Anyone Ever Have A "Rage Baby" Turn Around?

[AfterSchoolMom]

I don't know how you all put up with these screamers. I wouldn't last a week before I'd be telling the parents it wasn't working out.

[Kiki]

I have a screamer now, he's slowly growing out of it. This thread gives me hope! I really like him when he's not screaming so I don't want to give up yet.

[cheerfuldom]

A lot of what you are describing fits my oldest. Only he was a very good/calm baby. All these diagnosis of Autism/ADD - as someone called it recently "Letter Soup" when it's a very intelligent child do nothing much but ease the Mother's thoughts that she has a problem child and that it was nothing that she did.

I personally think these super bright kids are part alien! :: Teachers aren't able to handle them because they are more intelligent than they are. They are not cookie cutter kids, they are unique.

My 2nd - oh Lordy - My intense labor/delivery caused me to scream and I swear that's what created his desire to scream. We called him Screamin-Ian! :: He has always been a very INTENSE kid - All or nothing when it came to playing with toys, etc.

At nearly 11 he is extremely social - polar opposite of my first son. He is not the academic genius that my first son is but he is very good in school behavior wise.

He's a good kid now but I stayed home with him myself because I knew he was too intense for others to watch and wouldn't subject them to this needy child.

I think the screamers need their own person to care for them and group care is too overstimulating for them. Eventually they come into their own with the right parenting.

It just bothers me to hear that there are so many in Daycare.

yup, this is my second exactly! she is intense to the max. NEVER would have made it in daycare. This is the child we timed for screaming for six solid hours as a newborn. She energetic and physical and all things unfocused. takes a lot of work but at 3, shes doing okay. I never would have inflicted her on a daycare provider though. heck, there was plenty of times where I wanted to throw in the towel and I am her mom!

[Kelly]

I think my daughter would fit that description. I adopted her at age 2. She had previously lived with her biological grandparents where there were so many issues I can't even start telling you, including lots of rage/anger problems (not abuse towards her though), then she had been in a foster home where she was given whatever she wanted the minute she started to scream. She did have some developmental delays and at that point she wasn't walking yet. She would have terrible screaming fits that lasted hours, would bang her head on the floor, bite and pinch herself or anyone else who came near her, except me. She was even taking mellaril, an anti-psychotic medication. I was told she may never walk or talk and that she couldn't control these tantrums, but I had seen her turn them off instantly when she wanted to.

Luckily, I had a wonderful daycare provider for my 2 sons who agreed to give her a try. We both used the same method of just putting her in a playpen until she stopped screaming. I told the DC provider if it ever got to be too much she could call me and i would come pick her up but she never called me--bless her! When my daughter started in special needs preschool at age 3, they also removed her from the group when she screamed. It was a long process. It probably took a year before the screaming decreased and she improved to the point where I could take her out to the store or a restaurant. Then a few more years of lots of bawling and crying and still some occasional hitting or pinching others. It got better once she started talking more and she started walking when she was 4.

It took a long, long time and there were many days when I didn't know what to do (although I never considered her my "biggest mistake," which is what my dad told everyone she was.) We just tried to be consistent and appreciate the good things about her and very slowly we started to see her blooming.

She is 16 now, very happy and friendly. She still has mild developmental disabilities, ADHD and is possibly on the autism spectrum but it's always been difficult to pin down a diagnosis on her. She is in a special education "Life Skills" class and loves school, participates in several Special Olympics sports and has a lot of friends. She never screams any more and rarely even cries. She wants to be a teacher's aide when she grows up. She talks all the time and laughs a lot.

So many people wrote her off back in her screaming days, including some potential adoptive parents, and I wish they could see her now, see what a joy they missed out on. And as hard as it was, I would do it again.

[Heidi]

I think my daughter would fit that description. I adopted her at age 2. She had previously lived with her biological grandparents where there were so many issues I can't even start telling you, including lots of rage/anger problems (not abuse towards her though), then she had been in a foster home where she was given whatever she wanted the minute she started to scream. She did have some developmental delays and at that point she wasn't walking yet. She would have terrible screaming fits that lasted hours, would bang her head on the floor, bite and pinch herself or anyone else who came near her, except me. She was even taking mellaril, an anti-psychotic medication. I was told she may never walk or talk and that she couldn't control these tantrums, but I had seen her turn them off instantly when she wanted to.

Luckily, I had a wonderful daycare provider for my 2 sons who agreed to give her a try. We both used the same method of just putting her in a playpen until she stopped screaming. I told the DC provider if it ever got to be too much she could call me and i would come pick her up but she never called me--bless her! When my daughter started in special needs preschool at age 3, they also removed her from the group when she screamed. It was a long process. It probably took a year before the screaming decreased and she improved to the point where I could take her out to the store or a restaurant. Then a few more years of lots of bawling and crying and still some occasional hitting or pinching others. It got better once she started talking more and she started walking when she was 4.

It took a long, long time and there were many days when I didn't know what to do (although I never considered her my "biggest mistake," which is what my dad told everyone she was.) We just tried to be consistent and appreciate the good things about her and very slowly we started to see her blooming.

She is 16 now, very happy and friendly. She still has mild developmental disabilities, ADHD and is possibly on the autism spectrum but it's always been difficult to pin down a diagnosis on her. She is in a special education "Life Skills" class and loves school, participates in several Special Olympics sports and has a lot of friends. She never screams any more and rarely even cries. She wants to be a teacher's aide when she grows up. She talks all the time and laughs a lot.

So many people wrote her off back in her screaming days, including some potential adoptive parents, and I wish they could see her now, see what a joy they missed out on. And as hard as it was, I would do it again.

That's just awesome! Thank you for sharing that!!!lovethis

[Meeko]

My dad called her "the poison dwarf" when they came to visit. She screamed and cried for the first year of her life unless she was held. She and her parents lived across the road from us. Loved them to death! But they were first time parents and refused to let her do anything on her own. When getting ready for work, one would have to hold the baby while the other showered. They looked at me like I was crazy when I suggested putting her in the crib so they could BOTH get ready for work!

When on the floor, she wasn't allowed to reach for anything. Dad didn't want her to 'strain" herself......

But by 12 months, they relaxed and so did she. She became my most favorite day care child ever (I know...I know....) She is now 22 years old and heading for medical school. Just bought her own home. We keep in regular contact. She's easy going and a joy to be around.

So hang in there...it sometimes DOES get better!!!

[delferka]

Unteachable 2 yr old.

I've had a little boy since he was 11 months old. He's now 2.5 and I cannot get anything through to him. He lays on the other kids even though they cry. He just laughs. He torment my cats and has been getting scratched on a weekly basis. He just doesn't get it! He pokes and prods at the other kids all the time. I've told him not to do these things a thousand times and he just keeps repeating it. He's worth double the money I get for him.. His dad is not the brightest bulb and Mom babies him when he really need to be reprimanded. How many time outs can this child get?? I'm pooped!!!