Clueless or Rude?

[Creek]

I think that there are some ideas that may not work. ie. The orange cones. I don't think you would be able to get outside at that time and put out cones to stop this woman from parking in DH's spot. YES, it IS DH's spot and she is completely abusing her position as a parent of a child in your care. Your job is to look after her child, not to put up with her bullsh*t!

In my parents handbook, I state that failure to respect me, my home and my neighbourhood results in immediate termination. I will NOT stand for ill treatment in my home. This is my home first.

Your husband deserves to be able to park in his own driveway that he pays for! If this DC mom can't respect that, out she goes. The same with the door. You pay for your heat/air conditioning and you need to be concerned with all the children's safety. She just doesn't care. The benefit of doubt is gone - she had her reminders and now she is just disrespecting you and your wishes.

I would directly say to her "You are not to park in DH's spot if you are picking up after 5:15pm, this is a daycare rule" if she does it one more time, I would send her packing.

[texascare]

I have had to put in my contract PARKING. I even drew it out for the parents since we live on a cul de sac. I told them where they could park and that the driveway is totally of limits. Period. She seems like she is trying to pick a fight! I have to say that the disrespect for you and you wonderful hubby is aweful! Maybe you could draw up an add on to your handbook about parking and have everyone sign it?

[cheerfuldom]

Im actually surprised at the number of people telling the OP to do passive aggressive things like block her in, etc. That doesn't address the real issue - which is this DCM's disrespect and carelessness toward the OPs husband, home and business. Blocking the driveway will only solve that problem; she will start with something else.

DCM needs, on no uncertain terms, to understand that she will not leave the door open, speak to anyone in the home rudely, block the driveway or anything else disrespectful, or she will have to find other care. I think only a frank discussion with termination mentioned will get through to her, because right now she's convinced she runs the show.

I've had to learn not to be afraid of confrontation because of the work I've done in the past 5 years - with the homeless, with people on the edge of society and the incredibly rude, inconsiderate person I work for now. Some people need it spelled out for them.

absolutely agree. the DCM is being completely rude and passive aggressive...i dont think it is right at all to encourage other passive aggressive actions in return. I have told parents where to park, not to smoke in my driveway, etc, etc. and if they cant follow the rules, out they go. Never had a parent not follow the rules when i put my foot down about it. Havent had to term for this type of behavior either.

[jojosmommy]

Yes this parent is being rude and disrespectful. IF she is so wrapped up in her own world that she can't "remember" to shut the door and park in the designated spot she is an idiot.

I would tell her that she may no longer park in your driveway EVER. I do not allow anyone to park in my driveway. Everyone parks on the street, walks up the drive and comes in. Safety, plus I don't like crappy cars dripping on my concrete.

I would also lock the door from now on. When she arrives and its locked open it (if she is in the appropriate parking space of course ) and say, since you are having so many issues with the door I have decided to open it and shut it myself.

Do that for a week. She will get the hint. If not, term.

What kind of adult has a full on war of words with someones husband while they are a guest on that person's property? Shaking my head right now.

[mema]

I think I would just flat out tell her, close the door and park on the street or find alternative care. I know it's easier "typed" then done. My backbone grows a little bit a at time, but plain disrespect like that and I don't have much problem using it. Good luck.

[momma2girls]

Let us all know what happened.

[snowball]

Let us all know what happened.

I was wondering too.

[bgmeyers]

Have you said anything? Is dcm behaving any better?

[Willow]

I'd term. Effective immediately. If she were truly a moron she'd be apologizing profusely and feeling embarrassed for her lack of thought. Instead, she's being a passive aggressive snot, plain and simple.


If you can't term start invoicing for the time her child is screwing around in your yard. If they are there until 6 she pays as if you were watching her until 6.

For slow pokes I've been known to let my four dogs out the back door, followed up with an "OMG I'm so sorry!!! I had no idea you were STILL here!!!" (emphasis on STILL). Having dogs, two of them giant, leaping around them and into their vehicle (boy do they love car rides!) is a great motivator to get them in and out the driveway fast.

All else fails walk the child(ren) directly to the car by hand yourself. I have a family I have to do that for right now. It's annoying, but the liability issues aren't something I care to be faced with if/when one of them gets hurt while on my property and farting around taking advantage of their wishy washy parent.


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