Have To Term A Perfect Family, Don't Want To!

[Blackcat31]

Actually this issue is still up in the air and coming to a head very very soon. DCM has stalled and prolonged giving me an answer as to what she wants to do. I have the openings for both her kids as far as my limit of 6, however it would make my under 2 ratio out of whack, but I was considering it anyway (Yes yes, I know I know...). Anyway, she wants cheap cheap cheap. We sat down to talk and I gave her my final price. She STILL stalled, despite crying while we talked, and I'm still waiting to hear back from her what she wants to do.

So, I stopped waiting on her. She has taken months and months, well, her entire pregnancy really. She keeps saying 2 weeks 2 weeks we'll talk again in 2 weeks but doesn't really happen.

So, this week I've been doing interviews. I just signed a toddler age 2 and have 3 interviews for 1 infant spot so I can pick who I want most. So I've filled the spots this week and as soon as I have contracts and deposits in hand I'll tell her the offer has expired and her spots have been filled as of November 1st.

Good for you! happyface

Honestly had you simply continued to wait around for her, you would have been setting a bad stage with this family then as DCM would think it was always up to her and that she is the one calling the shots since you just waited around.

I hope you get the deposits and contracts in hand soon.

It will be good for this other DCM to see the results of her procrastination.

It wasn't like you didn't give her enough time.

[BABYLUVER]

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The same thing happened to me. I had her child for over 2 years and she got pregnant, swore the day she was in labor and everything, that they'd return June 6, 2011 (Baby was born in mid-April). June 6th came and went. I waited til Friday of that week, thinking maybe it was me who got the date wrong. I called that Friday and no return call. I called again that following Monday, and nothing. So, I texted about a week later that I would not hold any spaces. I FINALLY got a call around June 20th informing me that they would not be returning, because she decided to stay home. In the same breath, she told me she took the baby to a church daycare instead, because I didn't have a church-based curriculum. I asked her "So are you working or not? You just said you were going to be staying home" She got quiet, said she had to go. I found out (Not hard, since she's a reporter) that guess what? She returned to work the date she first gave me and never intended on quitting her job. She just wanted that church-based care she slipped and told me about in error. I was very much lied to.

I think that maybe this was similar to what your dcm was going thru, but didn't know how to tell you she wasn't coming back. Stalling is a form of basically quitting w/o the balls to just say that's what they want to do.

[providerandmomof4]

Leave it in their hands. Just explain that you can't take another baby. Maybe they will find a temp solution until you have an opening? In this buisness you never know that could be tomorrow or in 6 months. Don't term them. Wait until the baby is born and see where you are on kids. You kjust never know.....

I agree....I've stressed about similar situations and had a "great family" leave unexpectedly. You really don't know.

[Abigail]

If you still have their one child and they are the perfect family like you stated back in June why not just keep taking their one child who is a week younger than yours and not take the other baby? Why start two new kids immediately when you really only need to start one who is two like you did and wait to fill another infant interviewed-spot for awhile?

[EchoMom]

If you still have their one child and they are the perfect family like you stated back in June why not just keep taking their one child who is a week younger than yours and not take the other baby? Why start two new kids immediately when you really only need to start one who is two like you did and wait to fill another infant interviewed-spot for awhile?

Because she wants me to continue taking her current baby during her maternity leave, but only as part time. If I do that, I lose a ton of money. I will not take a part time infant, only full time as demand is so high in my area.

[Happy Hearts]

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The same thing happened to me. I had her child for over 2 years and she got pregnant, swore the day she was in labor and everything, that they'd return June 6, 2011 (Baby was born in mid-April). June 6th came and went. I waited til Friday of that week, thinking maybe it was me who got the date wrong. I called that Friday and no return call. I called again that following Monday, and nothing. So, I texted about a week later that I would not hold any spaces. I FINALLY got a call around June 20th informing me that they would not be returning, because she decided to stay home. In the same breath, she told me she took the baby to a church daycare instead, because I didn't have a church-based curriculum. I asked her "So are you working or not? You just said you were going to be staying home" She got quiet, said she had to go. I found out (Not hard, since she's a reporter) that guess what? She returned to work the date she first gave me and never intended on quitting her job. She just wanted that church-based care she slipped and told me about in error. I was very much lied to.

I think that maybe this was similar to what your dcm was going thru, but didn't know how to tell you she wasn't coming back. Stalling is a form of basically quitting w/o the balls to just say that's what they want to do.

Maybe she needs to go to church and remember the ninth commandment that states she should not bear false witness against thy neighbour.