WWYD - Request While You Are ASLEEP

[momofboys]

Yesterday DCF 1 called me in the evening @ 7:30 pm to let me know they were not coming at the normal drop-off time today (typically 6:40-6:45 am - I made them change it from 6:20 last week!). DCD said he was taking his SA child to school then dropping off his pre-schooler at my home about 9:00 am. I'm thinking YAY - b/c I don't have my other family Tues & now I can sleep in until at least 7:20 & get my own kids up & off to school. happyface

This morning at 6:35 am:confused::confused: DCD calls & I like a dummy answer, well the phone woke me up. & he asks if he can still bring the kids & I was totally confused (probably b/c I was half-asleep) & then he asks if he can bring them at 7:30 am. How would you have responded? Technically his hours are 6:45 am - 5:00 pm but come on he told me LAST night he was coming at 9:00 & now at 6:40 am he wants to come earlier. Ughhhh - I did say yes it was okay but was wondering what you would have done.

[Blackcat31]

Yesterday DCF 1 called me in the evening @ 7:30 pm to let me know they were not coming at the normal drop-off time today (typically 6:40-6:45 am - I made them change it from 6:20 last week!). DCD said he was taking his SA child to school then dropping off his pre-schooler at my home about 9:00 am. I'm thinking YAY - b/c I don't have my other family Tues & now I can sleep in until at least 7:20 & get my own kids up & off to school. happyface

This morning at 6:35 am:confused::confused: DCD calls & I like a dummy answer, well the phone woke me up. & he asks if he can still bring the kids & I was totally confused (probably b/c I was half-asleep) & then he asks if he can bring them at 7:30 am. How would you have responded? Technically his hours are 6:45 am - 5:00 pm but come on he told me LAST night he was coming at 9:00 & now at 6:40 am he wants to come earlier. Ughhhh - I did say yes it was okay but was wondering what you would have done.

"Sorry, DCD but you already gave notice of the schedule change so I won't be able to accommodate you until the 9:00 like you said."

[momofboys]

"Sorry, DCD but you already gave notice of the schedule change so I won't be able to accommodate you until the 9:00 like you said."

Why is it so hard for me to say what I want to say?!?!? I know this is how I should have responded but that is not what came out of my mouth.

[sharlan]

Since it was within his normal scheduled time, I would have said yes.

[MarinaVanessa]

I always let the phone ring (put my phone on vibrate) and don't answer. Then I wait to see if they leave a voicemail or send me a text to see what they want. If they want to drop off early like this or generally anything else that I'm unwilling to do I just don't get back to them until later. I have calling hours for this though and a policy about how changes need to be made 24 hours in advance and approved by me. They know that they can call before 7:30 am, after 6:30 p.m. and on weekends all they want but I may not answer them until I get a chance.

Calling at 6:30 am is one of those times that I'm doing something, anything, that unables me to return your call ... like sleeping.

Of course if they are regularly there at this time and I was already up I would respond that I had made arrangements to take my DD to school and give him a window of time that the child could be dropped off. Like before I left to take DD to school or after I got back.

[Springdaze]

I would have said yes. at least he called and let you know. sometimes things come up and they are not doing it to be a pain.

[momofboys]

I would have said yes. at least he called and let you know. sometimes things come up and they are not doing it to be a pain.

I do know why he changed it - their home is for sale & the reason he was dropping off later was initially b/c he was going to go to work later - he was planning on cleaning up the house to make it ready for the viewing. I'm guessing he decided at 6:30 in the morning that the house needed more of his time & that's fine but I need more warning than that. You can't change your time on Monday evening & then decide you want to change it back with less than 60 min notice!

[momofboys]

I always let the phone ring (put my phone on vibrate) and don't answer. Then I wait to see if they leave a voicemail or send me a text to see what they want. If they want to drop off early like this or generally anything else that I'm unwilling to do I just don't get back to them until later. I have calling hours for this though and a policy about how changes need to be made 24 hours in advance and approved by me. They know that they can call before 7:30 am, after 6:30 p.m. and on weekends all they want but I may not answer them until I get a chance.

Calling at 6:30 am is one of those times that I'm doing something, anything, that unables me to return your call ... like sleeping.

Of course if they are regularly there at this time and I was already up I would respond that I had made arrangements to take my DD to school and give him a window of time that the child could be dropped off. Like before I left to take DD to school or after I got back.

[MarinaVanessa]

I would have said yes. at least he called and let you know. sometimes things come up and they are not doing it to be a pain.

I get what you are saying, I really do. Don't get me wrong because this client is supposed to be there at that time ... however the client requested to change the time and the provider made arrangement and plans around this and then the client called at 6:30am to change it again. What could possibly come up at 6:30am that could not have been addressed the day before?

I mean I don't really know but I'm pretty sure that whatever plans changed he could have asked her the day before KWIM? Unless of course he just got called in to work at the last minute.

I guess my thing is the notice. I don't like being notified of changes at the last minute especially during the very VERY early morning hours. I'd rather be told the day before even if it's a call or text at 9:00 p.m. I don't want to be bothered with DC stuff after or before a certain time, that's my personal time KWIM? I plan my day around how many kids will be here during certain times and it's a dissapointment when you plan something special and realize at the last minute that now you can't do it.

[DaisyMamma]

I would have said yes and regretted it later, like you.
But most likely I wouldn't have answered to begin with. At least he called.

[itlw8]

yeah I would have said yes then kicked myself.

[Angelwings36]

I would have said no. I wouldn't have answered either though and my families know not to call my phone (only text or email) outside of their contracted hours. His hours didn't begin until 7:30am that day so he shouldn't have been calling before that time if he needed to. Had I answered I would have told him that there was no way I could accommodate him in that short of notice as I myself have to get ready for the day as well.