To Address DCM's Jealousy Or Not?

[SunshineMama]

How would you (or would you even) address a jealous mom's snarky comments?

I have posted before about dcb1 calling me Mama in front of his mom. We both corrected him, and I always do, but he still does it.

In the mornings, he leaps out of her arms and giggles for me to get him. He cries and yells when it's pick up time.

Mom always has a comment. She's made remarks about how I use legos at pick up time to distract the kids and keep them happy ("Oh, legos AGAIN!?!) "Yes dcm, legos again."

She's always saying how he never wants her and only me. Twice a day, everyday, it is some sarcastic comment.

The otherday she brought him shredded wheat for breakfast, which, seems innocent enough.... until you give it to a 1 year old who shreds it all over the place

Should I say anything or just ignore it? I have said the, "Oh at least he's happy." bit already and smiled..

[familyschoolcare]

Instead of atleast he is happy ....


try .......


If you are going to have a problem with your daycare your child not whanting to leave is a good one to have.


When I worked in a center I did this several times different parents and worked like a charm gets the parents thinking about wiether or not it is a problem.

[Blackcat31]

"Sally, lately you have been making some comments in regards to the care I am providing and the fact that your child is attached to me. Based on these comments, I am feeling as if you are unhappy with my services.

If you wish to give notice, please make sure it is in writing and contains any issues you have.

If you are not wishing to discontinue our child care agreement, I would appreciate it if you would either take the time to discuss your concerns with me in person or if you would keep you comments to yourself as I find them a bit snarky and disrespecful."

.....but that is just me. I say it like it is. I never just let disrespectful or rude comments slide, especially if they are implying that I am not doing my job or am doing something wrong.

[Ariana]

I am with Blackcat. It just seems odd that she's making these bizarre comments. I think if she was honestly jealous she wouldn't say anything, she just seems to want to stir up drama IMO. Nip this in the bud now.

I had a DCD making snarky comments about my DD because she doesn't really get along with his child. Meanwhile he sees my child for all of 2 minutes per day. They actually get along fine but have a bit of a sibling rivalry relationship due to their similar age. Anyway I asked him if he was was concerned with the relationship and I explained to him that like all children they have good days and bad days but for the most part they get along well. I also told him that his DD headbutted my DD a few days ago so his DD wasn't always the innocent one. My DD is just more verbal. He hears her say "go away and leave me alone" and his kid uses other tactics!!

Anyway needless to say they haven't brought it up since then

[itlw8]

all kids do this... I have been called Mom, Grandma, Mrs ____ ( school kids teacher ) He does not think you are mom he KNOWS who is mom

I would simply say dcm this is normal behavior . He know you are mom and loves you. Would you feel better if he screamed and cried when he saw me ??? No you wouldn't.

[Pout]

Maybe she shouldn't put her child in daycare then! I would be so happy if my son was in a daycare that he absolutely loved and had a provider that he couldn't wait to see. Some people are so insecure. Would she rather take him to a place where he hated and screamed for his mom when it was time to be dropped off?

[MizzCheryl]

She is being insecure. Insecurity can be an ugly thing.

You are great at your job and great with her child. He prefers you to her... or maybe that is how she feels.

Those comments are irritating. Some people are just irritating and seem to always make snotty comments.

Be proud of yourself and the job you do. When she smarts off, be cool and set a great example for the kids you care for. Smile and great her with empathy. It is sad that her child does not squeal with glee when he sees his mom, but that is NO reflection on you, only on her.

[CheekyChick]

She's is clearly jealous, so I would say something like, "I feel it hurts your feeling when little Johnny is excited to see me. I hope you know that I could never replace you or the love little Johnny feels toward you, nor would I want to. I am just happy that he has fun here and looks foward to coming to daycare."

[MarinaVanessa]

I see this issue come up every once on a while especially with first time parents. I just tell tell the parents something like ...

"Suzie had a lot of fun today but she still missed you very much while you were away. Now that you're here she doesn't want to leave just yet because now that you're finally here she wants to share what fun she did have with you. It's not that she doesn't want to leave ... She just wants to play with you here before you go home."

That usually gets them to think about the situation in a different light.