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[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I terminated a child yesterday. The child is on the spectrum. I could handle the biting, kicking, punching, pinching, strangling, and yelling that the child was throwing at me. I, however, could not handle the child continually finding a wooden block to smash the other kids with on their heads.

I terminated.

I said that I would mail the refund. They forgot to get the child's napping mat while leaving that day (it was in the cubby with his backpack, but I'm sure they were flustered at being terminated).
The Mother called at 9:00PM saying she wanted to pick up her refund today for the care not given (Mother had paid a month in advance). I told her that I would be available in the evening.
Mother just called my 3 times in a row and texted that she is outside. I'm sorry, but I'm not going to open the door during nap time. It isn't happening.
I texted her back that the children were asleep and I would have the child's items available for her after 6:00 this evening when the children left.

She just texted back that she would see me at 8:45PM on her way home from work. Would it be wrong to place the napmat in a plastic bag and a check in an envelope on the front porch??? That is my family time.

[Breezy]

Nope, rules are rules. No reason she cant wait.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Sorry, I was just editing it when you replied. ::

[Breezy]

Thats what I would do. Wouldnt want the stress of her coming so late and waiting around. That way you can put your jammies on and not worry about waiting around for it.

[jokalima]

I wouldn't, I understand the no opening the door at nap time ( I don't have that rule ) but leaving her those things outside does not look nice to me. IDK the relationship you had with her, she could be hurt @ this moment because of the termination but usually people think things through and get over them, but if you finish your relationship in such and impersonal way it will send a really bad message and she'll make sure that everyone she knows spreads the word about how she was treated.

No meaning to offend, just what i think could happen.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I realize it's impersonal. But, I go to bed at 9:00PM so I'm obviously not wearing nice clothing or make-up come 8:45. I'm in pajamas with no make-up on, and am spending time with my family.

I suppose I can tell her that her check will be mailed and she is free to come at 6:00PM any day this week to pick up the nap mat OR I could ask her if she would prefer that I leave them on the porch for her.

[sharlan]

I would have quietly opened the door and handed her the child's belongings and been done with it. I really hate to drag things out any longer than necessary.

I would not put a check on the front porch. IMHO, it's unprofessional.

[countrymom]

I would have quietly opened the door and handed her the child's belongings and been done with it. I really hate to drag things out any longer than necessary.

I would not put a check on the front porch. IMHO, it's unprofessional.

this. I totally agree with this.

[Lilbutterflie]

I'm so sorry LCLC! I feel kind of responsible for this one since I referred them to you. I NEVER thought he would end up being that violent with the other children, though.

Since this mom works late, I can understand why she can't be there until late to pick up his things. I do think leaving the items on the porch is too impersonal, but I also know there was never really a relationship there since it was his first day in your care.

IMO, if it were me; I would allow her to come at 8:45, open the door, hand them to her, and say a polite goodbye. It should only take all of 30 seconds. Don't worry about being in your PJs with no makeup, that will give her the hint that she is inconveniencing you and make it a very quick exchange.

[littlemissmuffet]

Definitely unprofessional to leave the child's belongings and check on the front porch. You don't need to be wearing nice clothes or make-up when she arrives... it won't take more than a minute to hand her the items and share a quick PROFESSIONAL goodbye. Do the right thing.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Thank you. The 30 second method will work fine.

[littlemissmuffet]

Thank you. The 30 second method will work fine.

Good luck!