A Serious WWYD?

[hcmom]

Ok, So I talked to the owners. They said that there has never been molestation is their 38 years of service. They said that what it sounds like my BIL is saying is "slander" and that he could be sued by it.

Also, DBug, DH called and asked for the numbers of the families and BIL would not give them up. :confused:

[sahm2three]

Personally I am not willing to take chances like that with my kids, so I would at the VERY least, talk to the daycare directer and teachers and talk to your son about good touch and bad touch, and that he should tell you if anyone ever tries to touch him. I would honestly err on the side of caution and look elsewhere. I know rumors are rumors, but I would NEVER forgive myself if something happened to my child when I knew about what was being said! Good luck in your decision!

[DBug]

Also, DBug, DH called and asked for the numbers of the families and BIL would not give them up. :confused:

In that case, I wouldn't believe a word he said.

There's always a chance that anywhere you send your child could be dangerous to some degree, and there's always a chance a child predator will be around. I think you should go and either make some surprise visits, or stick around for a morning if possible. That way you can get a feel for the staff. I'm a strong believer in intuition, so if there's anyone you feel uncomfortable about don't dismiss it, but look into that person's work history, ask the other staff about them, etc. And for my kids, I've always avoided the "don't talk to strangers" routine, and told them to get away from ANYONE that makes them feel uncomfortable (scares them, makes their tummy feel funny, gives them goosebumps, etc), and then tell me or Daddy.

Good luck! It's hard enough to find good care, without people planting seeds of doubt in your mind! I hope everything works out.

[jen]

I say go with your gut, if you have a nagging doubt (more than the usual that we all have when we entrust our children to someone else) then save yourself the worry and go elsewhere.

Personally, I think that BIL's story is highly suspicious. I can't imagine, as a parent, not doing everything in my power to shut that place down if my child were molested...Plus, seriously, there are FOUR families and they ALL know your BIL and NONE of them would report and you can't speak to ANY of them???

And, as a police officer he's OK with that?

[MarinaVanessa]

Personally, I think that BIL's story is highly suspicious. I can't imagine, as a parent, not doing everything in my power to shut that place down if my child were molested...Plus, seriously, there are FOUR families and they ALL know your BIL and NONE of them would report and you can't speak to ANY of them???

I think so to, and like i said the fact that both SIL and BIL have different versions of the same story adds to the suspicion. I think it was a rumor that was heard and blown up or started by a disgruntled parent or past worker (it happens a lot). If someone that has no children going to a daycare center knows about this issue and parents of the children that go to the daycare center don't or choose to take their kids there makes me think that the story is nothing more than a that, a story.