Beyond Extreme Potty Mouth! Would You Keep Him??

[MizzCheryl]

Mary Poppins, You could do a consult with Nannyde. I bet she could help if you really want to keep this child. The hard part is that he comes every other week. If she pays youa full time slot for every other week of care it might be a great investment of your time and money. I got more than my moneys worth during my consult and finshed up feeling empowered and excited about getting to work with my kiddies. They are doing so awesome now you would not believe.

[Mary Poppins]

I would term. Gma already said that she thinks this is a phase and she is not taking your concerns seriously. It is just going to take one time for one of your other kids to go home with a bad word and then you will have a real issue on your hands. If this was a full time kid, then yes, I might try to work through this but being a drop in child, I would not take the risk of depending on Gma to handle this.

This exactly.

Thank you everyone for your advice but Cheerfuldom and others who said term, I have to agree with. I've wrestled with this and I've decided I simply can't risk losing clients over this one child. If he was here regularly and if I had direct communication with the bio mom it *might* be a different story, but that's not the case.

I should add that it isn't just the potty mouth that I'm having an issue with, either. He is also "grinding" on us (humping like a dog). At first we didn't realize what he was doing but yesterday it also became quite clear because he was making grunting noises, too. It's almost embarrassing to even mention but it is what it is.

I just can't deal with it all. Not worth the $ or liability. So I decided he can't return. Poor little guy, I feel horrible for him!!

On a happier note, I got a call for a 2yo girlie I am interviewing for this weekend and I FINALLY put an ad out in my local newspaper. All I've been doing is using CL and flyers up until now . Keeping my fingers crossed!!!

[MizzCheryl]

Making the decision makes you feel better doesn't it. Sounds like you have no choice because this sounds like it would only get worse. Poor little guy has been exposed to way too much.
Have a great weekend knowing you are doing what is right. Maybe this will wake up gma and make her realize how serious this is.

[Heidi]

This exactly.

Thank you everyone for your advice but Cheerfuldom and others who said term, I have to agree with. I've wrestled with this and I've decided I simply can't risk losing clients over this one child. If he was here regularly and if I had direct communication with the bio mom it *might* be a different story, but that's not the case.

I should add that it isn't just the potty mouth that I'm having an issue with, either. He is also "grinding" on us (humping like a dog). At first we didn't realize what he was doing but yesterday it also became quite clear because he was making grunting noises, too. It's almost embarrassing to even mention but it is what it is.

I just can't deal with it all. Not worth the $ or liability. So I decided he can't return. Poor little guy, I feel horrible for him!!

On a happier note, I got a call for a 2yo girlie I am interviewing for this weekend and I FINALLY put an ad out in my local newspaper. All I've been doing is using CL and flyers up until now . Keeping my fingers crossed!!!

Is GMA by any chance wanting to get full custody? If so, she may need you in her corner. Please document all the behaviors you witnessed and how you and GMA tried to figure out a solution. Give her a written letter, along with the log. This could help her when she goes to court, maybe?

[jojosmommy]

I would have trouble with this. I think I would try what Blackcat said and see what results you get. I would make it clear to the other kids that this was not a trend to continue.

[Blackcat31]

I would have trouble with this. I think I would try what Blackcat said and see what results you get. I would make it clear to the other kids that this was not a trend to continue.

I think terming is something I would do after ALL else fails.

Young children who are just developing skills in verbalization and communication often curse or use bad words. TOTALLY normal although not all kids do it.

I feel kind of badly that this child lives in the type of situation he does and is going to be termed simpy because the task of "re-training" him seems to hard. I realize he has issues, but did he come to you while already living half with mom and half with grandma?

I can't speak for you or even live a minute in your shoes to really know how tough the situation might be but I do kind of feel like you are bailing on him because it is easiest.

I personally, would try everything I could before I termed. I would only do this though as long as keeping him is not risking the safety of the other kids...which swearing isn't harming them as they are going to hear swear words in other places besides daycare.