Too Old to Have Accidents... Kinda Long

[SunnyDay]

Accidents happen. My daughter is almost 5 and she had a couple after starting preschool and a couple here and there at other times. Even some Kindergarten teachers suggest sending extra clothes in their backpack just in case.

[My3cents]

[QUOTE=B Lou;233799]I have a 3 1/2 year old DCB who decided yesterday that he wanted to crap his pants.


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[Unregistered]

Seriously follow a potty trained child over the age of three to the bathroom. If that is was is excepted then I will add it to my list of why I prefeer to not watch children that are not yet fully potty trained and/or in a school program of some time.

YES SERIOUSLY!!!

You shouldn't watch children that are not potty trained if you have such issues about this.

Sorry this is not a rant at you more of a personal thing- Head Start issue. If a child can't wipe themselves and is breaking out with a rash constantly and coming home with poop. They are not ready to be left alone to go to the bathroom with out help and proper help. Simple- I am all about independence but when it is something the child is capable of. Three year old's are not all from the same mold. Some kids have a harder time with training or being able to wipe properly or sensitive skin issues. As a provider you do what you have to do to help the child. Even if it differs from the home life- Sorry my own little vent, that stemmed off this post-

[My3cents]

Yes. If the provider knows the child is having BM issues, then she should have, at the very least, checked to see what was up. 3 is still very young.....I do not allow three year olds in the potty unsupervised.....as this provider found out LOTS can happen within a very small window of time.

And, yes, you're right, if you prefer not to have to supervise a child in the potty then you should watch older kids.

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[Nellie]

I have had children that descide to poop there pants. One was my own child and another was a DCB that had been pushed into potty training way to young and wasn't all the way there. They would go hide and go bm in there pants. They either told me they did it or tried to hide the fact they did it, but they never freaked out. I hardly doubt this child made a desicion to poop his pants. Him freaking out probable means that is just happened and it scared and or imbarrassed him. Either he thought he was going to fart and poop instead, change in diet that is making going to the bathroom more forceful or more suddenly, or he isn't feeling well. Him running to the bathroom today means he is trying to go on the toilet and not in his pants. Unless he put a roll of toilet paper down the toilet or inappropraite objects in it, I don't know how him clogging the toilet was his fault. He had alot of BM and he didn't get there in time, some went on the floor, his pants, and there was enough to clog the toilet. I have just went pee and when I flushed all of a sudden the toilet was clogged. Sometimes it is the person or persons that went before hand that caused the clog. This child was probable scared and knows that you are unhappy with the situation. I'd do what others suggested with wearing a pull up for a bit. If he is regressing he needs understanding, patients, and love. I remember being 4 and wetting the bed and my mom was so mad at me. For some reason after 2 years of being potty trained I started wetting the bed at night. I was so scared and I didn't know why I was wetting the bed. I remember being mad at myself and it wasn't something I wanted to happen. They started putting a diaper on my at night and within a few weeks it quit. Mom wasn't mad when I had an accicent and I wasn't scared when I went to bed at night that I was going to wet the bed. I've seen children punished for accidents from parents/grandparents and it only makes for a worse situation. I hope things turn around for this little boy soon.

[JenNJ]

I don't stand and watch the children use the restroom. I am near the restroom so that I can hear everything going on. They also yell to me "Crystal I am going to the bathroom!" before they go so I know to check in, and "I'm done!" when they are done and then I yell "be sure to wash your hands!" I also go in AFTER they use the toilet and make sure it is clean for the next child.....pee on the floor is not only gross, but slippery Been doing it that way for over 15 years with 14 children every day and I have not ONCE in my career had crap all over my bathroom. When THAT happens THAT means the child was completely unsupervised and THAT is not okay. So supervise or not, but if not, have fun cleaning crap off the walls, floors and child.

BTW, I said "follow" to the restroom with this one child because of the specific circumstances, I don't follow every kid to the potty either, I just make sure I am aware they are in there and that I can hear them....if there is anything out of the ordinary happening, I'll know it.

The point of supervising children using the restroom (aside from the obvious mess issues) is that a preschooler can do serious damage to the bathroom in a matter of seconds, as I said before the OP experienced that just yesterday.(she's fortunate it wasn't worse, plumbing repairs are expensive) If the child had a BM accident just the day before, than jumped out of bed and ran to the potty during naptime the very next day, you betcha I'd be making sure everything was okay.

My other point is that this was NOT the child's fault and the OP made it out to be like it was intentional. THAT is what makes me angry.

And, I agree, potty accidents aren't a big deal. And, like I said before, I'd also use pull-ups at naptime

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