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    Logged out: Hard first month

    I feel exhausted after the first month.

    I pushed back opening day by 1 day in order to go to court for our son (not biologically ours). We have most of his biological family's support, and are in a battle with his biological mother who benefitted financially from having him. It went well, a retraining order was reissued, and we had a trial scheduled for a couple of months later to finalize everything. That will be coming up in the near future.

    On opening day, I found out my baby no longer had a heartbeat.
    The following week, I delivered the baby in the middle of the night. This is where all of my blood loss occurred, and I was exhausted the next day. My husband stayed home and was my stand-by assistant. I delivered the placenta in the middle of the day while doing an activity! I had to RUN myself to the restroom.

    We discovered that my husband's job won't be open for the summer and scrambled to figure out a way to stay afloat for 3 months (since most of our savings went towards paying our bills after I was fired for being pregnant, daycare items, and the lawyer).
    I advertised my hiney off. Many folks were interested, two came and toured (one that would like a whole lot of special), and one signed up. Fantastic! We will make it through the summer! I will be doing more advertising in the next two weeks.
    I, already, had to stand up to a family who was attempting to use me for all I was worth.

    Whew! What a month March was. I am exhausted. Someone tell me it will get easier (lie if you must).
  • Blackcat31
    • Oct 2010
    • 36124

    #2
    Wow! You sound as if you breezed right through all that! I can't imagine the stress you must be under! (((hugs))) to you for your loss and good wishes and prayers sent in regards to your son and finalizing all of the details. It definitely takes a special person to adopt and you sound like a very special person, so I am sure things will go well if you continue to have faith!

    Things WILL get better and that isn't a lie!

    Keep having the positive attitude and you will surely see a bit of sunshine through all this rain! Hang in there as God has a plan for everyone and I am sure yours will include much happiness!

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    • Country Kids
      Nature Lover
      • Mar 2011
      • 5051

      #3
      I'm very, very sorry you had such a rough month-. You had alot of things going on with your personal life so I can see how you are feeling discouraged. It will get better but it will take some time, not a overnight quick fix.

      I know you logged out but if you would like to talk about anything please feel free to pm me. I have been through the lose of a child at 5 months along, delivering was something I will never forget and then still trying to stay positive through it all. I am willing to talk to you if you need an ear.

      Hope you have a wonderful rest of the day-
      Each day is a fresh start
      Never look back on regrets
      Live life to the fullest
      We only get one shot at this!!

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      • Crystal
        Advanced Daycare.com Member
        • Dec 2009
        • 4002

        #4
        Wow, I am so sorry that you have had so much happen in such a short time. I am also very sorry for your loss

        Yes, it will get better. Just take it one day at a time, make sure you stand up for yourself with parents who try to take advantage (they tend to respect you ALOT more if you can stand up to them, in a professional manner, which makes things MUCH easier.

        Good luck to you, I hope April is a better month for you

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        • SunshineMama
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Jan 2012
          • 1575

          #5
          If you can make it through all that in one month you can make it through anything!

          I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby! Hang in there, it WILL get better. (not lying)

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          • sharlan
            Daycare.com Member
            • May 2011
            • 6067

            #6
            You have had such a rough month, next month should be a lot easier.

            Thoughts, prayers, and hugs coming your way.

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            • CheekyChick
              Daycare.com Member
              • Dec 2009
              • 810

              #7
              I am so sorry to hear about your baby...

              It WILL get better. It truly will.

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              • Christian Mother
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • Feb 2011
                • 875

                #8
                Originally posted by SunshineMama
                If you can make it through all that in one month you can make it through anything!

                I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby! Hang in there, it WILL get better. (not lying)
                Dido this!!

                Things will get better...I can't imagine what you are going through but you sounds SOOO strong to have gone through all that and still speak so positively! I pray you are able to get pregnant again very soon and that your daycare babies will fill you up!! I can not have anymore children and so these children that are with me are a HUGE blessing..I get to hold and cuddle other people's babies!! Know that I am praying for you!!

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