Need advise:{ very depressed

[MommyofThree]

Ok so I just hired my sister as my full time assistant. I pay her 350 and that leaves me with jsut 5-6 hundred. She depends on the income but when I only have six kids I dont need her but she still says she needs the money so she still comes Well I am more stressed having her here then if I had a stranger because I can jsut tell them I dont need you. its jsust so hard working with family because they know your buissness and so forth. I want to look for someone else but I dont want to tell her the truth I would say my dh got laid off or something. Is that mean. I know it is but im very depressed with her. I also would give her 4 weeks to get a job. urg help. was any one in this situation.

[cheerfuldom]

can you at least cut down her hours to what you DO need and then, if she needs more money, she needs to just find another job.

[MommyofThree]

can you at least cut down her hours to what you DO need and then, if she needs more money, she needs to just find another job.

Its really hard she says. We talked about that. to hard to work two jobs i guess

[Country Kids]

Yes, most jobs don't want to work around anothers jobs schedule.

[cheerfuldom]

I would tell her what you could give her as far as hours and if she needs more money, find a completely different job. I understand you situation. I hired my own sister and it was a big mistake except that she was pregnant so I really couldnt fire her. But in this case, your sister can start looking for another job. and if she cant find anything, you arent obligated to give her more hours than you can afford. She should be able to understand that. Dont let her problems become your problems!

[frugalmama4]

This is a hard one...never hire family.

Just be honest, tell her what you need her for and how much you will pay.

It's like another company, if she feels that won't work for her needs...then she can find another job.

Sorry

[sharlan]

NEVER HIRE FAMILY.

I would tell that you're sorry, but you can't afford to support her. You can use her x amount of hours at $X. You can't afford to give her 1/2 of your income. In that case, you would be better off terming 1/2 of your kids.

[CheekyChick]

I would be 100% honest with her. If you tell her a fib and she finds out, that could harm your relatioship with her.

Sit her down. Tell her how many hours you need her and work out a schedule. Honesty is always the best policy.

[DaycareMama]

Ok so I just hired my sister as my full time assistant. I pay her 350 and that leaves me with jsut 5-6 hundred. She depends on the income but when I only have six kids I dont need her but she still says she needs the money so she still comes Well I am more stressed having her here then if I had a stranger because I can jsut tell them I dont need you. its jsust so hard working with family because they know your buissness and so forth. I want to look for someone else but I dont want to tell her the truth I would say my dh got laid off or something. Is that mean. I know it is but im very depressed with her. I also would give her 4 weeks to get a job. urg help. was any one in this situation.

Oh MommyofThree.... I am so sorry for you! I am in the exact same situation my self!! My assistant who is also family has NO FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES other then feeding herself but watches me struggle and work TWO jobs just to pay her.
I have tried cutting her hours, telling her the truth, dropping the amount of kids here so she wasn't needed, you name it and I have tried it. But just like your sister she shows up everyday and how can I not pay her if shes here?

I know everyone is quick to say "never hire family" I agree now! But when your in the situation it doesn't help. Its not easy without ruining that relationship.
I don't have any advice for you Cause again.... im there too. But I can tell you that I totally understand how hard this is for you and your husband. I kid you not when I tell you that my husband and I have actually considered moving to get away ::

If you ever just want to vent or chat privatly about it im here. I know for me there is so much stress involved with this but I can't put it all on here without out fear of someone who knows me seeing it.

I hope you find a solution soon that works for you And if you do ..... please share

[DaisyMamma]

This is a hard one...never hire family.

Just be honest, tell her what you need her for and how much you will pay.

It's like another company, if she feels that won't work for her needs...then she can find another job.

Sorry

Tell her the truth for sure. It's too bad you didn't discuss it beforehand, letting her know it is on an as needed basis.

She doesn't feel bad coming when you don't need her? It's sort of like taking your income away from you.
Just be straight and tell her how it is. And make sure you say that you won't feel bad if she wants to find another job. Hopefully this will let her know that you're serious.

[My3cents]

Oh MommyofThree.... I am so sorry for you! I am in the exact same situation my self!! My assistant who is also family has NO FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITIES other then feeding herself but watches me struggle and work TWO jobs just to pay her.
I have tried cutting her hours, telling her the truth, dropping the amount of kids here so she wasn't needed, you name it and I have tried it. But just like your sister she shows up everyday and how can I not pay her if shes here?Tell her the hours that she is needed and have her sign in and out for those hours- if she is there then she is off the clock. You both need to be honest with your sisters and tell them that this is your business- your greatful for the help but you are running a daycare for your financial benefit not theirs. Suggest finding another job but two weeks from now these are the hours that I am going to need you and pay you for and here is your responsibilities for that time- Even though you are my sister- I am still the boss of my business. This can be said with loving tone and knowing to not take it all on is going to be the biggest help to your sisters- BEST- Many families work together it can work, it just has to be known who is in charge ultimately and what the responsibilities are for them- not you- for them, you hired them for the help.

I know everyone is quick to say "never hire family" I agree now! But when your in the situation it doesn't help. Its not easy without ruining that relationship.
I don't have any advice for you Cause again.... im there too. But I can tell you that I totally understand how hard this is for you and your husband. I kid you not when I tell you that my husband and I have actually considered moving to get away ::

If you ever just want to vent or chat privatly about it im here. I know for me there is so much stress involved with this but I can't put it all on here without out fear of someone who knows me seeing it.

I hope you find a solution soon that works for you And if you do ..... please share

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