Co-Sleeping

[Soupyszoo]

A relative of mine who does not co-sleep had an awkward "adult time" moment.

She and her dh were watching tv one night, snuggled under the covers, and well, one thing led to another. They THOUGHT all their children were asleep, so...

When they were, ah, finished, they heard a little voice from the foot of the bed. Their 6 yo poked his head up and said "so, if your'e done, can you turn up the volume on the tv? I can't hear it".

OH MY!! ::::::::

[jojosmommy]

Safe way to co sleep: www.armsreach.com
We own one and love it. Check it out before you assume there is no safe way to cosleep.

And since my dd sleeps by herself in her crib first, until her first awakening (around 1 am) my dh and I have no marital issues with cosleeping if you catch my drift happyface.

[cheerfuldom]

Ok if I was a baby, I bet co sleeping would be awesome. Warm, snugly, breast milk close by. But if I was a daddy, I bet it would not be awesome. Do co sleeping parents just never have sex? Sorry to be so blunt, but how is it possible with a baby, toddler, child right next to you? Do marriages suffer I wonder? I think it is not totally safe either, but adults need adult time, kwim?

I agree, I would want to be right next to mama 24/7 if I was a baby, who wouldnt want that?

Lots of co-sleeping parents, like us, do have a co-sleeper basinet or other option so baby isnt in the bed all the time. and as for sex, people get creative and just dont do it in the bed (sorry if that is TMI). I think sometimes some marriages do suffer but like anything else, it is all about compromise within your marriage. some dads really dont mind and some dads I know, want to co-sleep and its the moms that dont.

[MNMum]

Babies die in cribs too. Why would you take the risk of sleeping your child there? When done safely, co-sleeping has few risks and many benefits. This can be a touchy subject, I think.

This...........

[Kaddidle Care]

I did co-sleep when I nursed my sons. Well.. sort of dozed with them but the bassinet was next to the bed. I took care not to put the baby between my husband and myself knowing that men don't really have the instinct to not roll over. When you're nursing your breasts are tender so sleeping or dozing while facing the baby (usually while baby nurses) there is very slim chance of you rolling over onto your belly because it hurts.

Once children are older I can't sleep with them. Sorry.. they are all over the place and you have a heel in your ear, an elbow in your side, etc.

The only time they got to sleep with us is if they were sick with high fever and I wanted to keep a close eye on them.

I don't think it is fair to a child care provider if you do something that they can't to get your child to sleep though. It's not fair to the child either.

[Mary Poppins]

It's my personal opinon too that co-sleeping is dangerous.

However...I do co-sleep with my 10 month old, four legged baby because he insists on it.....::

OMG I have his twin!!

Mine needs a haircut right now though. ::

[smb757]

My husband is the one wanting to bring the babies into our bed!! I never had the intention to co-sleep, but i honestly think some babies are just meant to. I could not get my son into a deep enough sleep to sleep on his own. But if he was touching me in some way, he was fine - like even his foot on my leg and he was out! I tried every trick people suggested - swaddling, the swing, even a hot water bottle in his bassinet. He was still a newborn, so i didn't let him cry once he hit the real cry. We got it worked by the time i went back to work - he napped in the PNP and started the night in his crib.

My daughter, on the other hand, slept fine from day one...well, as far as newborns go. :: Even in the hospital - i could actually lay her down in the bassinet thing!