Uggg What Would You Do?

[SimpleMom]

I think this may be your whole problem with him. The parents aren't together, too many chiefs for one little indian. Too many different rules for him to deal with.

Well put Sharlan. I had a little one like this before (ok, I've had a few)
I just found an amazing theory/book about tough little kiddos. May/may not work for this little guy. I tried it on my current "toughy" and it has made a WORLD of difference in just a short while.

It's called Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser.

Great stuff.

In the mean time I think if you needed a break and the others did as well, you did the right thing. I have to say that in my experience every time but maybe once the child was "rewarded" by McDonalds or something else fun when I have sent them home. So, I really try hard not to do that anymore and if it's the case that I really need to do that a lot, then I let them go.

Anyhow, don't worry. You can't control how parent's react when needing to pick up a child that's misbehaving.

[anicks]

Well put Sharlan. I had a little one like this before (ok, I've had a few)
I just found an amazing theory/book about tough little kiddos. May/may not work for this little guy. I tried it on my current "toughy" and it has made a WORLD of difference in just a short while.

It's called Transforming the Difficult Child by Howard Glasser.

Great stuff.

In the mean time I think if you needed a break and the others did as well, you did the right thing. I have to say that in my experience every time but maybe once the child was "rewarded" by McDonalds or something else fun when I have sent them home. So, I really try hard not to do that anymore and if it's the case that I really need to do that a lot, then I let them go.

Anyhow, don't worry. You can't control how parent's react when needing to pick up a child that's misbehaving.

I just ordered the book thanks for the info! I'm glad I sent him home yesterday, his Gma text me and said he has it drilled into his head to follow MissA**** direction and be nice to the other kids. We are going to work on a sticker chart little boy and I so he is involved with his reward and consequences chart. So far today has been awesome!

[My3cents]

I totally agree but when its -20 out we cant go outside and its still -20 in the morning so we have to wait until it warms up in the afternoon for outside play. I have removed him from others, I have done the reward thing with him, I have done time out with him, I have done just about everything I can think of and still he is difficult. I only sent him home today because he has been doing this for 2 weeks and the first part of this week. He is the only child I have ever sent home after 4 years of doing home daycare so that is the last resort for me. How much do you allow one child to disrupt the whole before your sanity is in question. I have asked what they want me to do and the parents jokingly say put him outside for a few seconds he will change his mind about being mean real fast. I can't do that and wont do that its to cold outside for that.

I try to figure it out the best I can I am a home daycare and its my home so I will not allow a child to beat up other children. I am good at what I do. They can bite spit and knock me around (they don't they know better) all they want but when it comes to the other children I will not tolerate them. And when I start to dislike the job I love because of one little person I know its time for me to have a break from that little person.

If its -20 below........hello. Don't let the parents tell you that you need to take the child outside to play. Sounds like your on the right track. Tell the parents, when they are trying to pin this all on you that until they come to a decision that they want to be part of solving the problems that you don't feel your daycare is in the best interest of their child. I see more clearly where your coming from and you did the right thing calling them. Let them know in four years you have never let a child go.....put it back on them. Good luck and hang in there- still shaking my head at the parents wanting you to bring out the kiddo's out in that type of weather. Hope this all works out for you-update when and if you can

[WImom]

I think this may be your whole problem with him. The parents aren't together, too many chiefs for one little indian. Too many different rules for him to deal with.

I'm going to say that's the problem too. I have Dcg 3 that is in the same boat with her behavior here, mom and dad not together so she has me plus both of them with probably all different rules. She sees mom and dad everyday so it also switches with her alot (Mom picks up and keeps overnight and drops off, then dad picks up, keeps her overnight, drops off, etc)