Help me! Fighting & BITING!

[DaisyMamma]

My DD, 3 in July started biting a few months ago and I have no idea where she learned it. It doesn't happen often, and I did notice she does it when she is tired and frustrated. That does not make it ok and I cannot seem to get her to stop. It happens SO FAST. I stop just as many bites as I don't stop in time.

The result is that DD has taught the other kids to bite. DCG3 bit DCB1 today and parent didn't believe me:confused: (of course he thought DD did it but she was in bed) I am upset now because DCD is mad (of course!) and I'm worried that I will lose DCG3, as she is usually the one DD fights with, and believe me, DD gets just as many marks and bites from DCG3 and she does from DD.
It didn't help my case that DD also bit DCG3 today at a later time.

I feel like the whole thing is out of control and I'm not sure what I can even say to DCG3's parents. If I were them I would be really upset too

[MizzCheryl]

Wow that sounds like a stressful thing for you. It is hard when your own kids are there and the parents see them misbehave.

I am not sure how you can handle it with your daughter but I can tell you what I would do.

If my child bit another Daycare child they would be banned from the daycare activities for a good while. It would be hard but I did it. If my child misbehaved they were off to their room for the day.

If they ever behaved when other parents were around I made sure they were sent away and not allowed to be around at pick up and drop off.
If the parents asked I just made an excuse as to where my child was. IT's none of their business.
After spending the day without playmates and Mommy they straightened up and the bad influence on the others was gone. It was hard but it worked.

I just made sure what they could play with was in their rooms and they had a safe place. I would even set up a baby moniter to listen in on them from time to time.

[DaisyMamma]

What is really making me upset here is that DCG3s parents don't believe me that she bit another kid. Why would I lie?

[MizzCheryl]

That is tough. All I know is that many times parents are in denial.

They want to think their kids do no wrong and it is easier to blame someone else when their kid misbehaves.

I have had parents that want to blame their child's misbehavior on the other children. "oh, Johnny has thrown fits all morning. I know he is picking it up here from little susie."

I am sorry DCD didn't believe you.