Annoying

[brookeroo]

I don't understand why some parents tell you things in the interview that are completely untrue.

Not that it's a big deal... I don't even ask how long they nap but I have had three moms tell me that their kids sleep and sleep and sleep for naps every single day...

NOPE not happening.

This last mom (with her husband sitting right next to her) (child is 2.5) told me very adamantly that her son sleeps every single day for 5 hours. I responded that was unbelievable and great and all but I probably wouldn't have him sleep that long. She insisted that he does every day. OK I am lucky if this kid sleeps for an hour. Some days he does not even nap! I said something to her the other day about him refusing to sleep and she admits... oh yeah... there are lots of days he doesn't sleep for me either.

Not a big deal to me as long as he lays there and rests, which he does but still frustrating that she told me that.

Another told me her infant naps for 2 hours in the morning and 2 hours in the afternoon... NOPE never. Cries constantly all day every day but I think she co sleeps so that may be why he naps and naps for her.

Another told me her (then 16 month old son) naps for 3 hours in the afternoon. He's now 19 months. Rarely does he sleep more than an hour and 15 mins.

I know the first thought will be the environment but I have figured out who is a light sleeper and who startles easily. I've managed to separate everyone into their own sleeping rooms and I put a fan in each room so that they sleep without interruptions of other kids waking/crying/playing ect... The above is the end results of that though...

I just don't understand why they tell you these things when they clearly are not true. Especially when you don't even ask them. They just tell you these stories! :confused: It's not like it makes a difference really!

[dave4him]

Children do have the tendacy to act different when not around their parents.... but still that is annoying

[Meyou]

When it comes to naps you're better off to ignore everything the parents say and go with your routine and schedule. All of my DCK's have different naps here than home or don't nap at all. I just plan for Mondays to be rough with a little extra sleep time if needed.

[brookeroo]

I don't follow their routine at all. I don't ask because to me it doesn't matter what they do at home. I'm going to do what works for me. I just don't understand why they would tell me that if I don't ask.

[Meyou]

I don't follow their routine at all. I don't ask because to me it doesn't matter what they do at home. I'm going to do what works for me. I just don't understand why they would tell me that if I don't ask.

That's just the way it works. I think sometimes they're just trying to convince themselves it's true. ::

[Crazy8]

they may just want you to think their child will be super easy to care for... but maybe theres some partial truth to some of them too. When my DD was a baby and in a daycare center she would NEVER take a morning nap for them but I swear to God every day we were home (3 days a week) she was down for nap by 9am. I had no clue why, the daycare provider probably thought I was fibbing too!!

[cheerfuldom]

Its called mom-nesia. They forget what the reality is sometimes

OR they have peter-pan-syndrome where they feel that if they say something long enough and believe in it hard enough, that makes it true.

I always ask about naps and such but I dont rely on the info at all. Most moms are not honest about the reality of who their child is and what their needs are. Some dont even really know because they are not around their child that often but would never ever say "I dont know".

The whole scenario happens on a daily basis here, especially first time moms.

Me "How was kids weekend?"
Them "It was fantastic! Smooth as silk"
Me"oh thats great"
Them "but wanted to let you know that he hasnt napped all weekend, lots of tantrums and timeouts, and he hasnt eaten for me either"

[daycarediva]

Its called mom-nesia. They forget what the reality is sometimes

OR they have peter-pan-syndrome where they feel that if they say something long enough and believe in it hard enough, that makes it true.

I always ask about naps and such but I dont rely on the info at all. Most moms are not honest about the reality of who their child is and what their needs are. Some dont even really know because they are not around their child that often but would never ever say "I dont know".

The whole scenario happens on a daily basis here, especially first time moms.

Me "How was kids weekend?"
Them "It was fantastic! Smooth as silk"
Me"oh thats great"
Them "but wanted to let you know that he hasnt napped all weekend, lots of tantrums and timeouts, and he hasnt eaten for me either"

hahahahaha! Totally stealing Mom-nesia! That Monday morning chat sounds familiar x 7