I Get That You Want Your Daughter to Look Cute.....

[cheerfuldom]

I pull all hair accessories out right at the door and into the diaper bag they go. I have told parents numerous times not to send them and they still do. I do not refix hair, just send the stuff home.

[Nickel]

I have an aa daughter and I was sooo mad when I picked up my six year old one day and they had taken her hair out. It takes me five plus hours to do my daughters hair. I don't attach beads and if I do clips she has never once pulled them out. Even when she was two. Mostly I use rubber bands but I anyway, they took out all of the rubber bands and braids that I had in her hair. I was so upset because it then took me two hours to wash and detangle my daughters hair (with her crying the whole time because it was so matted and painful) after they took everything out. They told me that their policy was that anything that could fit through a toilet paper tube couldn't be in her hair. I personally would have rather they called me to come take her hair out. At least I could have secured it in a way that wouldn't get completely matted!

I get the clips and beads and barrates can be a chocking hazard, especially if they have little hair and they can take it out. But for my aa daughter i don't think they have any right to take out rubber bands that are secured to her hair. I had to go out and purchase big fluffly scrunchies to do her hair which didn't secure it properly. They actually slid out more than the small rubber bands did. sigh. But I think the key here is properly secured. You wouldn't snip off a button that was sewn to a shirt would you? So if it's not in danger of falling out no problem, but if it is it has to go... which is why I never put beads in my daughters hair until she was in kindergarden ...

ANYWAY, back to the op if it fell out or she pulled the clips out I'd put them in her cubby. and I would let them know no beads of any size. if she has very fine hair and you know they absolutely will fall out, take them out when she gets there and put them in her cubby. jmho

[DCMom]

I don't mind the small elastic/plastic bands. It's what I request my dcparents use in little girls' hair. I hate it when their hair hangs in the face or gets in the way when playing. I have 8 little dcg's of various ages, all with longish hair, so my assistant and I often put in pigtails or ponies.

If they come to daycare with a choking hazard of some sort (jewelry, hair accessories), I take it out/off and hand it to the parent immediately and request that they not wear something like that again. If it comes back, it's mine. I've never really had an ongoing problem with it ~ they usually get the message

[Breezy]

For long hair I French braid it while they are sitting after breakfast. Stays out of faces and looks cute!

[DCMom]

For long hair I French braid it while they are sitting after breakfast. Stays out of faces and looks cute!

Me too, especially on hot days or water days. Or at least I try...my assistant is 17 and is waaaay better at it than me, ! So that's her job while I clean up breakfast, braids and sunscreen!

[Hunni Bee]

what do you do about the African american kids that come with dozens of beads, barrets, and elastics? They say it's part of their culture and I feel like I am walking a fine line to disallow it.
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I have an aa daughter and I was sooo mad when I picked up my six year old one day and they had taken her hair out. It takes me five plus hours to do my daughters hair. I don't attach beads and if I do clips she has never once pulled them out. Even when she was two. Mostly I use rubber bands but I anyway, they took out all of the rubber bands and braids that I had in her hair. I was so upset because it then took me two hours to wash and detangle my daughters hair (with her crying the whole time because it was so matted and painful) after they took everything out. They told me that their policy was that anything that could fit through a toilet paper tube couldn't be in her hair. I personally would have rather they called me to come take her hair out. At least I could have secured it in a way that wouldn't get completely matted!

I get the clips and beads and barrates can be a chocking hazard, especially if they have little hair and they can take it out. But for my aa daughter i don't think they have any right to take out rubber bands that are secured to her hair. I had to go out and purchase big fluffly scrunchies to do her hair which didn't secure it properly. They actually slid out more than the small rubber bands did. sigh. But I think the key here is properly secured. You wouldn't snip off a button that was sewn to a shirt would you? So if it's not in danger of falling out no problem, but if it is it has to go... which is why I never put beads in my daughters hair until she was in kindergarden ...

ANYWAY, back to the op if it fell out or she pulled the clips out I'd put them in her cubby. and I would let them know no beads of any size. if she has very fine hair and you know they absolutely will fall out, take them out when she gets there and put them in her cubby. jmho

I am African American, I wore millions of barrettes, beads and hair accessories as a child, and I work at an all-Black daycare with an all-Black staff. I've also done black children's hair dozens of times.

I totally get it. It's actually DIFFICULT to control a black child's hair without dividing into small sections and securing it with hair accessories. I also think it looks pretty, and like Michelle said, its an identifying element of our culture.

I still called for my center to outlaw beads in the entire center, and all small hair accessories for toddlers. It is VERY scary to be changing a child's diaper and find a tiny barrette or bead in their mouth. It's even scarier when you don't find it til the child gets in trouble. Thankfully we were able to help the child before tragedy struck, but what if we werent?

It's just not worth it. Yes, its hard to keep their hair neat without beads, but its not impossible. None of us want the devastation of having a child die on our watch, especially because of something like that.

On a more petty note, nobody feels like replacing barrettes all day or picking them up all day or getting reamed out because they got lost/thrown away.

I can see both sides, but parents have to meet the provider in the middle. We're not going to ban everything just for the heck of it, but don't make us.

[saved4always]

I hate that!!! I really don't understand why parents think that children under the age of 3 need hair pretties!!!! Total choking hazard. Same with balloons (another pet peeve of mine!). I always remove things from the little one's heads as soon as the parents leave and put them in the child's diaper bag.

[saved4always]

I have an aa daughter and I was sooo mad when I picked up my six year old one day and they had taken her hair out. It takes me five plus hours to do my daughters hair. I don't attach beads and if I do clips she has never once pulled them out. Even when she was two. Mostly I use rubber bands but I anyway, they took out all of the rubber bands and braids that I had in her hair. I was so upset because it then took me two hours to wash and detangle my daughters hair (with her crying the whole time because it was so matted and painful) after they took everything out. They told me that their policy was that anything that could fit through a toilet paper tube couldn't be in her hair. I personally would have rather they called me to come take her hair out. At least I could have secured it in a way that wouldn't get completely matted!

I get the clips and beads and barrates can be a chocking hazard, especially if they have little hair and they can take it out. But for my aa daughter i don't think they have any right to take out rubber bands that are secured to her hair. I had to go out and purchase big fluffly scrunchies to do her hair which didn't secure it properly. They actually slid out more than the small rubber bands did. sigh. But I think the key here is properly secured. You wouldn't snip off a button that was sewn to a shirt would you? So if it's not in danger of falling out no problem, but if it is it has to go... which is why I never put beads in my daughters hair until she was in kindergarden ...

ANYWAY, back to the op if it fell out or she pulled the clips out I'd put them in her cubby. and I would let them know no beads of any size. if she has very fine hair and you know they absolutely will fall out, take them out when she gets there and put them in her cubby. jmho

It sounds like there was not really a chance of your daughter's rubber bands coming out. That stinks that they took them out and it caused so much suffering for your daughter. They probably had a policy and couldn't make exceptions. With something that elaborate though, I would have talked to you first so you could find an alternative that would not make a mess of her hair. I think they could have worked with you better on it for sure.

The little ones I have had where the clips had to go were ones who had little hair, it was very fine and silky, and mom was more concerned that no one think her little girl was a boy than if her hair clips were safe. My daughter had little hair until she was over 2 and I never put choking hazard items in her hair even though some people thought she was a cute little boy wearing pink...sigh... but I preferred to have her safe than pretty.

[Nickel]

I am African American, I wore millions of barrettes, beads and hair accessories as a child, and I work at an all-Black daycare with an all-Black staff. I've also done black children's hair dozens of times.

I totally get it. It's actually DIFFICULT to control a black child's hair without dividing into small sections and securing it with hair accessories. I also think it looks pretty, and like Michelle said, its an identifying element of our culture.

I still called for my center to outlaw beads in the entire center, and all small hair accessories for toddlers. It is VERY scary to be changing a child's diaper and find a tiny barrette or bead in their mouth. It's even scarier when you don't find it til the child gets in trouble. Thankfully we were able to help the child before tragedy struck, but what if we werent?

It's just not worth it. Yes, its hard to keep their hair neat without beads, but its not impossible. None of us want the devastation of having a child die on our watch, especially because of something like that.

On a more petty note, nobody feels like replacing barrettes all day or picking them up all day or getting reamed out because they got lost/thrown away.

I can see both sides, but parents have to meet the provider in the middle. We're not going to ban everything just for the heck of it, but don't make us.

i agree that no beads should be used in a daycare setting and if barrettes are constantly falling out thats not okay. But id they hair tie or barrette is secured with no chance of falling out then i sont see the problem. But when mine was a babybi didnt put clips in her hair cuz there just wasnt enough there to ensure they didnt come out and with my very white daughter i wouldnt send her with bows either. Especially with ither young children because there is no way i can properly secure the item... Thats all. Thats just my two cents. And if it fell out i wouldnt out it back in. But i thought my daughters daycare went ablittle too far when they disallowed even tiny rubber bands (center was predominitely white). I literally had to buy hair ties that would not fit through the choking tube. Frustrating. Especially since she is biracial so braids wont stay without a hairtien wish i had known about yarn twists back then!!! Lol

[Hunni Bee]

i agree that no beads should be used in a daycare setting and if barrettes are constantly falling out thats not okay. But id they hair tie or barrette is secured with no chance of falling out then i sont see the problem. But when mine was a babybi didnt put clips in her hair cuz there just wasnt enough there to ensure they didnt come out and with my very white daughter i wouldnt send her with bows either. Especially with ither young children because there is no way i can properly secure the item... Thats all. Thats just my two cents. And if it fell out i wouldnt out it back in. But i thought my daughters daycare went ablittle too far when they disallowed even tiny rubber bands (center was predominitely white). I literally had to buy hair ties that would not fit through the choking tube. Frustrating. Especially since she is biracial so braids wont stay without a hairtien wish i had known about yarn twists back then!!! Lol

I agree, there was no reason for them to take them out. Like you said, if they absolutely had to come out then they should have called you, or waited til pick up time like.normal people.

[Nickel]

Glad I'm not the only one. Honestly I would have switched centers but I worked right down the hall in the infant room. So honestly, i was 20 feet away. If it was that big of an issue they should have just told me to come do it. What really got me is that all the kids in that room were in the preschool room. My daughter was literally starting k in the fall. So even if for some reason a rubber band snapped and came out of her hair (which rarely happens. They usually just stick to the end ) all of the kids were what 5? I mean if they don't know not to stick a rubber band in their mouth at that age, they have problems!!!! grrrr... sorry, it still upsets me five years later!

[dave4him]

Beats bringing them looking homeless

[Michelle]

I love the beads, when they are running around, I always know where they are and they look so adorable.
Like one of the other posters said, they have to be very secure and the parents I have do a great job with that.