Making Tough Decisions

[melskids]

i dont tell them anything either until they notice a new child here. first thing they ask is "so, is that allowed?" like i'm gonna risk getting in trouble by going over ratio. i dont think its any of their business really.

as far as telling them i'm expanding, i put it right in my june newsletter. the only reason i did give a heads up is because this is a REALLY small town, and i thought maybe one of my parents might know someone looking for a job. i'm hoping to find someone without paying the cost to advertise.... and truthfully, i do want to find someone the parents will like. ultimately, the decision of who to hire is up to me, but in small town living, everyone knows everyone's business, and one of my parents for sure will know the low down on someone, and can tell me who to stear clear from. (i'm still new around here and dont know everyone yet)

the parents of the baby did huff and puff a bit, but like i said, they are free to find a nanny if thats what they want.

[fctjc1979]

I normally don't mention it either but from some of the posts, it sounds like this is a conversation that she's had with this mom on several occasions already. That's the only reason I mentioned it.

[MarinaVanessa]

I think it's great that you are making the decision based on what is better for yourself and your family. Reading about this makes me thing of a story:

There was an old man and his grandchild going into town leading their mule. It was a nice walk and they enjoyed doing it often. As they passed a farm he overheard the farmers talking about how the old man should be smart and ride the mule into town instead of having to walk. So the old man got on the mule and his grandson led the mule. They passed another farm and he overheard the farmers talk about how selfish the old man was for riding the mule and having the young child walk. He got off of the mule and put his grandson on the mule and went on. They passed another farm and he overheard the farmers talking about how bratty the child must be to ride the mule while his poor old grandfather was forced to walk. The old man got on the mule as well and rode on the mule along with his grandson. They passed another farm and he overheard the farmers talking about how abusive they both were for overworking the poor old mule and making it carry the weight of both of them. The old man finally had enough and they both got off and continued their way to town both on foot ignoring anything anyone else had to say and enjoyed the rest of their walk.

Moral of the story: You will never please everyone and someone will always have something to say about the way you do things. It is better to choose for yourself what you would rather do and decide on the way you want to it.

[Greenshadow]

LOVE the story - and so true!!

I feel like I should mention it to this parent because I already know how she feels and I want to give her the choice as to whether she wants to keep her son in my care or remove him, before I take on another child. If I just bring in another child without telling her first, she will be upset. I feel that even though it IS my business, they should have a say as to whether they want their child in my care knowing that Im bringing in another child. Im not going to NOT bring in a child because she doesnt want me to; Im just allowing her the option to remove him if she wants to BECAUSE Im bringing in another child.

Thanks for all the words of encouragement and advice! I love this place.

[MarinaVanessa]

LOVE the story - and so true!!

I feel like I should mention it to this parent because I already know how she feels and I want to give her the choice as to whether she wants to keep her son in my care or remove him, before I take on another child. If I just bring in another child without telling her first, she will be upset. I feel that even though it IS my business, they should have a say as to whether they want their child in my care knowing that Im bringing in another child. Im not going to NOT bring in a child because she doesnt want me to; Im just allowing her the option to remove him if she wants to BECAUSE Im bringing in another child.

Thanks for all the words of encouragement and advice! I love this place.

It's understandable. And this way also if she decided she wants to pull her child out you can advertise for two spots instead of just the one. I always find that it's easier to fill two spots (siblings) than it is to find someone with only 1 child or planning to always only have 1 child. If it's 1 spot it takes a little longer and there's always that risk that the parents will have another child and have to leave DC to find someone that can take both kids.

[professionalmom]

I think it's great that you are making the decision based on what is better for yourself and your family. Reading about this makes me thing of a story:

There was an old man and his grandchild going into town leading their mule. It was a nice walk and they enjoyed doing it often. As they passed a farm he overheard the farmers talking about how the old man should be smart and ride the mule into town instead of having to walk. So the old man got on the mule and his grandson led the mule. They passed another farm and he overheard the farmers talk about how selfish the old man was for riding the mule and having the young child walk. He got off of the mule and put his grandson on the mule and went on. They passed another farm and he overheard the farmers talking about how bratty the child must be to ride the mule while his poor old grandfather was forced to walk. The old man got on the mule as well and rode on the mule along with his grandson. They passed another farm and he overheard the farmers talking about how abusive they both were for overworking the poor old mule and making it carry the weight of both of them. The old man finally had enough and they both got off and continued their way to town both on foot ignoring anything anyone else had to say and enjoyed the rest of their walk.

Moral of the story: You will never please everyone and someone will always have something to say about the way you do things. It is better to choose for yourself what you would rather do and decide on the way you want to it.

Can I steal the story? I LOVE it!!