How Should I Term This Family?

[Truly Scrumptious]

I'm not providing care for any family who tells me they don't trust me. I would give an immediate termination. I wouldn't want the responsiblity of caring for the child for the next 2 weeks and possibly being blamed for something happening.

[Lucy]

I disagree. I prefer straight forward communication with just the parents in the discussion, not broad letters and notices to every family, when the others have nothing to do with the situation. I would not leave myself open to the parents staying because the issue isnt just the hours or rate....it is also the treatment at this meeting. I dont go for passive aggressive actions or "I dont want to seem confrontational" actions. You can stand up for yourself and your daycare and if the other parents view that as confrontational, then so be it. I just think professionalism should always be strive for. I dont understand the thought that professionally and respectfully sticking to your policies somehow makes a person not nice, or confrontational.

I hear what you're saying, and it is totally valid. We all have different styles. I just try to protect myself from retaliation from an unreasonable parent. I believe in taking the un-confrontational route all the way. It's why I've never had a silly complaint from a disgruntled parent in 18 years. As I said, we all have different styles, and that's great. Just givin' my two cents.

[Blackcat31]

I would absolutely term. Effective IMMEDIATELY. There is no trust and without trust, no care can ever be good enough and I won't work under those conditions.

I would be honest and tell the parents that they are not a good fit for my program and I would offer them the number to the local CCR&R agency.

I wouldn't even feel one bit bad about not giving two weeks notice either. I know it is the nice/professional thing to do, but in this situation, it is only giving them more time to find things you are doing wrong or against regulations. Thanks but no thanks.

[cheerfuldom]

I hear what you're saying, and it is totally valid. We all have different styles. I just try to protect myself from retaliation from an unreasonable parent. I believe in taking the un-confrontational route all the way. It's why I've never had a silly complaint from a disgruntled parent in 18 years. As I said, we all have different styles, and that's great. Just givin' my two cents.

yes, I agree, we are totally different styles obviously and that is okay. I dont make decisions based on what a parent might do....or make decisions based on fear of retaliation. thats not my style at all and while I have not been doing daycare as long as you, I am not a newbie and I havent had any complaints from disgruntled parents either. so I dont necessarily think that one style is the only way to gain a long standing business.

[Blackcat31]

yes, I agree, we are totally different styles obviously and that is okay. I dont make decisions based on what a parent might do....or make decisions based on fear of retaliation. thats not my style at all and while I have not been doing daycare as long as you, I am not a newbie and I havent had any complaints from disgruntled parents either. so I dont necessarily think that one style is the only way to gain a long standing business.

I've been doing child care now for 20 years and I have never had a complaint from a parent.....and you and I are on the same wave-length as far as honesty and direct open, no nonsense communication.

There is no one right or wrong way and what works for one provider most definitely does not work for another so thank goodness, it takes all kinds to make the world go round.

[Lucy]

I dont necessarily think that one style is the only way to gain a long standing business.

Agreed!