Buttons Down the Back!?!?! HELLO???Vent...

[originalkat]

So one of my moms drops off her 3 year old daughter this morning and says... "She hasn't gone potty this morning, but she will need some help because this outfit only has buttons in the back." She is just so casual about it like I have nothing better to do than to unbutton 5 TINY buttons everytime her kid needs to go to the bathroom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you kidding me?? THAT IS NOT HAPPENING! I looked at her and said "______, that isnt very practical for daycare." in a very politely irritated voice

I then went directly to her cubby to put her extra clothes on when I saw she didnt have any in there! So, I used an old pair of my daughters clothes.

What a pain! Did that mom wake up without a brain this morning?? Her daughter has been coming here for 2 years and she knows the rules about clothing.

Thanks for letting me vent

[grandmom]

Pretty inconsiderate.

Isn't this like wearing shoes that don't fit just because they match our outfit. Mom's probably thinking it's such a cute outfit, a few buttons is worth it.

Good choice to find a new outfit.

[Unregistered]

I feel for you as I am dealing with the same type of thing! I have a little boy that is potty training, he is 3 and can't pull up or pull down his elastic waisted pants! Real pain in the BUTT!! Parents and sister obviously do EVERYTHING for him and he has no clue!! Pretty sure my kids started dressing themselves or at least assisting in dressing at like 9 months!! Grrrrr Anyway, what does she bring him in OVERALLS!! That is just great - I just wish for once a parent would realize that THEIR CHILD IS NOT THE ONLY CHILD WE CARE FOR ALL DAY LONG!!!! I changed his clothes as well, however I only had pants for him and it was like 80 outside, so I just put his shorts overalls back on when we went outside - pain in the BUTT!! Grrrrrr

[MarinaVanessa]

Ugh I hate that! Why is it that parent's make it painfully hard for us sometimes so that their kids look cute? I just tell all families not to bother bringing their children in nice clothing since we work with mud, clay, paint, markers etc and more than likely they're going to get dirty, wet and messy. Buttons and belts are the worst when you're potty training in daycare. This is daycare ... not a pageant. I'm sure none of the kids are in the corner now admiring her awsome outfit and how well if fits the season ::.

[mamajennleigh]

I have this issue over and over and over again with one of my moms. Her daughter is tiny for her age, and regardless of the fact that the outfit clearly does not fit properly, she brings her in it anyway. She will have a little sundress with matching "bloomers" underneath and every time the little girl takes a step, her bloomers start to fall down. I get so aggravated. I told her dad at pickup (for the umpteenth time) just yesterday that mom needs to bring her in clothes that fit properly, and no safety pins allowed ugh!

[momma2girls]

Many parents just don't think or don't care???!!!!!

[Greenshadow]

I have similar problems with my parents too. One mom keeps bringing her son in shoes that dont fit. She brings him inside with them on and then takes them off and puts them in his cubby because she knows they dont fit. I guess she doesnt care what happens while he is in my care and has to go outside to play. Out of sight, out of mind! So I put him in an old pair of my sons and even though they are a size bigger, its better than a size smaller! She just doesnt take the time to go buy him a bigger pair. They have the money for it so thats not it. I have another parent that keeps bringing her child in shirts and skirts with attached bloomers that are too small. The skirt keeps sliding off or when she bends over or sits down, I have to look at her butt. Its frustrating for the kids and for me having to constantly pull them up and find a way to cinch them on. Some parents just cant be bothered. I even had one mom complain on Facebook about how I got jello on her son's shirt and she had to search far and wide to remove the stain. Ive told them time and time again not to bring them in their good clothes. Its daycare people!!!

[MarinaVanessa]

She will have a little sundress with matching "bloomers" underneath and every time the little girl takes a step, her bloomers start to fall down.

(Assuming that the child is still in diapers, pull-ups or at least wears undies under her bloomers)

For kicks when she walked in the door at drop-off with mommy and if she was wearing a dress I'd walk right over immediately, lift the dress up high and make an obviouse assessment of whether or not she is wearing these big bloomers. If she was, I'd immediately take them off and hand them to mom all the while talking to the little girl and smiling "Ooops. (pull them off) We won't need these today will we? They end up falling off and tripping on them anyway don't we? Yup!"

If you're not so forward you can just pull them off after mom leaves and stick them in her cubby if you have them then remind mom to check the cubby at pick-up so she can find her bloomers. If she asks, just explain to her again that you'll just continue to take them off unless they fit well so she might as well not dress her in them. .

[momofboys]

I have similar problems with my parents too. One mom keeps bringing her son in shoes that dont fit. She brings him inside with them on and then takes them off and puts them in his cubby because she knows they dont fit. I guess she doesnt care what happens while he is in my care and has to go outside to play. Out of sight, out of mind! So I put him in an old pair of my sons and even though they are a size bigger, its better than a size smaller! She just doesnt take the time to go buy him a bigger pair. They have the money for it so thats not it. I have another parent that keeps bringing her child in shirts and skirts with attached bloomers that are too small. The skirt keeps sliding off or when she bends over or sits down, I have to look at her butt. Its frustrating for the kids and for me having to constantly pull them up and find a way to cinch them on. Some parents just cant be bothered. I even had one mom complain on Facebook about how I got jello on her son's shirt and she had to search far and wide to remove the stain. Ive told them time and time again not to bring them in their good clothes. Its daycare people!!!

that would tick me off about the comment on FB!!! Did she think you would not see it?!?! Hello, who cares about a jello stain?!?! You have more things to worry about than stains on clothes.

[professionalmom]

UGH! Parents and their children's attire! I had one DCB whose mom was one of those "young single moms, on state assistance, but has to have the most expensive name brand stuff". She would bring her DS in name brand clothing, cute, but not daycare ready. Then towards the end (before I booted her), DCB was coming in jeans so big, I had to roll up the legs at least 3 inches and roll down the waist at least 2 inches, just to make those parts fit! Then he was walking around (only 18-20 mths old) holding onto the pants because if he didn't they would fall down. He was tripping on them! Another DCM even made a comment about how ridiculous his pants were. It was so bad, it was actually DANGEROUS and I feared he would get injured. So, at pick-up, I told his mom, "I think (DCB)'s new pants are just adorable! However, they seem a little too big for him right now. He's been tripping on them and they have been falling down unless he holds them up. Maybe we should give him another month or 2 before he wears these to daycare again. By then, I'm sure they will fit perfectly." She grunts and replies (in a shotty tone), "I've never had a problem with those pants. Just roll them down and it's fine."

After she left, my wonderful husband rolled his eyes and just said, "IDIOT!" (meaning her, not me)

[Janet]

The way kids arrive dressed...

makes me insane sometimes! There are certain articles of clothing that I hate more than anything and if a kid comes in it, I will immmediately change their clothes.

Overalls without snaps
Overalls on potty training kids
Overalls on kids who are over 3 years old
Onesies on kids that are not babies. Toddler do not need onesies!!!
Long dresses (they can end up in the toilet)
Tights on little girls who are potty training
Too tight jeans
Too long pants
Clothes that have buttons or snaps that are complicated
Shoes that kids can't run in

I could go on, but the list would be too long. Here is my ideal kid wardrobe:

Jane Fonda pants (stretchy kind)
T-shirts or long sleeved T-Shirts
Hoodies just in case it's a little chilly
Shoes that kids can run in and put on by themselves
Stretchy shorts for summer time
Appropriate outdoor winter apparel

They don't need to look fancy here. I certainly don't dress to impress, so why should the kids be dressed nicely?

[Daycare Mommy]

After she left, my wonderful husband rolled his eyes and just said, "IDIOT!" (meaning her, not me)

Made me think of Napoleon Dynamite. "IDIOT!" ::::::

[originalkat]

makes me insane sometimes! There are certain articles of clothing that I hate more than anything and if a kid comes in it, I will immmediately change their clothes.

Overalls without snaps
Overalls on potty training kids
Overalls on kids who are over 3 years old
Onesies on kids that are not babies. Toddler do not need onesies!!!
Long dresses (they can end up in the toilet)
Tights on little girls who are potty training
Too tight jeans
Too long pants
Clothes that have buttons or snaps that are complicated
Shoes that kids can't run in

I could go on, but the list would be too long. Here is my ideal kid wardrobe:

Jane Fonda pants (stretchy kind)
T-shirts or long sleeved T-Shirts
Hoodies just in case it's a little chilly
Shoes that kids can run in and put on by themselves
Stretchy shorts for summer time
Appropriate outdoor winter apparel

They don't need to look fancy here. I certainly don't dress to impress, so why should the kids be dressed nicely?

Exactly.
I understand parents want to get clothes that their child can wear for awhile BUT they still have to fit. If they need a belt when they are 3 to keep their pants up THEN THE PANTS ARE TOO BIG.

[missnikki]

Haha, Jane Fonda pants...

I agree. I had a 'playclothes uniform' policy when I worked with the little guys. It was almost the same as your list, Janet! It works best when you can assess the outfit in the morning at drop off, and make your suggestions then. That way if it is a danger issue, you have addressed it already. Any parent that brushed me off like that 'idiot' would be greeted by her child wearing the famous loaner pants (the word 'LOANER' written across the butt in big letters) and asked to return with the loaners, and an extra set of clothes for the cubby.

[My Daycare]

Haha, Jane Fonda pants...

I agree. I had a 'playclothes uniform' policy when I worked with the little guys. It was almost the same as your list, Janet! It works best when you can assess the outfit in the morning at drop off, and make your suggestions then. That way if it is a danger issue, you have addressed it already. Any parent that brushed me off like that 'idiot' would be greeted by her child wearing the famous loaner pants (the word 'LOANER' written across the butt in big letters) and asked to return with the loaners, and an extra set of clothes for the cubby.

That's Perfect!!!