Two Weeks Notice

[JJPlaycare]

I just recieved a 2 week notice from a family I have cared for and although I think it is for the best, I am having a REALLY hard time with this! To put it mildly.... They have taken advantage of me over and over again, they are compleltely disrespectful of me, they tell me nothing, they show up whenever they feel like it, they occasionally pay on time, their child in their eyes is a complete angel and does no wrong, but instead needs some serious discipline, etc. I recently put my foot down and grew a backbone with them, so in reality part of me knew this might happen! However, I LOVE their boys and I am feeling VERY disprespected, taken advantage of and very, very, sad and hurt by this. :confused:I don't know how I am going to be for the next two weeks with them as I obviously have so MANY mixed emotions. What a joke.....

[SunshineMama]

I'm sorry that happened to you. People sign up for care, sign a contract, and then don't follow the rules, and take personal offense when you have to enforce them.

I hope you find a replacement soon

[Christian Mother]

Sounds like a shock to get the 2 wks notice. Sorry girlie...often it's the parents and not the children we have problems with even though you noted your having some behavior issues with the boys...

I would start advertising or do you have a waiting list?

Also, if the parents are not following your rules during these 2 wks I would think about letting them going earlier then the 2 wks. Have they already paid for the 2 wks?

[B Lou]

I know exactly how you feel. I have the same issues with a family. In fact I am the one that is going to be giving them the 2 week notice. I've just had all I can take from them. I love the kids so much but can't take the disrespect from the DCP any longer.
I know the next 2 weeks will be hard but in the long run think of the stress you will be rid of. Just keep reminding your self.

[lilcupcakes09]

Right there with you! Today is my first day this family is gone, and I feel so relieved already! I was both happy & sad when the mom gave me notice, then last week knowing it would soon end-felt like such a weight off my shoulders! My concern was alot of the financial aspect but luckily someone came along that will give me more income as well as respect! It seemed like it all came together for the good!

Good luck to you, you will be so much better off, I did not realize how much the parents and child brought me into such a bad mood until now that they are gone!

[Blackcat31]

I just recieved a 2 week notice from a family I have cared for and although I think it is for the best, I am having a REALLY hard time with this! To put it mildly.... They have taken advantage of me over and over again, they are compleltely disrespectful of me, they tell me nothing, they show up whenever they feel like it, they occasionally pay on time, their child in their eyes is a complete angel and does no wrong, but instead needs some serious discipline, etc. I recently put my foot down and grew a backbone with them, so in reality part of me knew this might happen! However, I LOVE their boys and I am feeling VERY disprespected, taken advantage of and very, very, sad and hurt by this. :confused:I don't know how I am going to be for the next two weeks with them as I obviously have so MANY mixed emotions. What a joke.....

This is the hardest part of the job. It is often hard to separate your feelings for the kids from your feelings for the parents and honestly, if you are really feeling steamy mad, there is nothing wrong with letting them go immediately if you think it is everyone's best interest.

Sometimes it is completely worth losing that last two weeks income to simply be done and walk away. It isn't like you HAVE to go out of your way to be respectful and follow your own policies since the family themselves didn't respect you enough to do so. ...kwim?

If you decide to term immediately just tell them that you think it would be best to go your separate ways now so no more resentment than necessary builds.

Hang in there....soon you will realize how stressful this family was for you and even with the temporary loss of income until you find replacements the peace will be more than worth it!

[JJPlaycare]

Thanks guys! I am a ball of emotions, but in the end I know this is for the best of everyone. Luckily I do have two families waiting to come here, one is more of a drop in care thing and the other is FT. I have been using all the money I made off the family leaving as extra towards our mortgage principle and now just need to prioritize and sort everything out and decide if I want to fill those spots or take a REALLY easy summer and enjoy my kids and the few kiddos I have left....... hmmm hmmm hmmm

[Mydaycare]

I completely understand you, I had the same situation and I decided to give out the 2 week notice. Since then I feel so much relieve I really don't care about the income I just thinking about feel good for the rest of my dck and my own kids. I was really hoping they didn't showed up this morning but they did

[frugalmama4]

So sorry you are going through this.

I just went through the same thing about two weeks ago, I'm still a little hurt.
My advice just move on...you can't control what people do or don't for that matter. Trust me you will have those spots filled in no time....and yes they will be at your door begging to come back real soon.

Much love!