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If the 13 yo is real upset then he needs to call you and talk to you. 13 is old enogph to start "dealing" with ones own problems and not have mommy solve them for you.
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I think SIL is over reacting. I'm also thinking the boys feelings weren't hurt at all. I'd just tell her you had two spots left and thought the other cousins would have fun since it was all kids their age. Also, bring up that your children are fine that they aren't invitied to her son's parties and you wouldn't expect them to be due to the age gap.
Maybe talk to the other boys and apologize and give them the same reasoning above. You may find out they have no idea what party your talking about.Comment
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I kind of agree. If you invited some family and not others- not really cool. It is not about the age of kids at the party. It is about family wanting to celebrate your daughters birthday with her.
Then the other part of me thinks.......maybe he is a fat kid that just wanted the cake!
I think I would reply to her, sorry "so and so", I was not out to hurt anyone's feelings and I was thinking age of kids, that your kids would feel out of place. I totally blew it on this one, please forgive me- mommy brains were not in working order. Please tell "cake loving" boy that I am sorry and we will see you at the next family event.
As far as the removing of pictures- NO and I wouldn't even address this.Comment
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I might agree with you guys IF this was the only party but OP stated that there IS a family party as well and that the SIL and older nephews rec'd invitations to that before this little kid party.
If you were close with SIL I may have mentioned the gymnastics party and said "I know your boys won't be interested, but if you want to come you are welcome to". BUT since you guys are not close and you only see them a few times a year anyway I wouldn't even worry about it.
I have a nephew who is only a few years younger than my son, but when my son is having a rowdy party (paintball, laser tag, hockey, etc.) with all of his friends that "few years" makes a huge difference and it would not even be safe for my little nephew to be there!!Comment
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LOL, I agree! happyface
Sounds to me like SIL needs to put her big girl pants on and stop trying to convince her DS that he needs to feel a certain way.
If it were me, if I really felt the need to call and explain, I would call the 13 yr old nephew and tell him why he wasn't invited.
I'll bet you he couldn't care less......Comment
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I would be tempted to say at the family party. ( in front of all ) Your mom said you were really upset that you were not invited to the preschool gymnastic party. I am sorry I did not think you would want to sit with the adults and watch the little kids play
well I would want to say that but I wouln't unless they brought it up
I would also be tempted to say to sil on the boys birthday. So what time do you want my little ones at your sons sleepover???? But I wouldn't say that either.It:
: will waitComment
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Update...
I sent a message apologizing again for her feelings being hurt. When she talked to my DH she said her son was also in tears because Gamma didn't even call to wish him a Happy B-day. My Husband knew that Gamma called because he was there when she called!! She put DH on hold, then said - oh, um, he forgot to tell me she called.
So obviously, he's not the one with the problem, she's just using him as an excuse because she was jealous. This happens often.
I apologized, and never heard back. She blew off the Family party, didn't call or text, just didn't show up. The family party was Saturday, she sent a text on MONDAY that she had the stomach flu, believe it or not... and she was sorry we couldn't see her point about the kid party:confused:. My other son's party was Sunday, not a call or text.
Either way, My DH is now dealing with her. I'm out of it!! happyfaceComment
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