Sick Days For Siblings...

[Angelwings36]

Alright ladies I need some advice. This is a situation that has come up many times in the past but I wanted to touch it again.

What do you do when one sibling is sick but the family wants to bring the other child who appears to be well?

I have a sibling family and one child ALWAYS comes when the other is ill even though one of the parents is home.

Also since I have allowed this family to bring the other non-sick child on days when their other child is sick several times in the past how could I go about changing that now without causing a conflict?

Thanks.

[momma2girls]

I just added a sibling clause to my contract. If you would like the wording , just let me know.

[MsMe]

I had to answer that I DO allow.....but I wish I didn't.

I am going to be re-doing my contract in the few months and I am seriously considering putting this in.

I would love to know how it goes for teh providers that do have this rule.

[Angelwings36]

Momma2girls I would like the wording for the sibling clause if you don't mind.

For everyone: The family that I am having troubles with is a teacher family. I have just under 3 months left with them this school year. So...do I send out a letter now stating the new policy and for what reason? Or do I wait until I re-new their contract in September?

Thanks.

[momma2girls]

I asked on here, about the wording as well- this is what I just added
Sibling clause- If you are staying home with one sick child, please do not bring the well child to daycare. Logic dictates if one child is ill, the well child is carrying whatever the sick child has.

[momma2girls]

Momma2girls I would like the wording for the sibling clause if you don't mind.

For everyone: The family that I am having troubles with is a teacher family. I have just under 3 months left with them this school year. So...do I send out a letter now stating the new policy and for what reason? Or do I wait until I re-new their contract in September?

Thanks.

I am just waiting for Aug and hopefully it will not happen again!! It has already happened twice this yr. one with a fever and another time with diarrhea!!

[Rachel]

I asked on here, about the wording as well- this is what I just added
Sibling clause- If you are staying home with one sick child, please do not bring the well child to daycare. Logic dictates if one child is ill, the well child is carrying whatever the sick child has.

Sorry, but logic does NOT dictate this.

My ds has missed at least 5 days this year he was sick (fever, virus, not all the same illness), none of his 3 sisters has gotten it any time (knock on wood). We were dealing with chicken pox in my house for almost 2 months (there were times in the middle everyone was healthy, but only for a few days, no one overlapped). Should I have kept my kids home for 2 months straight just because there was a sick sibling? Most things are contagious before symptoms are apparent. It's just as likely the sibling picked it up from daycare as s/he picked it up from the home environment.

[momma2girls]

Sorry, but logic does NOT dictate this.

My ds has missed at least 5 days this year he was sick (fever, virus, not all the same illness), none of his 3 sisters has gotten it any time (knock on wood). We were dealing with chicken pox in my house for almost 2 months (there were times in the middle everyone was healthy, but only for a few days, no one overlapped). Should I have kept my kids home for 2 months straight just because there was a sick sibling? Most things are contagious before symptoms are apparent. It's just as likely the sibling picked it up from daycare as s/he picked it up from the home environment.

I found the wording off someone else's contract here. Logic does dictate, they must likely are carrying the same thing- it happened twice to me, just this yr alone. The one family brought sibling here, when other one had a fever the day before, and she couldn't return the next day. So here comes baby brother thru the door at reg. drop off time. THey were called 2 hrs after he got here, he had a fever as well. Then one sibling had diarrhea the day before, and now bringing the other child, that was only an hr. they received a call on it. Then both times, all 3 of my children had diarrhea, and the fever and I had it. That is when I said enough is enough!! I also had to take a day off, because of it, unpaid!!

[familyschoolcare]

My worry about a sibling clause is that parents will stop comunicating the whole truth. If a parent whants to bring the "well" child then they could just

say that DCD, DCM, grandma, grandpa, a favorite auntie or uncle ect. was spending a "special" day with the "sick" child and not even tell you that the

child is sick. I think is even worse than sending the well child and tell you the child is sick. for those that have this clause how has it worked for you.

[momma2girls]

My worry about a sibling clause is that parents will stop comunicating the whole truth. If a parent whants to bring the "well" child then they could just

say that DCD, DCM, grandma, grandpa, a favorite auntie or uncle ect. was spending a "special" day with the "sick" child and not even tell you that the

child is sick. I think is even worse than sending the well child and tell you the child is sick. for those that have this clause how has it worked for you.

yep, I had one tell me that the child was tired that am, so we just stayed home with him. UGH!!! I told them right to their face, he just wouldn't be tired and you keeping him home!! The next day sure enough, brought him and ended up vomiting and had diarrhea, and got everyone in the entire daycare sick

[wdmmom]

I just added a sibling clause to my contract. If you would like the wording , just let me know.

I am adding this to my contract. Can you PM me the wording. Thanks!

[Blackcat31]

So those of you who do exclude for sibling illnesses, how do you mange the older sibs that are in school if you don't take SA kids normally?

What about if a parent is sick?

I don't have a sibling sickness clause as I personally see no point since most my parents are teachers and or nurses/hospital staff and lord knows the stuff they are exposed to on a daily basis so I think it would be impossible for me to know exactly where an illness started. School, the clinic, Wal-mart, grocery store, even daycare.

I am RARELY sick but I bet I can and could be a carrier of illnesses just from the places I go so for me, having a sibling sickness clause wouldn't work.

Also IME, I have had many many kids have a sick sibling and never get sick themseves. Not all kids are the same. My DD gets strep throat if you say the word, but my DS have never ever had it in all his 20 years of life so as a parent, I would have been mad if my provider had required my son to stay home every time my DD was sick.

I usually got my MIL to watch my DD when she was sick so there would be no way I would have asked her to care for both my kids when one wasn't even sick in the first place.

[momma2girls]

I am adding this to my contract. Can you PM me the wording. Thanks!

I added it up above-

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

So those of you who do exclude for sibling illnesses, how do you mange the older sibs that are in school if you don't take SA kids normally?

What about if a parent is sick?

I don't have a sibling sickness clause as I personally see no point since most my parents are teachers and or nurses/hospital staff and lord knows the stuff they are exposed to on a daily basis so I think it would be impossible for me to know exactly where an illness started. School, the clinic, Wal-mart, grocery store, even daycare.

I am RARELY sick but I bet I can and could be a carrier of illnesses just from the places I go so for me, having a sibling sickness clause wouldn't work.

Also IME, I have had many many kids have a sick sibling and never get sick themseves. Not all kids are the same. My DD gets strep throat if you say the word, but my DS have never ever had it in all his 20 years of life so as a parent, I would have been mad if my provider had required my son to stay home every time my DD was sick.

I usually got my MIL to watch my DD when she was sick so there would be no way I would have asked her to care for both my kids when one wasn't even sick in the first place.

I don't for the same reason.

[snbauser]

I do not have this clause for 2 reasons - 1) just because one gets sick, doesn't mean the other one will. I have 3 boys of my own and the number of times that they catch the same thing is very slim. and 2) when a child is sick, they need more attention from their parents and the parent should be free to attend to the sick child and not have to worry about the other child(ren).