15 Minute Timeout?! For Something That Happened At Home?!

[temom]

I would send her an e-mail that says:

Dear DCM,

After ingesting your request to give Johnny a time-out, I need to express my policy regarding punishment.

I will never give Johnny a time-out for something he did at your home. If I were to give him a time-out for something he did while in my care, it would be a four minute time-out - one minute per year. Lastly, I do not condone punishing children for accidents which are a natural part of childhood.

Thank you for your understanding,
Miss M

i second this letter

[daycare]

I would send the letter and maybe add this.

Dear DCM I understand how frustrating it must be for you and for Johnny when he has an accident in his pant. I know you were upset this morning about the accident Johnny had and maybe didn't have a second to stop and think about your request to put Johnny in time out at my house. Accidents at this age are still normal, as long as they are not happening all of the time.

I wanted to let you know, that I do not punish the children for their behavioral issues that they have at home, especially potty accidents. I feel that it is important that you enforce your rules and discipline so that your child understands and learn what your rules and consequences are. Just as he has had to learn here.

If you need to talk to me about this further, please contact me during nap time today.

[wdmmom]

I wouldn't speak another word of it. If she brings it up, I would reply with, ' Sorry, things got super hectic this morning and I forgot all about it. Accidents happen and since this happened at home, I didn't feel it was appropriate for him to miss out on activities.' And leave it at that.

[Ariana]

I wouldn't bring it up at all and just ignore her. If she brings it up I'd just say "no I don't punish children for toilet accidents first of all and I certainly don't punish for things that happened at home...that's your job".

[Hunni Bee]

I wouldn't bring it up at all and just ignore her. If she brings it up I'd just say "no I don't punish children for toilet accidents first of all and I certainly don't punish for things that happened at home...that's your job".

This.

Its really a non-issue.

[daycare]

I think that if you ignore it, it will happen again.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I think that if you ignore it, it will happen again.

I agree.

[CrayolaKids]

This.

Its really a non-issue.

Well it is an issue because this is now the second time she has done this. So yes, if I don't say something now, she will continue to do it. I didn't say anything at pickup today but I know dcb will rat me out tonight so I will have to say something tomorrow morning at drop-off. Either way, there is going to be a letter going home to ALL parents outlining my new policies: 1. I will not discipline children for behaviors occurring outside of daycare 2. The children only receive 1 minute per year of age time-outs, not to exceed 5 minutes 3. I do NOT punish any of the kids for accidents related to potty training.

[Magic]

in my disipline policy I state ..time out only when physical danger to oneself or an other ......
and one min per year of age of child
and of course home is home she shouldnt made you the " bad guy "

[Play Care]

When a parent drops hints about how I should be doing things, I can ignore that. When they come out and tell me to do something, that needs to be addressed head on. And *then* it becomes a non-issue because *I* said so

[Heidi]

I do not punish them for accidents and also don't agree with it, however I know she does it a lot at home. I don't have it in my handbook specifically, but I guess I will have to add that. I'm just not sure how to exactly tell her that #1 he didn't have a timeout & #2 I won't punish him for something that happened at home. I just need to find the guts to tell her

Crayola...

WI regs SPECIFICALLY forbid punishment for lapses in toilet training. THey also SPECIFICALLY forbid time-outs exceeding 5 minutes.


"I'm sorry, dcm, that is against our childcare regulations here in WI".

THE END


Edited to add:

Hey, I guess this thread was recycled. At least my answers are consistent.