and food then its your job to make sure you have your supplies on hand before opening daycare but if you dont then I would of called mom and told her she needs to bring his milk for now on and just send your husband out for milk.

You're right that it's not a huge deal; it's just different from what I'm used to and they don't communicate with me really well in the first place.

I provide drinks and foods for kids eating the regular stuff, and that's generally been once they're OVER a year. I never had parents spring things on me quite the way this family does.

I didn't know I was out of dairy milk today--have other kinds but not dairy. DH didn't tell me yesterday when he used up the last of the milk--and I went to the store Saturday.

My DH had already left for work when I realized we were out and he can't just leave--that's why my awesome sister brought me some.

The heart of the problem is the "hey we're switching him" and not actually stating "so from now on YOU provide the milk for him". Plus, I don't know if they want him on whole or 2% or whatever. It's just that basic lack of respect and communication that has me annoyed...plus the inconvenience of being out of it for him.

[SilverSabre25]

I would have immediately contacted the parent and said "When I asked if you would still be sending bottles and you said yes, I assumed that meant that you would still be sending bottles with milk in them. I did NOT expect to get handed one empty bottle this morning."


I refuse to allow myself to be put in a situation where I cannot provide for a child and I don't always have someone available to run an errand for me.

Either way, you sound as though you have a plan (what a nice sister you have ) and I definitely feel for you with the lack of communication, those kids of situations are tough.

Yeah...I hate being in this situation and this particular family I have no backbone with. They were here before I developed my backbone with other people and so it's like they're grandfathered in under the backbone, or something. I'm working on it and it is HARD. i depend on this family (well, both my dcfamilies) to pay our bills--this one literally pays the mortgage. There are few new clients to be had although I'm starting to respond to the ads for people with two kids in the hopes of possible replacing them.