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So today one of my DCG's bites another DCG very hard and you can see the bite mark and brusing on this poor babies hand. this has haooened before and i have talked to the DCG who bites parents... they say she never does that... blah blah blah. i am really upset to tell this mom AGAIN that her child was bitten by the same DCG except harder this time... i am stressed.. i cant afford to lose this child .dont know what to do... any advice would help alot.
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You should not be disclosing the biter's name. Just say, "I'm sorry to inform you that dcg was bitten today." If they ask who, just say, "I cannot share the name of the biter."
You and biter's parents need a meeting TODAY to set up a real plan to deal with this. Share this plan with the victim's parents.Comment
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I was in the kitchen cooking lunch for the children and dcg's were sitting next to each other and the DCG who got bit likes to be all over everyone and the kids dont like it so the other dcg bit her .Comment
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What should she do if she only has two kids and it's obvious who bit who?
This is a sensitive subject. I would be mad if i was the victims's parent.
I think the parent of the kid who got bit has a right to know it was the same kid who bit the baby before.
I understand you're stressed, I would be too. Ultimately it's the biters parents fault for not nipping this in the bud at home. If this kid bites at daycare you KNOW they bite at home!
Good luck! Hugs to you
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yes i only have these 2 kids!!! so its obvious. i agree that the parent should know, im stressed and so tired of her biting i put her in a time out but i dont think she really cares, she keeps on doing it. and according to the mom the biter is an "Angel" at home ( she recently moved in with grandparents) i honestly think that is the reason shes become so bratty. grrrrr .. thanks i hope all goes well because i know id be very upset if thiis was my child. i dont even know what to say :/What should she do if she only has two kids and it's obvious who bit who?
This is a sensitive subject. I would be mad if i was the victims's parent.
I think the parent of the kid who got bit has a right to know it was the same kid who bit the baby before.
I understand you're stressed, I would be too. Ultimately it's the biters parents fault for not nipping this in the bud at home. If this kid bites at daycare you KNOW they bite at home!
Good luck! Hugs to youComment
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Biting is not ok but getting in each others space isn't either. I would be talking to both sets of parents and letting them know what happened. Let the space invaders parents know that the kids don't like her in their faces and she also needs to stop what she is doing.Each day is a fresh start
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Hopefully the mom doesn't get too upset. Biting can be an unfortunate part of daycare.
Both of my boys were horrible biters, nothing seemed to work. Finally, they've outgrown it.Comment
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If you are a regulated provider of any sort, you cannot disclose the biter's name to the bitten or vice-versa for confidenialities sake. Of course, they all figure it out anyway.
Biting happens VERY quickly. Try to keep space when you can. If one is "all over the other" at meal prep, move them apart.
One thing that has worked with a biter we had was to give her a teether on a pacifier strap. If she tries to bite, a firm "NO bite this....", and handing her the teether may redirect her to something that IS acceptable to bite.
Most biters do stop once they are old enough to articulate, but it's just so uncomfortable until then!Comment
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How many kids do you have in daycare?
For me I have 4 boys.
I have 1 bitter among them that bits the 2nd youngest but is the biggest out of all of them. You would thing that this bitter would be afraid of the size of the biggest one and maybe he is bc he resorts to biting if he's upset. It's like its a warning...
!! Ok, not funny but this bigger child is prone to creating mischief.
Now we have been working hard on using our words. The bitter has bitten this guy 3 times in my daycare. 2 times was over the bigger child taking a toy from the biter and he got up set and attacked him..with is teeth. The last time was close to what you said happened to you. I was making lunch and and started to hear them both yelling..I go in and check around the corner and both boys are sprawled on the ground arguing over a toy. We've had some attempts at biting recently also but the bigger child I think has had enough bc he is quick to pull his arm away and shove the other child away if he makes to bit his arm. He normally will grab is arm and pull it to him so now this older child will yell and tell him not to try biting him and with me there I can usually get in between. I send the bitter to time out and then talk to both parents. The parents of the bitter are always embarrassed and remorseful but they can't do much bc they aren't there to discipline that is up to me the moment it happens. We discuss it here about biting and I think I finally got it a crossed to this little guy that we need to use our words and not bit when we are mad. It's been a good 2 wks so far!! The other parents have been really supportive and not overly upset. She's a teacher so she is understanding and layed back about it. Not to mention the bits have only been teeth marks on the skin and leave a indention not bruising or blood. They haven't been that bad...thank goodness!! I do tell the parents which child bit who as there is only a couple kids the same age and the other one is a baby. They know who is with out wondering.Comment
maybe she deserved it! Just kidding, it's never ok to bite but then again I've had kids like that, that are all over other kids and it's very annoying for EVERYONE!
i just feel so bad for the little girl 
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