The Kid With The Stupid Ideas...

[Sugar Magnolia]

Sounds more to me like she needs discipline, strict limits and to know that YOU are the one in charge. I have 6 year old too. Man they can work it and will do lots of stuff for attention. Doesn't sound like she is bored, she has got great playmates. When she tears the room up she should clean it ALL up by herself. When she throws cars sounds like she should sit alone is a amall area and play cars alone for a good length of time. Tell her she is learning the safe way to play cars. Break down the behaviors and let her relearn to play.

Yeah, after reading the follow up comment about her tearing up the room, I have to agree with Clueless here. I changed my mind on this one. Not bored, has playmates, just needs limits and enforcement.

[Blackcat31]

Sounds more to me like she needs discipline, strict limits and to know that YOU are the one in charge. I have 6 year old too. Man they can work it and will do lots of stuff for attention. Doesn't sound like she is bored, she has got great playmates. When she tears the room up she should clean it ALL up by herself. When she throws cars sounds like she should sit alone is a amall area and play cars alone for a good length of time. Tell her she is learning the safe way to play cars. Break down the behaviors and let her relearn to play.

Yeah, after reading the follow up comment about her tearing up the room, I have to agree with Clueless here. I changed my mind on this one. Not bored, has playmates, just needs limits and enforcement.

Couldn't agree more. She needs to learn to play and where her boundaries should be. Time for some tough love and consequences.

[MizzCheryl]

[QUOTE= by yourtooloud
I'm tired of the crying about self inflicted injuries. Am I wrong to expect some foresight?[/QUOTE]

This drama queen attitude can be very bad for you as her provider. It ****s your energy away (energy vampire! That is why you get so frustrated (believe me I understand the frustration). Make her stop and give yourself some peace of mind. Do not let her behavior escalate. As soon as she begins the behaviors seperate her and give her a small task, a book to read, blocks, a simple toy. She will get it. She is smart! Ignore whining and protesting. If it gets disruptive move her farther away. Hope your day is better. I know how these sorts of kids can ruin your summer. Get tough on her and give yourself a break. She can learn that she cannot get away with it at your house, even if she does at home and at school.

[Soccermom]

Ah the joy of full time afterschoolers....I feel your pain.
Sometimes when I feel this way about a child in my care, I do try to stop and remember that this little one is likely looking for love and attention...since she can't get it from her mom who is the one person who will love her no matter what, she is turning to you. Most kids this age don't quite have the common sense we expect they should have. A lot of these little ones look mature in appearance but still have the mindset of a giant toddler. I know because I am currently raising one !
My suggestion to you is to keep her busy and give her lots of praise for appropriate and acceptable behaviour.

[3girls]

I would suggest trying really firm boundaries first.

But it does sound to me like something is wrong. Processing disorder, ADHD, spectrum disorder?

[youretooloud]

Update.

Poor kid. I feel bad for her.

She and her neighbor girl were playing house on the top bunk in her room. She got down, set up a bean bag chair so she could jump from the top bunk to the bean bag, but jumped too far. She knocked out three teeth when she jumped into the window ledge. She already had one missing tooth, and one loose tooth, so now she has four spaces. Her mouth is purple and sore and her lips are swollen and scabbed. I keep putting lip gloss on her lips because they are so dry from trying to keep her mouth open all the time.

The tooth fairy was not impressed, so she didn't bring money last night. Apparently she doesn't come for self inflicted injuries.

Not even a note from the tooth fairy.

[spud912]

Lol, I love that the tooth fairy was not impressed ::::

[Blackcat31]

Lol, I love that the tooth fairy was not impressed ::::

Yeah that is awesome!!


...it is just too bad that some kids (and adults) just HAVE to learn the hard way.

[momofsix]

I'm wondering if she has some eye problems (along with the self-control) such as astigmatism? I have it quite bad and it really can mess with depth perception, especially if untreated. That could explain a lot of what would look like bad judgement as far as hurting herself and others goes. Just a thought!

[Blackcat31]

I'm wondering if she has some eye problems (along with the self-control) such as astigmatism? I have it quite bad and it really can mess with depth perception, especially if untreated. That could explain a lot of what would look like bad judgement as far as hurting herself and others goes. Just a thought!

Ya know that is an EXCELLENT point momofsix!

I have a little gal here who has recently had to begin wearing an eye patch to correct some eye issues. Ever since then she has been the clumsiest child ever.

Now that I am re-thinking this, she does alot of silly things the OP said her DCG does...throws things only to have them land back on her, falls alot, kicks things, trips on things, etc...all those things could absolutely be related to eye sight.