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What do you do when parents allow their kids to run in screaming-excited kind- or crying everyday!? I hate starting my day this way. How rude?!
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Ugh, I can see how it is hard to start the day out that way. Have you talked to the parents about it? Are they at all uncomfortable or ok with the way their child enters?
I could deal with the "excited to be here" squealing/screaming, but the "crying-screaming" would NOT be so welcome...... If it was the crying-screaming, I would seriously want drop-offs to be super fast so I could quickly calm the child and start the day.
The squealing "happy to be there" noises would make me cringe simply because I prefer to ease into my day and not jump in full force so I would maybe ask mom or dad to see if they can have the child do their squealing BEFORE actually entering your house.
I don't know....just kind of throwing some ideas out there. I don't really how I would deal with that. I guess it would depend on the age of the child and the situation (happy to be there or not wanting to come...kwim?) and how the parent-provider relationship is. -
I have a sibling set that come in every morning super hyper. It's usually when we are eating breakfast so it bugs me even more. After mom/dad leaves I just remind them that they are at school now and they need to calm down and not to come to the table until they know they are ready for our table manners. Then after breakfast they are usually fine until pick up when they are back to being crazy again...
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Yeah, the crying-screaming would really bother me since my own kids are usually just getting up or sleeping. Is there a quiet activity they like alot that you could have out and get the child interested in right away to help them calm down quickly?Comment
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One of mine (almost 3) came in the door screaming today, and I had to walk away...dreadful to watch a parent negotiate a child out of a temper tantrum.
My attitude: It's called NO! **** it up, butter cup, you're gonna hear that more than once in your life!
I'd rather the parent just leave and let me deal with it. Passive face.."well, I have to get going...kiss hug..see you this afternoon". Honestly, little man was SMILING through half the "tantrum"....****ing up all that attention..
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Parents lack common sense and respect.
So the crying is not because they don't want to be at daycare. Its because they didnt get something (IPAD) in the car, or they brought a toy with they know that they cant take in, or in todays case- dad put the kids in too big of clothes (AGAIN) and 4 yr old boy was irritated his pants kept falling down. Always preventable with a little discipline or common sense. Always ends at the door within 30 seconds. Just long enough to wake my sleeping kids.
I WOULD NEVER bring a screaming child into daycare until the trantrum stopped. It is the worst way to start the day. Seriously who wants their work to run in the door screaming EVERY DAY?!?!? How annoying.
Dad is clueless. I think its plain old disrespect.
Today I saw it out the door- pants falling down included and locked the door. Dad and son worked it out on the step and I opened the door "Ready now???"
Just wondering if this is a common occurrance and if people put up with it everyday or what I can do to stop them from such rude enterances?Comment
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In that case, I would directly address the parent dropping off and say that they are NOT to enter your house until the child is done tantruming as you have children who are still sleeping. Especially since the issue is caused by lack of control and/or bad parenting on their part so I would absolutley give the issue back to whom it belongs to...the parent.
Also I think 4 years old is old enough for the parent to talk to and be able to expect results from the child.
Ugh, (((hugs))) for dealing as that is a really s****y way to begin the day for sure!
Maybe time for a bit of NannyDe's "buh-bye outside" program.
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I let parents know that they may not bring their child into my home on a regular basis screaming. Children go through different stages and I understand that so I am flexible. If that is the normal dynamic between that parent and child, they need to deal with it outside or find another place that doesn't mind their passive parenting style to effect their day so negatively first thing in the morning.
I keep track of how often that child is screaming upon arrival. If that child quits the moment their parent leaves and only does it around their parent, I provide notice. As the child get's older, the behaviors only get worse with noneffective parenting.
It's at the point for me now where I am closing my day home soon as I am sick of watching adults negotiate with entitled children, and watching the children in control of that negotiation. Well that and I LOVE my other job.
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exactly! Today it was something the child was playing with in the car, and mom wanted it back. But instead of stating "Give it to me", she asked "nicely", using please, which made it sound optional, then had to force the issue. Then, it was 15 minutes of trying to convince him he would have a fun day (which of course, he always does). eh!
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Since when do children have to bring something in the car with them every time they go somewhere? Asking a child means they have the option of saying no and 95% of parents just don't get that. The convincing part is my favorite.exactly! Today it was something the child was playing with in the car, and mom wanted it back. But instead of stating "Give it to me", she asked "nicely", using please, which made it sound optional, then had to force the issue. Then, it was 15 minutes of trying to convince him he would have a fun day (which of course, he always does). eh!
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I agree with all of the PP-make sure you address the issue with the parents, just let them know, 'Hey my kids are still sleeping in the morning, will you make sure to bring them to the door as quietly as you can in the morning so my children can get the rest they need...' something.
My kids aren't allowed toys in the car at all. Unless we are driving for more than an hour, what is the point? They don't even ask anymore, my middle DD tried the other day when we were headed out, she started to say 'Mom can I..', and then said 'Oh, never mind, you're just going to say no!', ::
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Wish I had an answer!! I don't have the exact same problem but it is soooo annoying how LOUD my dc parents come in in the mornings. They practically scream "good morning". I speak back softly and mention (usually to the child) how everyone is sleeping and parent will STILL continue to talk in a loud voice. I am just like WTH?????
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