Another Death Due To Co-Sleeping....

[youretooloud]

This is MY opinion only. I respect that others feel differently.



STATEMENT : "I co-slept with my baby and he/she was just fine."

SAME AS.....

STATEMENT: "My grandfather was a smoker and lived til he was 97, so
cigarettes are perfectly harmless."


In this case...the child was electrocuted. But death could easily have been suffocation as it sounds like the parents were not very responsible.

That's not at all the same. If you smoke, you are 97% sure of suffering for years, and dragging all of your loved ones down for the ride.

Co sleeping can be done safely.

Sleeping alone in a crib is often unsafe. If you put a blanket in the crib with your baby, he or she could suffocate under the blanket.

A local baby had a pacifier in her mouth, she rolled on her side, next to the crib rails, and suffocated because the pacifier was being pushed into her mouth and covering her nose.

But, you never hear "Another baby dies from pacifier use".

( I didn't co-sleep, and probably wouldn't... but, I fully support parents who do)

[momofboys]

I never co-slept with any of my children. I desire my sleep & hubby & I only have a double bed - not much room for the kiddos. In addition I have heard of instances where it is very difficult to get the kids out of the bed after you start co-sleeping. Fine for some but as another poster stated how in the heck do you DTD with a 18-month-old on the bed with you & heaven forbid your 3-year old never wants to sleep in their own bed b/c they have become accustomed to sleeping w/mom & dad. I don't bacs co-sleepers, to each his own but I am curious about those of you who do/did if your kids easily transitioned to their own bed or if you still co-sleep with older kids?

[youretooloud]

[MyAngels]

Each person has to decide what works best for them and their family. There is no "right" or "wrong" here. You can follow all the "rules" and something still happens, and then you feel like "see....I KNEW that wasn't right for us".

So...sleep with your child or dont, carry them around in a sack on your stomach until their 2...or don't. Breastfeed or bottle feed, cloth diapers or not...teach them to read when they're 12 months old if you feel you must.

Why does everthing have to be one way or another? I don't get it:confused::confused::confused:

PS: just dont bring them to MY daycare after you've co slept, slung, and breastfed them until they were 2.. ::

Well said. happyface

[Heidi]

Is that attached somehow to the big bed? Just wondering that a rolling infant might not roll into the crack? A crawling infant would just crawl right in with the parent anyway? Or could the crib scootch away from the bed and leave a wider crack?

I'm NOT knockin' it, just curious!

I used a bassinet for the first 4-6 weeks with mine, next to me. Occasionally, I snoozed a little while breastfeeding. But, by 6 weeks, they went to their own bed in their own room. They LOVED their bed. It was their space. All but one was sleeping through the night by then, too. If they had been next to me I would have heard every sniffle, and they'd probably still be night-feeding now...

:::::: btw, theyre' now 11,14,19, and 22. ::

[Childminder]

Keeping the air moving around with an overhead fan dramatically reduced the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) by 72 percent, researchers reported.

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/10/06/embargo-fan-in-babys-room-lowers-sids-risk/

http://www.firstcandle.org/cms/wp-

content/uploads/2009/08/Rebreathing_Carbon_Dioxide.pdf

http://www.lung.org/lung-disease/sudden-infant-death-syndrome/understanding-sids.html

http://www.marchofdimes.com/baby/care_sleeping.html

[AmyLeigh]

I never co-slept with any of my children. I desire my sleep & hubby & I only have a double bed - not much room for the kiddos. In addition I have heard of instances where it is very difficult to get the kids out of the bed after you start co-sleeping. Fine for some but as another poster stated how in the heck do you DTD with a 18-month-old on the bed with you & heaven forbid your 3-year old never wants to sleep in their own bed b/c they have become accustomed to sleeping w/mom & dad. I don't bacs co-sleepers, to each his own but I am curious about those of you who do/did if your kids easily transitioned to their own bed or if you still co-sleep with older kids?

Okay, now that my internet service is working....

I think it's hilarious that the co-sleeping debates always begin with the safety of the child, but then ends up really being about the parents' sexual relationship.
With my own children, I often would put them down in the crib, then keep them with me after the first night waking. Dh would get up, quick diaper change if needed, then bring baby to bed so she/he could nurse as long as wanted and I could go back to sleep easily. I got much more sleep that way and still was able to maintain my marriage. I was able to wean them to their own bed in time to give birth to the next one. ::
By the way, I took the time to learn all the rules for safe co-sleeping and abided by them. It's just like using a car safety seat. Some parents use them correctly, some, not so much. Just because some parents don't install a car seat correctly and a child dies because of it, doesn't mean that no one should ever use that model of car seat, does it?

[JenNJ]

Okay, now that my internet service is working....

I think it's hilarious that the co-sleeping debates always begin with the safety of the child, but then ends up really being about the parents' sexual relationship.
With my own children, I often would put them down in the crib, then keep them with me after the first night waking. Dh would get up, quick diaper change if needed, then bring baby to bed so she/he could nurse as long as wanted and I could go back to sleep easily. I got much more sleep that way and still was able to maintain my marriage. I was able to wean them to their own bed in time to give birth to the next one. ::
By the way, I took the time to learn all the rules for safe co-sleeping and abided by them. It's just like using a car safety seat. Some parents use them correctly, some, not so much. Just because some parents don't install a car seat correctly and a child dies because of it, doesn't mean that no one should ever use that model of car seat, does it?

I always feel bad when people say that. I mean who ONLY has sex in bed? How boring! ::

[momofboys]

Okay, now that my internet service is working....

I think it's hilarious that the co-sleeping debates always begin with the safety of the child, but then ends up really being about the parents' sexual relationship.
With my own children, I often would put them down in the crib, then keep them with me after the first night waking. Dh would get up, quick diaper change if needed, then bring baby to bed so she/he could nurse as long as wanted and I could go back to sleep easily. I got much more sleep that way and still was able to maintain my marriage. I was able to wean them to their own bed in time to give birth to the next one. ::
By the way, I took the time to learn all the rules for safe co-sleeping and abided by them. It's just like using a car safety seat. Some parents use them correctly, some, not so much. Just because some parents don't install a car seat correctly and a child dies because of it, doesn't mean that no one should ever use that model of car seat, does it?

I never said you shouldn't co-sleep, did I? I only said I chose NOT to. I also mentioned the reasons I did not - we have a smallish bed, I didn't want to infringe on time at night with my DH (& I did not necessarily mean SEX, time with a spouse without a child between us!). I also did not co-sleep b/c I was concerned about having a 4 or 5-year old in bed with us eventually. I am a very light sleeper & I don't think I could have slept well with an infant in my room (not even in our bed, in our room) b/c when we did have a bassinet in our room I stayed awake literally listening for each breath. Not sure why you feel the need to explain why you did or didn't do something - I was simply explaining why I chose not to & asking if any parents who did co-sleep ever had issues getting the children to sleep on their own.

[AmyLeigh]

Not sure why you feel the need to explain why you did or didn't do something - I was simply explaining why I chose not to & asking if any parents who did co-sleep ever had issues getting the children to sleep on their own.

Because you asked, my friend. Read your post I quoted. You asked how the heck you DTD with an 18 month old in bed with you. I was simply explaining, just like you did. I so not get defensive over my choices. But if you ask, I will explain.

[momofboys]

Because you asked, my friend. Read your post I quoted. You asked how the heck you DTD with an 18 month old in bed with you. I was simply explaining, just like you did. I so not get defensive over my choices. But if you ask, I will explain.

My point is you made it into a sexual thing & it was not - I stated 3 different reasons, not just sex, so it was not all a sexual thing - just sayin' - don't make it into something it isn't.

[SilverSabre25]

As a mod, I say that this has strayed from the topic and gotten a little heated. If you want to continue the "how the heck do you DTD when you're co-sleeping?!" line, please start a new thread for it.

[AmyLeigh]

My point is you made it into a sexual thing & it was not - I stated 3 different reasons, not just sex, so it was not all a sexual thing - just sayin' - don't make it into something it isn't.

You and another poster both brought up the same 2 reasons they chose not to co-sleep, one being sex, the other being quality of sleep. I just explained how I chose to deal with both. Don't ask if you don't wanna know.
It's not just this particular thread. Anytime someone finds out that I coslept with my children the first question is always "how did you get any sleep?" and the second is "how did you have sex?" These are very common questions and I am not offended in the least by them. I will answer openly and honestly. I just find it funny that every conversation I have had about cosleeping turns to those two issues. KWIM?

I really don't care who cosleeps and who doesn't or their reasons why. It's a personal decision. It worked for me, not for you. Not a big deal.

[AmyLeigh]

As a mod, I say that this has strayed from the topic and gotten a little heated. If you want to continue the "how the heck do you DTD when you're co-sleeping?!" line, please start a new thread for it.

Sorry. I hope I didn't come across as heated. I'm not upset. But I am done.

[momofboys]

I'm sorry too - I shouldn't have taken it so far. I didn't mean to step across any lines AmyLeigh. No excuses but it is almost that time of month for me::