Off Limit(S) Words In Your Home

[daycarediva]

What words (aside from obvious swear words) are not acceptable to use in your home and which do you let slide?

Some of mine are:
retard/retarded
stupid
freaking/frickin (might as well be saying the F word)
fire



My dcm came to me last week concerned that dcb (JUST 2) has bad language. Specifically NO and MINE. I almost laughed. Those are the only two words he really has to 'defend' himself from the older kids when they want to take something. I LIKE that he will now come to me and say "Dat mine!" and point to a toy that some other child just snatched instead of hitting the kid (like before). Or saying "No" when I ask if he wants more food instead of whining and me having to guess. I thought 'no' and 'mine' were pretty standard toddler words. ?

[SilverSabre25]

Oh my...I wish you luck with that family! Those are ABSOLUTELY appropriate and good words for a toddler to have, in exactly the manner you just described, and for the reasons you described! I would explain gently to the parents exactly what you typed here...that those are important words for toddlers to use to defend themselves and get what they want/need or to NOT get what they don't want. It's important, it's not bad language, it's NORMAL.

Now if their toddler was saying, "No, that's mine, b**ch!" THAT would be a problem!

[DaycareMama]

In addition to the words you listed I also don't allow

Stupid
Idiot
someone telling another they will "kill" them
Any bathroom talk
your ugly
no gun sounds
aww h*ll
Darn ( I will try and get them to say sugar instead)
Fake burping
I don't like this (at meal time)
any words that put another child down


Lol i may have taken this a little too far but they are all things I don't allow.

[WImom]

In addition to the words you listed I also don't allow

Stupid
Idiot
someone telling another they will "kill" them
Any bathroom talk
your ugly
no gun sounds
aww h*ll
Darn ( I will try and get them to say sugar instead)
Fake burping
I don't like this (at meal time)
any words that put another child down


Lol i may have taken this a little too far but they are all things I don't allow.

I'm the same except I don't mind darn.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

We don't use unkind words towards one another.

[AfterSchoolMom]

Two that I didn't see on the list yet:

Shut up

and...

When I have older SA's here, I add "gay" to the list, since it's most often said as an insult.

[Former Teacher]

The boy that I just finished taking care (moved due to military) is 4 years old.

He was always saying WHAT THE?! I had absolutely NO idea where he got this from. He loves Disney's Cars movie. Turns out Mater the Tow Truck in Cars 2 says it. Yes Disney.

Maybe I am wrong but I just think WHAT THE? is inappropriate

[clep]

In addition to the words you listed I also don't allow

Stupid
Idiot
someone telling another they will "kill" them
Any bathroom talk
your ugly
no gun sounds
aww h*ll
Darn ( I will try and get them to say sugar instead)
Fake burping
I don't like this (at meal time)
any words that put another child down


Lol i may have taken this a little too far but they are all things I don't allow.

I am exactly like this except I also have:

good girl
good boy
darn (oh my gosh)
I don't like you
Your not my friend

[Former Teacher]

I am exactly like this except I also have:

good girl
good boy
darn (oh my gosh)
I don't like you
Your not my friend

Maybe I am having a brain fart ::

but how come you don't allow good boy/girl :confused:

Even I say that!

[clep]

Maybe I am having a brain fart ::

but how come you don't allow good boy/girl :confused:

Even I say that!

I say wonderful job or lets try again. I don't want children to be labeled good or bad based upon the views of others. To me it teaches children's self worth to be based upon outside sources which creates the exact opposite I want them to learn, and people pleasers at an early age. Their behavior isn't always acceptable but they are always valuable little people.

[Former Teacher]

I say wonderful job or lets try again. I don't want children to be labeled good or bad based upon the views of others. To me it teaches children's self worth to be based upon outside sources which creates the exact opposite I want them to learn, and people pleasers at an early age. Their behavior isn't always acceptable but they are always valuable little people.

Gotcha!

[DCBlessings27]

I have most of the ones that have been said as well. However, lately I've struggled with one phrase that a dcg says. "I'm sexy and I know it."

I just don't find it appropriate that a 3yo thinks she needs to say that. I know it's a song that people can't seem to escape from (a FB friend hates it, and she traveled all the way to South Korea and said she still heard it there).

[clep]

I have most of the ones that have been said as well. However, lately I've struggled with one phrase that a dcg says. "I'm sexy and I know it."

I just don't find it appropriate that a 3yo thinks she needs to say that. I know it's a song that people can't seem to escape from (a FB friend hates it, and she traveled all the way to South Korea and said she still heard it there).

I play the u-tube parody "I'm Elmo and I know it". Super funny and Elmo dances. It has completely replaced he Sexy word even when my day home children hear it outside of the day home. Parents are pretty happy with the change.

[DCBlessings27]

I play the u-tube parody "I'm Elmo and I know it". Super funny and Elmo dances. It has completely replaced he Sexy word even when my day home children hear it outside of the day home. Parents are pretty happy with the change.

See, I played the Elmo version last week and at first dcg would say "I'm Elmo, and I know it," but then she started saying the "sexy" part again once it was in her head.

[nanglgrl]

What the?

***, now I know why my daughter says"what the?" all of the time! I don't allow:

retard
any cuss words
and racially, physically discriminating words
basically any words used to put another child down

I don't care about fake burping or farting (as long as they say excuse me)or gun noises. As far as the farting, they are just children and I use it as a way to teach some manners...I'm pretty sure if I let them fake burp and fart now they aren't going to be still doing it when they are adults. The gun noises to me it's just one of those things I don't fight about...just like if you don't allow guns in your daycare children will still pick up sticks, etc. and act like they are guns (even the ones who have never seen a gun before). I don't care about "good girl" or "good boy" because my children like to play like they are dogs on a regular basis so this would not work well for us. These are all things that have to be individual choices so we do not go nuts as providers. I know my aunt is from the south and can't stand it when a child calls her her name (they need to call her mam), I personally do not want anyone to call me mam!