Why Are We Always the First to Blame?

**emosks** · 06-03-2010, 10:43 AM

Luckily our families right now are sane. We had one though that was a real tool!!

And....it is ALMOST Friday!!

**laundryduchess@yahoo.com** · 06-03-2010, 10:46 AM

I second that!!!!! Friday Friday tomorrow is Friday!!!!! I am more than ready for a friday!!!! maybe two!

**momofboys** · 06-03-2010, 11:22 AM

Sorry you are dealing with that. I LOL with your repsonses. Regarding the swearing I think it goes the other way too. My kids have learned several foul words from the family I care for. Words DH & I never use! I also have to deal with how clean the kids are or aren't. One day 8 year old school-ager's face was slightly dirty at drop-off so mom asked me if I could give him a wash cloth so he could clean himself up. No problem. I did give him one & he did look better IMO. However, when she picked up she glared at him & said, "Didn't you ever wash your face?" Of course I think the comment was meant more for me than HIM. But geez, I have more to do than worry about how clean your child is! Especially a child who can do it himself.

**fctjc1979** · 06-03-2010, 11:30 AM

The family that I already terminated thought I was pushing too hard when I was trying to help the five year old learn how to write her name. They also thought it was cute when people asked her how old she was and she held up five fingers. They got all huffy when they found out I was trying to teach her to say "five" instead.

**fctjc1979** · 06-03-2010, 11:41 AM

The other one that's annoying is when you change a kid's diaper five minutes before mom comes to pick up and just before mom gets there, the kid manages to poop. It's obvious by the look on mom's face that she's wondering if you just didn't bother to change the kid. Most moms understand but every once in a while.......

**jen** · 06-03-2010, 11:47 AM

Originally posted by fctjc1979

The family that I already terminated thought I was pushing too hard when I was trying to help the five year old learn how to write her name. They also thought it was cute when people asked her how old she was and she held up five fingers. They got all huffy when they found out I was trying to teach her to say "five" instead.

I had a parent who got huffy because I tried to teach their 5 year old to say chapstick instead of "mee-mee." Good Lord! That was adorable at 3, at 5 no one knew what in the hell the kid wanted...and if Mommy picked her up with chapped lips...well, heaven help us all.

**Janet** · 06-03-2010, 12:11 PM

Always our fault!

It is easier for them to blame us. It takes the accountability off of the (in their opinion) and makes it our problem. That's why I document every scratch or bruise and I'll be the one to ask how it got there. I forewarn parents that I run a pretty messy daycare, so don't dress your chhild in clothes that you care about. I also tell parents ahead of time that I won't wake a sleeping child and I won't let kids under 6 skip nap. I think that if parents would give their kids their undivided attention after they pick them up from daycare, they might find that the kid will go to bed without much trouble. They just need interaction. Not TV watching. Not running errands with mom or dad. Actual, meaningul interaction. I know that parents are exhausted at the end of the day and they want to relax. So do I, but I have a kid of my own that I hang out with after all of my daycare kids go home. I give my kid all of the attention that she wants from me, and she goes to bed just fine! I also think that some parents feel threatened by their providers and blaming the provider for everything somehow helps them feel validated as a parent.

**Greenshadow** · 06-03-2010, 03:49 PM

I have a parent right now that thinks the food I serve is giving her son a diaper rash. He continuously gets one on Tuesdays or Wednesdays and its usually very bad. I have seen his poop and they are feeding him HEAVY amounts of spicy and hot types of foods. Foods with black beans in them. How do I know? Because I see it in his poop. If it sits on his butt any amount of time, it burns him up and even bleeds. I have to change him immediately. So I told her that if she thinks its my food (which is standard daycare type foods with no extra anything) to bring his food. So she has now. She feeds him all organic foods and only about 50% of the foods I serve are organic. I have been very adament about his diaper changes and feel that the rash hasnt come back because of the frequent diaper changes that Ive now started doing rather than the foods he is eating. The foods she is bringing is so similar to what I serve already. Its not the food. Its HER food at home and I think part of it was my lack of understanding how sensitive his skin is to his own poop. She thinks now that because he isnt getting a rash that she was right. I dont think so.

**originalkat** · 06-03-2010, 04:08 PM

LOL! This post cracked me up! Parents are so annoying sometimes. It is too long to explain...but you should have heard the rediculous questions one of my dcp was asking me this evening.

I took a day off tomorrow for a conference so TODAY IS MY FRIDAY!!!!! YIPPEE!

**MarinaVanessa** · 06-03-2010, 04:24 PM

Originally posted by Janet

I know that parents are exhausted at the end of the day and they want to relax.

If I wanted to kick back and relax after a long day at work I wouldn't have had kids. Game over once you have them. I agree 100% that if you play and interact with them they'll be fine and go to bed on time. After the DC kiddos go home guess what?! I still play with my own. There's no clocking out when you're a parent, or a mute button, or off switch

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And yes we get blamed for a lot of things because people in general always think that someone is to blame ... always someone else but never me.

**misol** · 06-03-2010, 08:24 PM

Originally posted by originalkat

LOL! This post cracked me up! Parents are so annoying sometimes. It is too long to explain...but you should have heard the rediculous questions one of my dcp was asking me this evening.

I took a day off tomorrow for a conference so TODAY IS MY FRIDAY!!!!! YIPPEE!

Ahhh, now I'm curious!

**Chickenhauler** · 06-03-2010, 09:09 PM

In a way, I'm kinda glad we have some idiot families.....no matter what, I can still look at them and say "Ya know honey, we're pretty damn good parents"

**professionalmom** · 06-03-2010, 09:47 PM

Originally posted by Chickenhauler

In a way, I'm kinda glad we have some idiot families.....no matter what, I can still look at them and say "Ya know honey, we're pretty damn good parents"

Ditto on that. I can't tell you how many times, after the kids are gone, my husband just shakes his head, rolls his eyes, and said, "Idiots!" (refering to the parents, not me). Then my husband looks at me and says, "And you wonder if you're doing a good enough job with our daughter?! You're a genius compared to these idiots!" Thank goodness I have had those idiots, because it makes my hubby appreciate me all the more!

**momofboys** · 06-04-2010, 05:25 AM

Originally posted by Chickenhauler

In a way, I'm kinda glad we have some idiot families.....no matter what, I can still look at them and say "Ya know honey, we're pretty damn good parents"

I used to laugh at the parents on Supernanny & the like. They always boosted my morale & made me feel like a GREAT mom. I never thought I'd refer to the parents as idiots but on occasion I do too!

Why Are We Always the First to Blame?

Why Are We Always the First to Blame?

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