More Food Issues

[Ariana]

So he will eat junk food totally fine and scream free? That would make me pretty ticked off!! If he doesn't scream with junky food then this is 100% the parents fault IMO. He has learned this behavior.

[daycare]

So he will eat junk food totally fine and scream free? That would make me pretty ticked off!! If he doesn't scream with junky food then this is 100% the parents fault IMO. He has learned this behavior.

yes and I have talked to the parents a million times about it....and still 6 months later I am dealing with it....

As for whoever said to give the child the choice if they want to eat or not, I can't do that. My meal times are set and they have to sit down at the meal times and be served. food Program rules. I don't want to open a can of worms of speical for one child, because if one child is allowed to choose to play instead of eat, then all of the children will choose this and then i am going to have to deal with fighting everyone to eat when it is meal time.

[MizzCheryl]

http://main.zerotothree.org/site/DocServer/29-3_Chatoorv.pdf?docID=7961

I have a child with sensory dysfunction.
As a baby and toddler she had severe oral aversions.
Feeding time could be awful and so could the rest of the day as she was hungry.
Sometimes just the smell of the food is enough to upset them. She had to have a feeding tube because there was no getting her to eat. She is 12 now and eats wonderfully, praise the lord.

Of course it could be that he gets his way at home but it would seem he would figure out that won't go with you. Does he drink? Would he take pediasure?
Does he mouth things? Are there things he puts in his mouth?

He may need a screening. She was diagnosed by the time she was 2 but her mama was a real advocate for her. I mean she had to raise some cain to get her child the help she needed.

If the parent cannot see that there is a real problem you have to think of yourself first and your other kids.
Ideally they would get checked out and get him some help, but, if they won't there is not much you can do.

[jojosmommy]

yes and I have talked to the parents a million times about it....and still 6 months later I am dealing with it....

As for whoever said to give the child the choice if they want to eat or not, I can't do that. My meal times are set and they have to sit down at the meal times and be served. food Program rules. I don't want to open a can of worms of speical for one child, because if one child is allowed to choose to play instead of eat, then all of the children will choose this and then i am going to have to deal with fighting everyone to eat when it is meal time.

You ARE already doing special. You are allowing him to ruin lunch for everyone already. His screaming creates stress. No doubt the kids are affected.

You already showed him his screaming works. You conceeded and added a ton of syrup to bribe him to eat. Once you make food an issue you'll have long term problems. He knows this is working. If nothing else he is getting ALL your attention.

And I'm on the fp too. The rules aren't that strict. Call your rep. I know mine wouldn't say the point is to torture everyone by allowing this kids shenanigans to continue. All we have to do is offer/serve. They don't have to remain at the table (screaming nonsense) while the others eat.

And one time your kids will care he got told to read. After that they will enjoy their meal and then be excused to read too. Best part is, you get to clean up and they get nice and sleepy for nap.

[DCP]

oh goodness I went through that and still do occasionally!!! After conversation after conversation with the parents I found out that at 2 yrs old..the parents were doing one or all of the following...spoon feeding - in front of tv - what she demanded for food and mostly baby food!! Yes baby food. The child was not eating table food at home except for an occasional bite. In fact at that time I also found out that they were still giving her a bottle of formula in stead of milk!! I did not find out about this for a year because she was part time - when she became full time and not eating...I began questioning.
She became a 10 hr per day child and would scream through lunch & snacks. When I had all the kids present I would simply remove her from the table and prepare her by herself for nap. If I was low on kids - I let her sit there. She had to be hungry but I refused to give her anything she wanted and she only got what the others did.
Now she eats most of what I serve - but for a year she refused most. Would not eat a sandwhich unless it was cut up into bite size pieces..pizza same way!
After repeatedly expressing my concern to the parents - they finally changed their methods at home..but do not follow it 100%. I can always tell when they get off schedule because she will not eat for a week! (Even snacks!)
She also refuses to paint with her hands or feet - will not touch glue, mud etc. If the food touches her skin...she will start screaming all over again to this day!