"Daddy Hurt Mommy" (Logged Out)

[Meeko]

It's a hard call. Kids can say some weird stuff.

My mother has never forgotten taking me a big store in London when I was about 3 years old. I wasn't being very good so she told me we were leaving the store due to me behavior and took my hand and off we marched.

To my mother's complete horror...I said in a loud voice.....
"I'm sorry Mummy...please don't put me in the fridge again!"

I don't recall saying it or why and my parents almost died of shock as people stared at them!!! I have the best, kindest parents in the world!

They have never forgotten it. I've had 4 kids who all did or said weird things at 3 and dozens of day care 3 year olds.

That said.....I've also has suspicions about a day care father that turned out worse than I could ever have imagined.........

So go with your gut on this one...only you can get the "vibe" from the child.

[small_steps]

I agree with pressing the boy for more answers before calling CPS. Kids say some crazy things! I have heard kids say that I keep them in time out all day (this particular child has had one time out in 8 months), I have had kids who say I put them in a cage (I put a Superyard around us during sensory play so the little walkers don't put the sensory items in their mouth), my daughter has yelled before "DON'T PUSH ME!" when I have guided her out of the way nicely, etc. Kids make up things, over-exaggerate, and use the wrong words to describe situations all the time.

I wouldn't press the child for more information. Our local CPS caseworkers tell us not to continually ask questions as we aren't really trained to not lead the child. If children are asked questions several times they can start to embellish the truth because they are getting some attention from it.

I would call CPS and let them handle it. Ask to remain anonymous if you're worried about them getting angry with you. Let a CPS caseworker question the child if they feel it's necessary. I do agree that it sounds fishy and that something is probably going on. I hate being put in those types of situations.

[Ariana]

I agree with asking the kid more questions but make sure they are not leading questions. This is very important.

I wonder if the little boy heard the parents having sex?? Sometimes kids can think the parents are fighting when they're not kwim!! I know so many people who have heard their parents having sex and thought the dad was trying to kill their mom. Just a thought!

[Heidi]

I agree with asking the kid more questions but make sure they are not leading questions. This is very important.

I wonder if the little boy heard the parents having sex?? Sometimes kids can think the parents are fighting when they're not kwim!! I know so many people who have heard their parents having sex and thought the dad was trying to kill their mom. Just a thought!

@ Ariana It's certainly a possibility!

[Kiki]

I wonder if the little boy heard the parents having sex?? Sometimes kids can think the parents are fighting when they're not kwim!! I know so many people who have heard their parents having sex and thought the dad was trying to kill their mom. Just a thought!

:::::::: See, it's things like that, that makes it hard. Who is to say what really happened? :confused:

[karen]

What a sensitive situation!
First thing please get a notebook and document what was said. Only facts do not write down things like "I think" or " It seems" none of your feelings can come into this at all.
When questioning a child never put thoughts into his/her mind.
Questions should be simple and always let the child tell you what happened. And always document the questions you asked and the answer that was given. "Did daddy hit mommy" is not appropriate as that is putting thoughts into the child's head.
If you are not experienced in dealing with this or not comfortable I would call cps and speak with someone as they would be glad to help you out and give you the right questions to ask.
Good Luck!