Sad and Out of Sorts

[SilverSabre25]

So much stress lately.

DH tried a new job that turned out terribly, now he's out of work and we are depending on my income to survive. It's less than HALF of what we need. State assistance is s-l-o-w to get approved for and on Friday I found out that one of my dcb's is leaving my care in two weeks. That'll be another $480 a month we aren't getting paid.

DH is applying for jobs left and right but isn't getting calls back. He got tons of calls when he got laid off last fall, but now his work history looks ****y (three different jobs in six months) and I am afraid that's why he's not getting anything, and won't get anything, and he'll have to go to McD's or something which STILL won't be enough $$ for us to survive. We're facing foreclosure and a lot of other bad stuff right now.

Then on top of this, yesterday, dcm-turned-close-friend lost the baby she was carrying and of course I feel awful for her and am mourning that loss because I know how much she desperately wanted that baby.

I can't muster the enthusiasm or energy for much of anything and am very glad that today the kids are behaving. Knowing my group, that's short-lived but whatever. I'm just having a hard time today.

[Kiki]

Well that sounds not so good. Hopefully it all turns around quickly for you! If you don't mind me asking-what line of work is your husband in?

[SilverSabre25]

Well that sounds not so good. Hopefully it all turns around quickly for you! If you don't mind me asking-what line of work is your husband in?

Thanks. At the moment DH is in "anything he can get" but before this he worked in customer service (call centers) for about 5.5 years, and then got an insurance license but selling insurance is NOT his thing--100% commission does NOT support a family, not starting out anyway.

[Kiki]

Oo yea, my cousin is an insurance agent as well, she's been at it for almost 3 years and I think she's just starting to make money off of it. So def not something you can support a family on. I did call centers for awhile too.

Are there any production jobs or anything he can apply for? Those usually start out decent, at least better than a fast food place would. I'm assuming that your at your limit for kids, so getting more probably isn't an option? Either way, chin up! Things will go happyface soon!

[Lilbutterflie]

Oh my. I am so sorry. My SIL and her family went through this not too long ago. All I can say is, get as much assistance as possible! Food banks from local churches, state assistance (I know you said you've already applied and it's slow), call your mortgage company and see what they can do. If you go to church, get the word out through prayer requests (it is AMAZING what a church can do to help!!). Look into every single possible avenue that you or others can think of to limit your financial stress. If you or your husband has a 401K, consider taking a loan from it, or a withdrawl due to financial hardship (you would most likely qualify to take the money out without penalty).

I'll be praying for you SilverSabre! Hopefully things turn around soon!

[lil angels]

(((hugs)))). I don't have much to offer it hang in there and I am thinks of you and praying.

Try and get those advertisements out there so you can get that spot filled again right away. It will all work out you'll see.

[AfterSchoolMom]

Oh, Silver, I'm sorry. I wish I had some advice to give, but the previous posters have covered everything I could think of. Just keep praying and think positive thoughts - even if you have to fake them. ((hugs))

[cheerfuldom]

I'm sorry, that sounds really tough. Just a thought but does he HAVE to put the past job or two on the resume? A gap might be better than listing three jobs that didnt work out.

[Kiki]

I'm sorry, that sounds really tough. Just a thought but does he HAVE to put the past job or two on the resume? A gap might be better than listing three jobs that didnt work out.

This, or maybe if they were through temp services, just a little note on his resume next to them that states, 'Through xx temp services' so they see it wasn't really an option for leaving? (I don't know if that's the case, but I'm assuming it is.)

And yes! Make sure you go to your church, also, maybe call your state and see if you qualify for expedited help?

[jen]

Hugs. That ****s. Sending prayers and positive thoughts that things turn around quickly.

[littlemissmuffet]

Big hugs. Hoping everything turns around quickly, for you and your family, Silver.

I have one little bit of advice as a former manager... having three jobs is six months, no matter the circumstances doesn't look good for your hubs. So, I recommend removing those... or just leaving the one he was at the longest. Many managers would rather see a period of not working than a period of having many short-term jobs.

Good luck!

[CheekyChick]

I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. I will say a prayer for you that your husband finds a job and for the mommy who lost her baby.

Things WILL get better. They always do.

[momofsix]

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this now. Know that you/re being thought of and prayed for by people all over the country (and beyond!)

[MyAngels]

I'm sorry that your family is going through a difficult time - (((hugs))) for all of you.

I'm sure he's already thought of this, but since your DH already has his insurance licenses he should definitely look at other insurance companies. Sales is always a difficult line of work, but there are several insurance companies that provide great training and financial support while you build your "book." My DH worked for one of the major companies for about 10 years and it was an excellent choice to get started.

[momofboys]

So much stress lately.

DH tried a new job that turned out terribly, now he's out of work and we are depending on my income to survive. It's less than HALF of what we need. State assistance is s-l-o-w to get approved for and on Friday I found out that one of my dcb's is leaving my care in two weeks. That'll be another $480 a month we aren't getting paid.

DH is applying for jobs left and right but isn't getting calls back. He got tons of calls when he got laid off last fall, but now his work history looks ****y (three different jobs in six months) and I am afraid that's why he's not getting anything, and won't get anything, and he'll have to go to McD's or something which STILL won't be enough $$ for us to survive. We're facing foreclosure and a lot of other bad stuff right now.

Then on top of this, yesterday, dcm-turned-close-friend lost the baby she was carrying and of course I feel awful for her and am mourning that loss because I know how much she desperately wanted that baby.

I can't muster the enthusiasm or energy for much of anything and am very glad that today the kids are behaving. Knowing my group, that's short-lived but whatever. I'm just having a hard time today.

Oh no this is very tough! Offering you virtual hugs & prayers & letting you know I am hoping things take a turn for the better! Keep your chin up & DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!