Insatiable Baby... Diet?!

[Lyss]

Only 6oz in 8 hours? Holy Starvation Batman!!!

My 7 month old eats 6-8oz every four hours plus a "meal" (1-2 tbsp oatmeal and 1/2 jar of baby food) in between and I wonder if she's not getting enough as she's a very lean baby.

My 7 1/2mo old DCB eats 5-6oz every 3 hours, mom and dad have just started to introduce solids. He's a chunk!

The poor child is starving! healthy nutrition is a vital part of growth and development! And the other thing too is by not addressing it with mom, because it makes you uncomfortable or you worry what she will think about you, means that you too are contributing to his poor nutrition and development and could be held partial responsible if anything ever came about. In my state I'm required, by law, to notify the state of any circumstances of abuse or neglect and poor nutrition is listed as a form of abuse and neglect. So if I didn't say anything I could be held liable, plus i would feel terrible!!

I'm not saying you don't feel terrible and your obviously concerned about it! You need to have a frank talk with mom and give her any information you have received from your nutrition program or licensing coordinator about proper nutrition at his age. if you feel that uncomfortable blame it on them, say the rules just changed and you can not feed a child anything that does not meet the state/federal standards in your program by law. I throw my licensing coordinator to the wolves all the time! !

PS... I thought no fish or yogurt under 1 year? that's what I was told by my licencing coordinator and nutrition program representative (and my pediatrician for my own child).

[Heidi]

OP- I am worried you are going to think people are attacking you now.. please don't think that! We are worried about dcb and we are also concerned about putting yourself in a situation where YOU could be held responsible! lovethislovethislovethis

[countrymom]

keep feeding him. How is she going to know whether or not your feeding him unless she is weighing him. If she is weighing him then you need to call someone to come and deal with her. don't let her nonsense detour you, nows the time to get a back bone. If you don't stand up for this child who will then.

[Blackcat31]

OP- I am worried you are going to think people are attacking you now.. please don't think that! We are worried about dcb and we are also concerned about putting yourself in a situation where YOU could be held responsible! lovethislovethislovethis

yes this! Please don't think anyone is attacking you...... I am just really concerned about you being in such a tough situation and I know from experience that the provider is the one who has to deal with all the fallout should things take a turn for the worse. I really don't want to see you have to go through that.

Please talk with mom or term so you don't have to be part of this. Who cares what mom thinks about your reasons.....I care about YOU! If you term and don't think mom is going to change....you do need to at least make a report to licensing or CPS so the little guy grows and develops correctly.

[AfterSchoolMom]

At ten months, my DCB was eating three 6 oz bottles per 8 hour day, plus two jars of baby food - one at breakfast and one at lunch.

I totally agree with everyone else. I'd term, report, or both. If you do term, I'd tell her exactly why and who cares what she thinks of you...maybe it would open her eyes! So sorry you have to go through this.

[youretooloud]

keep feeding him. How is she going to know whether or not your feeding him unless she is weighing him.

This is what I would do too. Let her believe he's only eating his one teaspoon of rice, but feed him what everybody else is eating.

He's probably getting too old for baby food, so just include him in everything everybody else is eating. (within reason) Let her micromanage his meals on the weekends, but you can quietly refuse.

[Kiki]

:confused: I'm at a loss of words at this point. I agree with all of the other posters here, but I'm starting to lean more towards the terming idea. I'd let mom know at pick up that she has 2 choices, 1-bring enough food for tomorrow, or 2-find another provider. This isn't a battle you should be fighting with her any longer, I just hope for the babies sake that mom picks choice 1, and he gets the proper amounts of food. Lord knows there are plenty of other providers out there that really would not know if that was enough food or not, and wouldn't second guess it.

[jessrlee]

Is this the same troll as yesterday?

[MotherNature]

I don't feel like I can confront her about it

I have been semi-secretly feeding the baby extra portions of food for months now and she wants it to stop.

I can't do food program because I'm legally unlicensed but all of the other parents did voluntarily agree to a slight rate increase and now no one packs anymore and I provide excellent freshly cooked nutritious foods to all the other kids except hers.

It makes me extremely uncomfortable feeding him so little when he has such a good appetite for healthy foods. My own 10month old son eats only a little, but that's because he's still nursing a ton so he's certainly getting plenty to eat still.

I'd report to cps. It's going to be obvious who reported them for malnourishment though. I'd print out a sheet that says how much a child should be eating at that age. My own son has food/ growth problems and is udner the care of a geneticist, an endocrinologist, and a naturopath MD, but he rarely has much of an appetite. Getting him to eat is a struggle. If this baby is ravenous, I'd definitely feed him. If the parents are hostile call cps, & your licensor.

[Rockgirl]

:confused: I'm at a loss of words at this point. I agree with all of the other posters here, but I'm starting to lean more towards the terming idea. I'd let mom know at pick up that she has 2 choices, 1-bring enough food for tomorrow, or 2-find another provider. This isn't a battle you should be fighting with her any longer, I just hope for the babies sake that mom picks choice 1, and he gets the proper amounts of food. Lord knows there are plenty of other providers out there that really would not know if that was enough food or not, and wouldn't second guess it.

I agree 100%.

[Hunni Bee]

Is this the same troll as yesterday?

Seems like it!!

What the hell? Why are people doing this?

Guys please DO NOT feed the troll. Don't make a single post in response to this imbecile, and he'll go away.

[Willow]

Never mind

[Hunni Bee]

Seems pretty black and white to me. Kids have some pretty basic needs whether you're licensed or not - they need to be changed, they need to be in a safe environment, and they need to be fed.

There wouldn't need to be a discussion about it, I'd just point blank tell mom I refuse to starve a child in my care. Her provided portions are grossly under what a child that age should be eating. I'd tell her she either brings more food or goes elsewhere.

There is no reason in the world good enough to let this continue under your watch Echo. If nothing else think about it like this....kid ends up dehydrated or with an electrolyte imbalance and passes out, develops a heart arrhythmia or worse....when law enforcement comes to investigate do you want to be thrown under the bus for the state of that child? And then quite possibly have the care of your own children investigated?

No more discussion. Compliance or term and report. Hopefully you've documented well so investigators will see you tried tirelessly to get her to see the light.

This thread is from July 2012. It just got brought back up because Trollface up there posted something dumb on it.

[SilverSabre25]

Move along, move along. Nothing to see here. Old thread with a stupid troll. Troll post has been deleted. Move along now, nothing to see...

[Leigh]

DIdn't see it was an old thread. Deleted.