Help?

[My3cents]

Need ideas on a child that whines whenever you talk to her. Her response of don't bother me. Do you want to play with the toys? aaiiiiiggggh It is long drawn out and with under tone of don't look at me, don't talk to me, etc...

Any ideas besides telling her, use your words ???

My other kiddo's don't do this, but my fear is that it will fast be picked up and then I have had it. Child is two, can repeat and tell me what she wants.

Mine is another favorite word-

I would love ideas on how to revisit this stage and what you have found works and doesn't work. Many Thanks~

[My3cents]

bumping this in hopes of some ideas. The child is able to repeat, and say a few words for needs but the quick response is Auuughhhhh, it is a whiney sound. Where the child picked this up is beyond me? It is the child's form of NO but it is long, nasty look and driving me batty. The other kids are put off by this. They just want the child to play with them. Ideas please please--- Just a stage I have to wait out or can I help this child out of it faster?

[Blackcat31]

To me, that is disrespectful behavior and I would treat it like any other negative behavior.

Do time out or removal from whatever activity the child is doing or loss of priviledges. Tell them, you will not tolerate them talking to you in such a rude manner.

I bet the child will pick up pretty quickly that they need to use "nice" words when speaking to others.

[sahm2three]

To me, that is disrespectful behavior and I would treat it like any other negative behavior.

Do time out or removal from whatever activity the child is doing or loss of priviledges. Tell them, you will not tolerate them talking to you in such a rude manner.

I bet the child will pick up pretty quickly that they need to use "nice" words when speaking to others.

I completely agree. How old is the child? I think I missed that. I had a 4 year old girl one time that did this. I would warn her for a while that she must use her big girl words and if she chose not to she would go to time. Into time out if she refused to listen and let her sit in time out until she was quiet and calm and then ask if she was ready to use her nice big girl words and if she said yes, out she went, if not, then she could sit a while longer. This went on ALL day one day, and the parents told me I HAD to win this battle or she would own me, . So it was a long day, but it worked. Not a fun day, but she knew I meant business and it was my way or the highway, sister! Good luck!

[My3cents]

child is two

can repeat well
does understand but just getting to know her and to how much she understands I don't know yet.
does have some vocabulary

How do you keep a two year old in time out? The runaway kind:-) Is time out effective at this age or does it depend on the child?

Parents are used to this behavior and act like it is what the child does. Nonono
and no.....

Thanks and keep the ideas coming- I agree it is rude even at two. Trying to nip it in the bud quick

[Blackcat31]

child is two

can repeat well
does understand but just getting to know her and to how much she understands I don't know yet.
does have some vocabulary

How do you keep a two year old in time out? The runaway kind:-) Is time out effective at this age or does it depend on the child? At two, I would probably just separate the child. Sit next to them if you do try a time out. It should be about a minute per age so with a little quick intervention every time and a bit of consistency, she should pick up really quickly that it is not ok to talk like that.

Parents are used to this behavior and act like it is what the child does. Nonono
and no..... Tell the parents you will NOT tolerate that kind of talk and that their child will be punished for it. I know she is only two but at what point does certain behaviors stop being cute and start requiring some preventative or pro-active corrections? This is all part of learning appropriate social skills.

Thanks and keep the ideas coming- I agree it is rude even at two. Trying to nip it in the bud quick

I answered in bold.