Disturbing:Psychopath Children

[countrymom]

I had 2 children like this.

child 1. I watched his younger brother. No one would watch the older brother (he's 11 now but I had him when he was 9) mom begged and pleaded with me, so I thought I could save him and change him around. The first couple days were fine, then it all went down hill. I termed the older brother but not the younger. He was diaganosed with adhd, but I tell you he doesn't have this. Also, he wasn't born this way either, his parents did this to him. From the time he was 6 weeks old he was dumped at daycare for over 12 hours a day, 5 days a week and some weekends while parents worked or went out. The daycare lady was an older lady and she could only do so much. The older he got the more he hated his parents, I really feel that he hated them because they abandoned him at such an early age that he never bonded with anyone. Apparently he's doing fine now, but I really doubt it. His younger brother lived at my house too, then I started enforcing my pick up and drop off times and making them have more time with their child and he was acually normal.

child 2. Well I had him from august to october. he was the devils spawn. I have never seen a child with angry black eyes before till I met this one. He was almost 4 (his birthday was in jan) you just knew, it was a creepy feeling. He made my hair stand on ends. Well on sat. I saw him and his dad, so his dad was talking to me. I literally couldn't look at this kid, it was such a creepy awful feeling that it still gives me shivers. But I can see him being a psychopath. I don't know too much about his home life so I have no idea why he is like he is. Maybe its because mom had 3 kids in 3 yrs and he didn't have attention given to him who knows, but he's scary.

[Oneluckymom]

WOW, fascinating article and watched part of the documentary too. I have one little girl NOW who will even pull the babies hair and smiles when the baby cries? Is This a psychopathic tendency?? She does it to their dogs at home too and has been nipped by them 3 times. She loves to the reaction.

Very interesting. I hope however, I never have a severely disturbed child in my care.

[Meeko]

Of course, abuse does dreadful things to children and as providers we must be attentive and keep our eyes open for signs of abuse.

BUT:


Would you see a disabled child in the store and simply assume his/her disability is the parent's fault? Would you tell a disabled person's family that they must have abused the child?

And yet people are very quick to assume that psychopaths and sociopaths are the product of abuse.

Sometimes they are. But sometimes they were born that way. The parents did nothing to make it happen and they can do nothing to change it.

Many are born with Downs Syndrome. Nothing to stop it......nothing to change it after birth. The last thing a parent wants is to be made to feel guilty.

I went through years of torment wondering if I had done things differently....if I had been tougher/gentler. If I had gotten help earlier......did I do something wrong in my pregnancy........it took a therapist to finally make me understand that I was not to blame. if my son had been born to any other parents the results would have been the same.

If you suspect abuse with any of your day care parents REPORT IT. But otherwise please reach out with love and understanding. They need as much help as possible.

I hope none of you ever have to be told that you need to distance yourself from your first born child fro your own sanity. That he doesn't care about you and will continue to abuse you as long as you let it continue. He will feel no remorse for even a second and will actually get a kick out of causing turmoil.

My faith is what keeps me going. I believe we are an eternal family. I believe my son cannot help himself and that in the hereafter he will be whole and be a part of our family again. But until then...it is torture and a kind word helps in so many ways from friends and family that know.

Sorry for being so long-winded. This is a subject that touches a VERY raw nerve for me and I tend to waffle on with my emotions getting the better of me.

PLEASE just be mindful that some mental conditions just are what they are. Nobody to blame.

[Childminder]

I currently have a sociopathic boy right now in care. He loves to be around people but is very calculating and cruel. I have referred him to a local organization that is supposed to help his mother deal with his behavior and they have contacted her but have not gotten back in touch with me.

I had another child a few years ago that I said would be in a juvie by 13yrs and he just spent his 14th birthday in one. His parents we're questionable with their skills and this current one does not raise any red flags so I think he's not being abused.

It can upset your entire program to have either a psychopath or a sociopath in care for sure.

[momofsix]

OK...now I'm bawling.........but it sometimes helps to let it out.

Oh Meeko...I'm so sorry. I wish I could say or do something to ease your pain.
I will be praying for you and your family. (((hugs)))

[countrymom]

yes, some children I really think are born this way, but I'm wondering if there is an increase in children becoming p or s because the way parenting styles have changed. For my first child that was in care, I really truelly believe it was his parents fault, they made him that way, they put their needs and wants before their child. the second kid, I have no idea, I don't know too much about their home life ( I have a suspicion that dad likes to drink alot and is abusive to mom-he use to be dh's boss) but I wonder if he was born this way too.

[Crystal]

Meeko.....I know you have shared some of your story here before, but I'd like to thank you for sharing again. I think it is very important that people like you share their stories.....for YOU to heal and to help others recognize when their own family member may be sociopathic. Hugs to you, I can only imagine the pain you and your family have endured over the years.

[Meeko]

Oh Meeko...I'm so sorry. I wish I could say or do something to ease your pain.
I will be praying for you and your family. (((hugs)))

That's all anyone can do and I thank you...I appreciate your prayers

[Blackcat31]

OK...now I'm bawling.........but it sometimes helps to let it out.

((((HUGS))))) lovethis

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I believe I have a sociopath in my car at this point in time. It makes me nervous.

With my family adopting ... it always concerns me that we might add a child to our family who has these tendencies.

[Meeko]

I believe I have a sociopath in my car at this point in time. It makes me nervous.

With my family adopting ... it always concerns me that we might add a child to our family who has these tendencies.

Take notes. I wish I had done it with my son. When it's on paper, you see a pattern so much more clearly.

[JEM]

(((((((((((Meeko)))))))))))))) My family has recently entered into the nightmare that is mental illness with our 20 year old son. It is the worst thing we have ever been through..........so I understand........

[Meeko]

(((((((((((Meeko)))))))))))))) My family has recently entered into the nightmare that is mental illness with our 20 year old son. It is the worst thing we have ever been through..........so I understand........

Hugs right back Jem. Be sure to get help for YOU.

[Christian Mother]

Meeko.....I know you have shared some of your story here before, but I'd like to thank you for sharing again. I think it is very important that people like you share their stories.....for YOU to heal and to help others recognize when their own family member may be sociopathic. Hugs to you, I can only imagine the pain you and your family have endured over the years.

This was said very well!!!

Meeko...how heart breaking..I can't imagine your pain and what your going through ...what you've gone through. My heart goes out to you and your family. And to your first born. It's really hard to not love our children even when they don't or can't love us back. Know that I am praying for you and I do agree that when we do pass on the Lord will make your son whole and he will give you that love you have been looking for for so long.

[temom]

Meeko and Jem, ((( HUGS))))) i so admire you ladies and my thoughts and prayers with the both of you, i am sure with mothers as caring as the two of you there will be a silver lining. God bless you guys.