Seriously Contemplating Being On This Board Anymore

[wdmmom]

I did read the rest of the posts and in her first response she gave you great advice about your vacation and then you dismissed her and she responded accordingly.

Regardless, so sorry I didn't agree with you...

I think I see a pattern here

The thread is not about my vacation. That is the point I'm trying to get across, therefore,the advice isn't relevant.

[countrymom]

so I had to think what i was going to write so it didn't come off rude. I think you are acting selfish, I can't believe you would complain about, how people don't comment on your posts. Seriously, put your big girl pants on. Maybe some of us don't have any suggestions for you, did you ever think of that. I can't stand people who post threads like this, either you go or you stay, but why make a big production out of it.

[countrymom]

and I've had plenty of posts where no one answers me, do I complain NO!!

[wdmmom]

so I had to think what i was going to write so it didn't come off rude. I think you are acting selfish, I can't believe you would complain about, how people don't comment on your posts. Seriously, put your big girl pants on. Maybe some of us don't have any suggestions for you, did you ever think of that. I can't stand people who post threads like this, either you go or you stay, but why make a big production out of it.

OH....I think I said that already but thank for reiterating.

[MarinaVanessa]

The thread is not about my vacation. That is the point I'm trying to get across, therefore,the advice isn't relevant.

My advice to you then is not to add information into the description if it's not related to the information that you are seeking. If you were simply looking for information about one thing and added informaiton about other things to give people more understanding then I recommend starting with "Here's some background first" and then give the general information. Then "Here's my issue" and state your issue that you want advice or suggestions for and finish off by asking one clear question after you state your issue.

Maybe doing it like this will be more clear to people and more helpfull to you?

For the record I did read the post from yesterday and from my perception I was confused as to what the question was talking about. My perception is that the post talked about topic A in the beginning, then topic B, then topic C, then how you felt and then finished off with a general question about what people would do. Nowhere did I get the impression that Topic B was specifically being asked KWIM? I think that many people got that impression that the question was about the entire post in whole covering topics A,B and C. I think that's where the confusion is and why you didn't get the help to the question that you were focusing on.

And I think that if you aren't getting the answers to the question that you are focusing on then clarifying again what you want without sounding frustrated is going to get you better results and suggestions to the topic you wanted to focus on. People are here because they want to help or at least offer support. People often give examples from their own experiences and say they've been through it too because it's a way to show others that they are not alone in their predicament ... thus how they offer support. I hope that this is food for thought.

[wdmmom]

My advice to you then is not to add information into the description if it's not related to the information that you are seeking. If you were simply looking for information about one thing and added informaiton about other things to give people more understanding then I recommend starting with

"Here's some background first" and then stating your issue that you are asking advice or suggestions for and then ask one clear question after you state your issue.

Maybe doing it like this will be more clear to people and more helpfull to you?

For the record I did read the post from yesterday and from my perception I was confused as to what the question was talking about. The post talked about topic A in the beginning, then topic B, thehn topic C and then how you felt and then at the end a general question was asked about what people would do. Nowhere did I get the impression that Topic B was specifically being asked KWIM? I think that many people got that impression like I did that the question was about the whole situation in whole covering topics A,B and C. I think that's where the confusion is and why you didn't get the help to the question that you were focusing on.

And I think that if you aren't getting the answers to the question that you are focusing on then clarifying again what you want without sounding frustrated is going to get you better results and the suggestions to the topic you wanted to focus on. People are here and want to help or at least offer support. People often give examples from their own experiences and say they've been through it too because it's a way to show others that they are not alone in their predicament ... thus how they offer support. I hope that this is food for thought.

Thank you for speaking up. I apologize for the misunderstanding and the way the post was written. I will take your advice and go about it another way next time.

[Unregistered]

I'm just a lurker and from what I see when ever I ger on here is YOU causing trouble.
Boo hoo,no one will talk to me.Grow up!
Not everyone hangs on your every word,waiting to reply.You wanted some responses well I guess you got what you asked for.

[wdmmom]

I'm just a lurker and from what I see when ever I ger on here is YOU causing trouble.
Boo hoo,no one will talk to me.Grow up!
Not everyone hangs on your every word,waiting to reply.You wanted some responses well I guess you got what you asked for.

Really?! Boo hoo. Maybe you should take your own advice and quit being a troll!!!

[Live and Learn]

Is it really that hard to be nice...?

:confused:Pot calling the kettle black?:confused:

[Country Kids]

See this is what I mean.I feel this post has been turned into alot of "Drama" and now the posts are flying back and forth. It had been nice and quiet for awhile too.

Like MV was saying, maybe really clarify what your question is and go from there. In your other post from yesterday, I thought you were asking should I ask again for the schedule change or not? In the same post though you wrote alot about maternity leave, vacation and how it wouldn't effect anyone but the pregnant mom. I did get lost along the way because it sounded like this child wasn't going to be there much longer, but then coming over maternity leave time.

I know its going to be a loss of income for you to lose this child but have you advertised to another one. Are you looking to replace him. See I really wasn't sure what you were asking because of everything else you wrote.

[Meeko]

Whenever we reply to a post asking for help or opinion, most of us offer replies from our own experience and lives. That may or may not help the original poster. But we tried and isn't that what counts? Even if we don't "get it"?

And not answering a post doesn't mean we are ignoring the poster. It simply means that maybe we don't feel we have the information needed.

[wdmmom]

See this is what I mean.I feel this post has been turned into alot of "Drama" and now the posts are flying back and forth. It had been nice and quiet for awhile too.

Like MV was saying, maybe really clarify what your question is and go from there. In your other post from yesterday, I thought you were asking should I ask again for the schedule change or not? In the same post though you wrote alot about maternity leave, vacation and how it wouldn't effect anyone but the pregnant mom. I did get lost along the way because it sounded like this child wasn't going to be there much longer, but then coming over maternity leave time.

I know its going to be a loss of income for you to lose this child but have you advertised to another one. Are you looking to replace him. See I really wasn't sure what you were asking because of everything else you wrote.

I reread it several times over and was able to see where it might be confusing to some given I did give a lot of information. Thank you for attempting to disect it and offer advice. I was able to get some valuable info from posters and did take their advice.

[wdmmom]

Whenever we reply to a post asking for help or opinion, most of us offer replies from our own experience and lives. That may or may not help the original poster. But we tried and isn't that what counts? Even if we don't "get it"?

And not answering a post doesn't mean we are ignoring the poster. It simply means that maybe we don't feel we have the information needed.

Thanks Meeko. I can see how there might not have been many to have encountered this type of situation.

[Michael]

Think about this "virtual place". It cost money, time and daily effort to make it useful. It is a platform to make of it what you will (within reason). I likewise am very busy but try to take the time to read the New Posts as MarinaVanessa suggested. I know most of the time I try to scan threads and offer some suggestions or TAGs that may be of help. I am sure most of the time I may not "get" where the thread is going. It took a couple years before others started to respond to my posts. I think I've made some friends here.

When I read how much the board has enhanced people's lives, businesses and daily grind, it makes it all worthwhile.

I think a lot of the advice here is helpful. How often do you get people that will take the time to give you a realistic view of what THEY see, be it critical at times. I would rather hear what people actually think then the fluff, PC and dribble that is usually offered in other settings. I think the internet make that possible. I do not see members here hiding behind their computers making hurtful comments. There is a lot of positive information in this thread. Use it.

[spud912]