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Sorry for the vent and sorry this will be long. I am just at my wit's end and have to get the frustration out somewhere! I am so annoyed today that I am in the worst mood ever.
So, today's issue: I have to work. It's that simple. I didn't take it off and I have to work, my own fault. But, here's the story, and it's just a vent. I have one DCK whose parents are working today and the rest are not. On Monday, I asked who would be coming and who would not, knowing that they would probably all be here. Well, to my surprise, 3 of my 5 families said they were not coming today. One family (the ones working) said they would be here, and the final family did not respond. At some point, working family asked if their daughter would be the only one here. I told her I was still waiting to hear from the other family but not to worry about it. DCM said that she felt bad (she didn't need to) and to find out if the other family was coming. She said if they were not, she would rearrange her schedule so she could be here by noon (super nice of her and not necessary.) So, I sent a text to the final family confirming that they would be here on Friday. Mom replied and asked if her kids were the only ones, and I told her no that DCG was still coming for at least half a day. Keep in mind, that neither parent in this remaining family is working today. The mom replied saying that she would keep her kids home since it's my birthday (it is) so I could have a quiet day. Yay, hip hip hooray for me, a half day on my birthday and only one DCG!
Well, then, she sent another text that said to just let her make sure she didn't have to work. I got a text a little bit later saying that she didn't have to work and she would keep her kids home. So, that night, I ran into the first DCG's grandma at church (the one coming half a day). Grandma says, "Hey, did 'DCM' tell you the good news? Since 'DCG' is your only kid on Friday I am going to take her so you can have the day off. Happy Birthday, I hope you have a great day!" Woohoo! A day off for me. DCM confirms that grandma is indeed taking DCG and I have the day off! That night, in talking with DH about Easter, I agree to host brunch for his entire family on Sunday (they plan things really last minute) since I have Friday off to clean and grocery shop.
The next morning is when I start getting a little upset. Mom #2 (not working-keeping kids home) calls and says she would like to go to the doctor and might need daycare. She has an appt. scheduled on Monday, and might just CHANGE it to Friday so she might be bringing the kids. I told her to let me know asap because now I have no other daycare kids and am making plans for the day. She tells me that she probably won't go to the doctor...okay...so I still have the day off???? The next morning, there is no mention of the doctor anymore but she says they might still come and she will let me know. Yesterday afternoon, she says that her car isn't working (this is excuse #3 if you are keeping track) and she might have to bring them so she can get it fixed. She leaves saying that she might HAVE to keep them home if she doesn't have a car. Well, lo and behold, a few hours later she posts on facebook that the car situation is resolved. Then, at 9:00 last night, she sends me a text "The kids will definitely be there tomorrow. I am going to meet with my boss at 10. Thanks!" (yes, that is excuse #4 now)
So, here I am, with her kids. Yes, this mom only works 2 days per week and today isn't one of them. Yes, the dad is probably at home playing video games. Yes, these parents always bring their kids every day when mom is home 3 days/week. Yes, dad works for the major university in town and doesn't work when there's no school and always spends the day playing video games. Yes, dad was home an entire week on spring break a few weeks ago and 3 of 5 days the kids were here AFTER I closed because he just couldn't get here in time while he was home (late fee? no problem, we'll pay it!) Yes, mom has been off this entire week and could have fixed the car, gone to the doctor, met with the boss, ANY DAY THIS WEEK! Yes, I REALLY needed a break from one of her children who is having major behavioral issues (that excuse, according to mom, is that she doesn't get to see mom enough because of mom's work schedule #or the fact that she spends 50 hours a week in daycare when mom's work schedule only accounts for 16 of those hours#). Yes, these are the same kids who used to be here from 9-5 every day and now are suddenly here from 7:45-5:45 (I close at 5:30) every day. And yes, she confirmed at least twice that the kids would NOT be here today.
It doesn't help that I am way stressed. I would have normally taken the day off knowing that no one is working, but I'm still feeling guilty for taking Christmas week and New Years week off. Yes, I took it mostly unpaid and yes, I had a baby that week, but I still got complaints because the parents had to watch their own kids while they were off of work. I took a 10 day unpaid maternity leave and I think I will be paying for it forever. The kids have been rotten lately, adding to my stress, and I swear that their only mission while here is to beat the crap out of each other. My sweet kids and my well planned, activity-filled days, have turned into violent children and me just trying to be the peace keeper and keeping them from hurting each other all day. I could have used the break, but I feel guilty.
Then there is the fact that my weekend is CRAZY. I am now working today, then going to church, then trying to squeeze egg dying (my kids one request) in before bed so that I can clean my house for Easter. Tomorrow we leave the house at 6:45am for an Easter egg hunt at SIL's work, then 2 kids birthday parties (11-2 and 3-7), then home to grocery shop and cook. Then Sunday, leave at 8am for church, have DH's family waiting at our house when we get back for me to host brunch, then trying to get to my mom's for dinner before coming home to do my lesson plan and grocery shopping for daycare and cleaning my house from hosting brunch. It's my birthday, and I honestly don't even have time to think about it...not that my family cares. There will be no cake, no dinner out, etc. because THERE IS NO TIME and NO ONE CARES!!!!
Blech....I told you that would be long...but I already feel MUCH better! Thanks!
So, today's issue: I have to work. It's that simple. I didn't take it off and I have to work, my own fault. But, here's the story, and it's just a vent. I have one DCK whose parents are working today and the rest are not. On Monday, I asked who would be coming and who would not, knowing that they would probably all be here. Well, to my surprise, 3 of my 5 families said they were not coming today. One family (the ones working) said they would be here, and the final family did not respond. At some point, working family asked if their daughter would be the only one here. I told her I was still waiting to hear from the other family but not to worry about it. DCM said that she felt bad (she didn't need to) and to find out if the other family was coming. She said if they were not, she would rearrange her schedule so she could be here by noon (super nice of her and not necessary.) So, I sent a text to the final family confirming that they would be here on Friday. Mom replied and asked if her kids were the only ones, and I told her no that DCG was still coming for at least half a day. Keep in mind, that neither parent in this remaining family is working today. The mom replied saying that she would keep her kids home since it's my birthday (it is) so I could have a quiet day. Yay, hip hip hooray for me, a half day on my birthday and only one DCG!
Well, then, she sent another text that said to just let her make sure she didn't have to work. I got a text a little bit later saying that she didn't have to work and she would keep her kids home. So, that night, I ran into the first DCG's grandma at church (the one coming half a day). Grandma says, "Hey, did 'DCM' tell you the good news? Since 'DCG' is your only kid on Friday I am going to take her so you can have the day off. Happy Birthday, I hope you have a great day!" Woohoo! A day off for me. DCM confirms that grandma is indeed taking DCG and I have the day off! That night, in talking with DH about Easter, I agree to host brunch for his entire family on Sunday (they plan things really last minute) since I have Friday off to clean and grocery shop.
The next morning is when I start getting a little upset. Mom #2 (not working-keeping kids home) calls and says she would like to go to the doctor and might need daycare. She has an appt. scheduled on Monday, and might just CHANGE it to Friday so she might be bringing the kids. I told her to let me know asap because now I have no other daycare kids and am making plans for the day. She tells me that she probably won't go to the doctor...okay...so I still have the day off???? The next morning, there is no mention of the doctor anymore but she says they might still come and she will let me know. Yesterday afternoon, she says that her car isn't working (this is excuse #3 if you are keeping track) and she might have to bring them so she can get it fixed. She leaves saying that she might HAVE to keep them home if she doesn't have a car. Well, lo and behold, a few hours later she posts on facebook that the car situation is resolved. Then, at 9:00 last night, she sends me a text "The kids will definitely be there tomorrow. I am going to meet with my boss at 10. Thanks!" (yes, that is excuse #4 now)
So, here I am, with her kids. Yes, this mom only works 2 days per week and today isn't one of them. Yes, the dad is probably at home playing video games. Yes, these parents always bring their kids every day when mom is home 3 days/week. Yes, dad works for the major university in town and doesn't work when there's no school and always spends the day playing video games. Yes, dad was home an entire week on spring break a few weeks ago and 3 of 5 days the kids were here AFTER I closed because he just couldn't get here in time while he was home (late fee? no problem, we'll pay it!) Yes, mom has been off this entire week and could have fixed the car, gone to the doctor, met with the boss, ANY DAY THIS WEEK! Yes, I REALLY needed a break from one of her children who is having major behavioral issues (that excuse, according to mom, is that she doesn't get to see mom enough because of mom's work schedule #or the fact that she spends 50 hours a week in daycare when mom's work schedule only accounts for 16 of those hours#). Yes, these are the same kids who used to be here from 9-5 every day and now are suddenly here from 7:45-5:45 (I close at 5:30) every day. And yes, she confirmed at least twice that the kids would NOT be here today.
It doesn't help that I am way stressed. I would have normally taken the day off knowing that no one is working, but I'm still feeling guilty for taking Christmas week and New Years week off. Yes, I took it mostly unpaid and yes, I had a baby that week, but I still got complaints because the parents had to watch their own kids while they were off of work. I took a 10 day unpaid maternity leave and I think I will be paying for it forever. The kids have been rotten lately, adding to my stress, and I swear that their only mission while here is to beat the crap out of each other. My sweet kids and my well planned, activity-filled days, have turned into violent children and me just trying to be the peace keeper and keeping them from hurting each other all day. I could have used the break, but I feel guilty.
Then there is the fact that my weekend is CRAZY. I am now working today, then going to church, then trying to squeeze egg dying (my kids one request) in before bed so that I can clean my house for Easter. Tomorrow we leave the house at 6:45am for an Easter egg hunt at SIL's work, then 2 kids birthday parties (11-2 and 3-7), then home to grocery shop and cook. Then Sunday, leave at 8am for church, have DH's family waiting at our house when we get back for me to host brunch, then trying to get to my mom's for dinner before coming home to do my lesson plan and grocery shopping for daycare and cleaning my house from hosting brunch. It's my birthday, and I honestly don't even have time to think about it...not that my family cares. There will be no cake, no dinner out, etc. because THERE IS NO TIME and NO ONE CARES!!!!
Blech....I told you that would be long...but I already feel MUCH better! Thanks!
happy birthday! I hope you get it all done and get to enjoy your special day some how! Some people can be so selfish 
). Don't feel bad about taking a day, especially when it will not even affect anyone's actual work. I had to take my own kids with me to appointments all the time when I was not working. It is called "being a mom" 
.... These holiday weekends can really be no picnic when they are so busy!
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