Do You Think A Teenager Needs An iPhone Or Cell Phone?

[daycare]

She said it because she knew it would get to you! Next time don't let her have that control! If she says she hates you tell her that is too bad because you love her. They hate that!

I also used to tell my DD when she said she hated me thank you because at least I knew I was doing something right then! LOL!

You know in your heart of hearts she doesn't mean it but words are all she has right now so she is going to use them. Just turn it around on her.

I did tell her this: If you hate me, then that means I am doing my job as a parent. Because parenting means that you have to set rules, boundaries and guidelines. Thats why you are the kid and I am the parent. Kids don't know how to do that yet.

Then I got the ugly look .....

I will have to try what you said and say, the I love you one....

[Michael]

3. It is usually the first thing i take away when she acts up. Has REALLY helped behavior modification.

Yes, big time leverage.

[daycare]

Yes, big time leverage.

can you tell my ex this....he seems to think that I am being over the top... I told him that taking the phone away was the least that I would do after sight over her grades and disrespectful attitude.

Last time I took it away, he went and got her a new one.....................gggeeeeerrrrrrrrr

[sharlan]

Once again, you need to remind your ex that your daughter lives with you and as such needs to follow the FAMILY rules set forth by you and your current husband.

Your daughter has really been pushing the limits since school started this year. I would take the phone away and give her a phone without all the goodies on it until her attitude changes and her grades change.

I would keep taking the luxury phones that your ex buys until HE gets the message as well.

REMEMBER - YOUR HOUSE, YOUR RULES!

[MrsB]

Yes, big time leverage.

Yeah, I learned the hard way one time when I said okay, you can't go anywhere this weekend. She said okay and took it like a champ. No need to go anywhere when she can skype all her friends from home. Only took me once to learn that lesson!

[My3cents]

She said it because she knew it would get to you! Next time don't let her have that control! If she says she hates you tell her that is too bad because you love her. They hate that!

I also used to tell my DD when she said she hated me thank you because at least I knew I was doing something right then! LOL!

You know in your heart of hearts she doesn't mean it but words are all she has right now so she is going to use them. Just turn it around on her.

I also tell my daughter this, and tell her she is using strong words. It makes her think that maybe she should think before speaking out of hate, when she truly doesn't mean it.

I also agree with the poster that said take every phone your hubby gives her away until he gets the idea too- your house your rules- keep asking him to respect your differences.

[CheekyChick]

For safety, I think all teens should have a phone. I would give it to her before school and take it back when she gets home.

[Unregistered]

oh my gosh

you guys are totally over protective!!! your daughter most likeley has a crush on a boy at school, and beleive me it is super hard to talk to your crush face to face. SO... just like i do, i text him! and if my mom ever took my phone away, we would loose contact and i would be really depressed. and i mean... seriously. if you are a teenage girl, you should defanetly have a phone by the age of 13.even with a phone, it is esier to bump up grades. with the dictionary apps, calculator, and the entire educational section of the app store. if you need to make an emergency call when your walking to school. say if you fell and hurt your leg or something. just saying everybody on here is WAY too over protective. seriously guys. put yourself in our shoes. if you have phones, we should have phones too. man ur kids must really be mad at you guys. all i have to say is thumbs down.

[daycare]

you guys are totally over protective!!! your daughter most likeley has a crush on a boy at school, and beleive me it is super hard to talk to your crush face to face. SO... just like i do, i text him! and if my mom ever took my phone away, we would loose contact and i would be really depressed. and i mean... seriously. if you are a teenage girl, you should defanetly have a phone by the age of 13.even with a phone, it is esier to bump up grades. with the dictionary apps, calculator, and the entire educational section of the app store. if you need to make an emergency call when your walking to school. say if you fell and hurt your leg or something. just saying everybody on here is WAY too over protective. seriously guys. put yourself in our shoes. if you have phones, we should have phones too. man ur kids must really be mad at you guys. all i have to say is thumbs down.

And who pays for your phone bill monthly ???

[My3cents]

And who pays for your phone bill monthly ???

That is the problem with kids today, they feel they should be entitled little adults.

This post is old- but it was funny to read again.

I feel a phone and a teen is the preference of the adult paying the bill.

[daycarediva]

you guys are totally over protective!!! your daughter most likeley has a crush on a boy at school, and beleive me it is super hard to talk to your crush face to face. SO... just like i do, i text him! and if my mom ever took my phone away, we would loose contact and i would be really depressed. and i mean... seriously. if you are a teenage girl, you should defanetly have a phone by the age of 13.even with a phone, it is esier to bump up grades. with the dictionary apps, calculator, and the entire educational section of the app store. if you need to make an emergency call when your walking to school. say if you fell and hurt your leg or something. just saying everybody on here is WAY too over protective. seriously guys. put yourself in our shoes. if you have phones, we should have phones too. man ur kids must really be mad at you guys. all i have to say is thumbs down.

http://www.d-e-f-i-n-i-t-e-l-y.com/

http://public.wsu.edu/~brians/errors/your.html

Thumbs down for your terrible grammar, punctuation and spelling.
Thumbs down for your entitled attitude.


I am 30, my daughter is 13. When *I* was 13, there were no cell phones, so if I had a 'crush' everyone actually used words and spoke face to face to communicate.

My 13yo has an iphone. I have limits on it (not at meals, off during school hours, no phone after 10). If her grades fall below 90%, she loses it until I see an improvement. That has never happened. She is in AP classes (taking 10th grade math & science in 8th grade), volunteers at an animal shelter and has an active social life.

She would NEVER dream of feeling entitled to have her phone. She bought and paid for it herself with money earned from doing odd jobs around the neighborhood, & babysitting. She pays for her phone's internet plan every month HERSELF.

I also drink alcohol when we go out to dinner, drive a car, all of those things my 13 yo cannot yet do. So, just because I have a cell phone does not mean that my daughter is ENTITLED to have one as well.

[daycare]

Hahahah the girl fell into a trap!! Not the best place for a teen to voice her sense of entitlement. Hahah

I posted this thread long ago about my daughter. Who by the way. Still has a Go-phone. She can't pay the bill for her iPhone so it's collecting dust.

[Patches]

I also drink alcohol when we go out to dinner, drive a car, .

and then what?

:: I had to reread this sentence a couple times because I kept thinking you were talking about drinking and driving and I was wondering, "why is she drinking and driving? And what does this have to do with teenagers having cell phones?"

[momofsix]

I posted this thread long ago about my daughter. Who by the way. Still has a Go-phone. She can't pay the bill for her iPhone so it's collecting dust.

Just an FYI, my 2 youngest (15 & 16) each have old hand-me-down iPhones They pay nothing monthly at all but still get wireless wherever they can find it for free (home, most stores/malls etc.) They also have a free texting app that allows texting just like if they had a plan. All for free! The only thing they can't do is talk

[itlw8]

I would have said no but many home have no landline andkids are home with no phone. Many schools still say no phones.

Does she need an I phone ? no.a cellphone maybe.

Do you have a plan on HOW she can get her grades up? so did she lose the phone for back talk or low grades. the punishment should fit the crime and one you can stick too. back talk. weekend with no phone is reasonable if it is constant and not one time.



dang fell for the old post again